Patrick King - Friendzone Proof: Friendship to Relationship - Cultivate Attraction, Become Desireable, Get the Girl (Dating Advice for Men to Attract Women)

When I was a sophomore in high school, I thought I had it all figured out.

I was in calculus a year early, was the starting right midfielder for the soccer team, and I recently got the best friend label from the girl that I so coveted, Sharon. That was the first step winning her over as my girlfriend , right?

Honestly, I thought I had it in the bag. We had been friends ever since the day we met in the third grade. We sat next to each other during duck, duck, goose and instantly hit it off over the topic of Lunchables and how amazing they were. (I maintain that stance to this day)

In hindsight, it was clear that I always had a crush on her. I treated her so differently from the rest of my normal friends, and gave her a ton of special attention. I bent over backwards for her, and generally catered to her every whim. Some might call this one-itis .

Whether consciously or subconsciously, I thought that she operated on some kind of affection meter . Once her meter was filled up from my acts of service and gestures, I imagined that two things would happen. First , she would begin to realize how much I meant to her, and second , she would realize how much she depended on me in her life and suddenly sexual and romantic attraction would follow .

Welcome to what Ive termed the platonic backdoor gambit . Hint it almost never works, for two main reasons.

First , it depends on the female being a mind-reader. I never asked her out and just depended on her to figure out what I wanted and take action for me.

Second , it assumes that treating a woman like a best friend and becoming emotionally intimate with her keeps you firmly out of the Friendzone. Counterintuitively, it cements your status there if you dont pair that with what women find instinctually attractive.

I got a firsthand look at that when one of my soccer teammates who barely knew Sharon started showing interest and flirting with her in class and after school.

I thought that he had no chance compared to me because I was so emotionally in tuned with her, and knew exactly how to take care of her or so I thought.

He teased her, was playful with her, and generally wasnt attentive to her in the ways that I was. He mostly said whatever he wanted and wasnt always concerned with how he was perceived by her. The biggest shock to me was that I noticed that he would act the same way with most females, and this actually seemed to make them like him more.

All the while, Sharon would tell me that I was such a good friend for listening to her talk about my teammate. It seemed that my platonic backdoor gambit was not paying dividends.

Where did I go wrong? It was pretty simple, actually.

When you present yourself as a friend , women essentially have no choice but to put you in the Friendzone, even if they were initially interested. This is doubly true when you present yourself as a friend, but dont treat her like a normal female friend with the platonic backdoor gambit.

But when you present yourself as a potential mate by making your intentions clear, flirting, and using the power of physical touch, you force women to treat you as such and make an actual choice about how to view you. The important part is that you even give yourself a chance, and that you arent automatically placed into the Friendzone.

That simple mindset shift is what my soccer teammate embodied. And yes, it can be scary as hell when you feel that you will potentially sacrifice your friendship with someone if things dont work out.

But if youve had intentions towards her the entire time, Ive got news for you . You didnt really have the friendship you thought you did, and you dont really know her like you thought you did.

Naturally, this can put some men at a loss. How do you reset years of conditioning about what you thought women wanted, and start presenting yourself as a potential mate? Whats the real difference?

Friendzone Proof has all those answers. Youll read about how you can tell where on the spectrum you fall, and exactly what you can do about it. You can reset expectations with just a different approach. This book is going to change the way you interact with females.

Its a journey that Im intimately familiar with, for better or worse. The pain , the feelings of neglect , and the leaps of faith are all things that seemed like a dark tunnel until I saw the light at the end of the road.

The girl youve always wanted? Theres no reason you cant get her except you .