Dominic Mann - Bad Boys Finish First: How to Stop Being the Nice Guy and Become the Man Women Can’t Resist

Bad Boys Finish First: How to Stop Being the Nice Guy and Become the Man Women Cant Resist

by D. Mann

Table of contents

Bad Boys Finish First: How to Stop Being the Nice Guy and Become the Man Women Cant Resist

Table of contents

Introduction

1. A cavewomans attraction

2. Unattractive behavior

3. Confidence is contagious

4. Unpredictable

5. Chase her and she shall run

6. Investment versus attraction

7. A womans tests

8. Leadership

9. Connecting with women

10. Creating sexual tension

11. Building an emotional connection

12. Getting physical

Conclusion

Introduction

Nice guys finish last.

Its true. Especially when it comes to women.

So why is it that the polite and well-mannered men of this world, who always treat women like royalty, never actually get the girl?

Why does it seem to be that desirable women always end up with assholes or jerks?

We can break this issue down to two basic questions:

First: What is it that women see in so-called assholes and jerks?

Second: Why do women find so-called nice guys so unattractive?

These two questions form the basis of what I am going to answer for you today. Upon completing this book, not only will you understand the biological reasons behind why women find bad boys, assholes, and jerks so damn attractive compared to nice guys, but you will also know how you can have the raw sex appeal of these types of men without actually being a true jerk.

So, without further ado, lets dive right into understanding the inner workings of female attraction.

1. A cavewomans attraction

The question of female attraction is one that millions (if not billions) of men struggle with.

What do women want? they ponder. If only I knew how to attract women. How can I be more attractive?

To find the answer to this age old question, we have to turn back the clock tens of thousands of years. Hundreds of thousands of years, even. So where do we end up?

Somewhere where we dont have the comforts, luxuries and securities of modern day society. In fact, we probably live in a cave somewhere, or in an animal skin shelter. A simple trip outside could be fatal.

Life is dangerous.

To be safe and to survive, women needed strong, dominant men. Women being physically weaker and more vulnerable are instinctively attracted to men who they feel can protect them.

Why?

Well, the women who were not attracted to such men died out. As a result, their genes were not passed on. The only genes passed on were those of women who were naturally attracted to men they felt could protect them.

Beyond just their own welfare, women have evolved to subconsciously seek out men whose genes result in offspring more likely to survive the harsh conditions of nature. In addition to just being biologically more likely to survive, women were attracted to men who they felt could physically protect the offspring and give them the greatest chance of surviving postpartum.

So now we have a bit more understanding of the basis of female attraction. Women are most attracted to a mans behavior, because historically, it was a mans behavior that indicated his ability to protect a woman and her subsequent offspring.

Traditionally, our life purpose has been to pass on our genetic information (reproduce), and women were most attracted to men who provided the highest chance of successfully doing this. In other words, men who make women feel safe and secure.

Because society has advanced so rapidly, evolution has not been able to keep up, and subsequently, our brains are almost exactly the same as they were tens of thousands of years ago.

The result? Women are still instinctively attracted to men who they subconsciously feel would be able to protect them. Not consciously, but subconsciously .

So the key thing to take away here is this: women are attracted to the way you make them feel . And how a woman feels around a man is dictated by his behavior.

In other words, the determining factor of a womans attraction for a man is how he behaves, as this influences how she feels around him.

So, what on earth does this have to do with nice guys?

Everything.

The problem with nice guys is they do not behave in a way that triggers a womans instinctive attraction. A womans cavewoman brain does not subconsciously feel that mating with a nice guy would provide her offspring with the best chance of survival.

Consequently, as harsh as it might be, women are often repulsed by the idea of being sexually involved with a man she considers to be a nice guy. Women will even flat out say I dont think of you that way.

So what is it about the behavior of nice guys that fails to ignite that fiery sexual passion within women?

Why are women so turned off by nice guys?

2. Unattractive behavior

When it comes to sexual interest, the word nice can be a shorthand antonym for bold, strong, sexy and exciting. Instead, nice can be a synonym for needy, weak, predictable and boring.

Lets explore this.

Men often make the mistake of assuming that a womans attraction is the same as that of a man's. In other words, a lot of men assume that women are only interested in how physically attractive a man is.

This logic is flawed, however.

A mans attraction is based on his evolutionary need to reproduce. In order to maximise his chances of successfully reproducing and having offspring that survive, men are attracted to qualities in women that indicate health and fertility.

Why?

Because healthy, fertile women are most likely to successfully give birth to a healthy child that will survive. This is why you fail to be turned on by old ladies. They just arent very good mating partners.

Once a man impregnates a woman, he continues to need her body to grow the child. This is why the physical characteristics of a woman are the basis of all male attraction.

Women, on the other hand, do not need to continue using a mans bodies once they are pregnant. Instead, what offers her the best chance of having her offspring survive is the way a male behaves. Is he a strong, independant, dominant male who can protect her and ensure the survival of the resulting offspring?

All attraction (male and female) comes down to a single basic factor: whether or not a potential mate offers the highest possible chance of successful reproduction.

For men, this means that the woman is young, fertile and healthy.

For women, this means that the man can ensure survival.

We dont consciously think like this when deciding who we are attracted to. In fact, attraction is not a conscious decision, it is our subconscious caveman/cavewoman brains pulling the strings.

Okay, so lets get to the core of the issue.

Why do women find nice guys unattractive?

To discover this, lets have a look at some typical nice guy behaviors.

The term nice guy is a euphemism for insecure men unwilling to articulate their romantic or sexual feelings directly. Instead, nice guys choose to present themselves as their paramours friend, and hang around, doing nice things for her in the hopes that she will one day pick up on his desire for her. If she fails to read the nice guys secret feelings, however, the nice guy will become embittered and blame her for taking advantage of him and his niceness.

While this definition may seem in some ways extreme, the nice guy can take many different forms including those that are less apparent and more subtle.

Nice guys are generally unassertive and afraid to express their true feelings. The nice guy does not just appear in dating, but in all aspects of life. Whether it is expressing their desire for a woman or having the courage to say no to people, a nice guys behavior manifests itself in all aspects of his life.