Judy Bartkowiak - Nlp for Parents

First edition published in 2010

Copyright 2010

Judy Bartkowiak

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Judy Bartkowiak is an NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) Master Practitioner with specialised training in working with children. She is also a qualified Personal and Pastoral Counsellor.

She is passionate about introducing NLP to kids both directly or by teaching it to parents. She runs a therapy practice working with parents, teachers, children and teens. Although she is based in the UK she also offers consultation across the world via Skype and telephone.

She says, Having four children myself I have observed a wide range of parenting styles and talked with hundreds of mums and dads. This workbook covers what I feel are the most useful aspects of NLP for parents. I feel they are life changing concepts.

I am really passionate about NLP for kids. Ever since I was first introduced to NLP by Sue Knight, (author of NLP at Work and an NLP Trainer), I have been guided by NLP principles as a parent and found them to bring about truly remarkable results.

Before her four children started school, Judy ran a Montessori Nursery School for 7 years and became aware of just how differently children learn and communicate.

Judy then returned to her career as a Market Research Consultant and used her understanding and enjoyment of working with children to specialise in childrens products and TV shows.

She ran hundreds of focus groups over the next 15 years with parents and children of all ages advising companies on what kids like.

She qualified in Neuro Linguistic Programming in 2001-2004 and made a career change which led Judy to taking Open University qualifications in Creative Writing. She then embarked on a writing career which has included writing childrens books, copywriting and writing NLP books.

If youd like to ask Judy about your parenting issue, be trained in NLP or arrange a coaching session for your child or teenager, email her at .

Neuro Linguistic Programming is a way of life, a new and different, positive approach to the way we communicate and how we interpret the way others communicate with us both verbally and non-verbally.

The only way to make effective changes in our life is to engage with this new way and incorporate it daily into everything we do.

At home, at work or at play, whether we are a child, a teenager or an adult, we can make new choices about how we live our life so that we achieve all we wish for in our friendships, relationships and our own state of well-being and happiness.

Engage with NLP and see, hear and feel the difference immediately.

NLP is a completely different way of viewing your world. Once you have been introduced to the NLP way of thinking and communicating it will seem like youve come home. It is respectful of others and more importantly of yourself and it is positive.

John Grinder and Richard Bandler developed what they came to call NLP from a combination of Virginia Satirs Family Therapy, Franz Perls Gestalt Therapy and the work of Milton Erickson in the area of language patterns.

What Grinder and Bandler added was the idea of coding excellence. They studied how successful and effective people communicated and formulated some ground rules that would bring these results to anyone who applied them. These ground rules are what we call NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming.

This book is designed first and foremost to be a practical workbook for you to use, write in and apply on a day to day basis.

If youd like to read about this subject in more depth, I have written a book in the Teach Yourself series entitled Be a happier parent with NLP published by Hodder Education, which provides plenty of detail, case studies and examples.

NLP workbooks available in the Engaging NLP series are:

NLP for children

NLP for teens

NLP for parents

NLP for teachers

NLP in the workplace

NLP Sport

NLP Exercise and Fitness

NLP Pregnancy and Birth

NLP Setting up your own business

NLP Getting a job

NLP has a number of ground rules or principles that form the basis for all the practical tools and techniques you will learn in this book.

I find that they underpin it in such a way that if I get stuck, just by applying one of these rules I can find a solution.

Each one makes you stop and think differently. It challenges you to assess whether what you do now, works or if by changing it, you could get a better outcome.

NLP is completely focussed on positivity, aiming for a positive outcome, a compelling outcome that is desirable for you. The focus is on what you want, rather than what you dont want.

There are even some toxic words that by avoiding will steer you a positive, resourceful path.

NLP uses a great deal too much jargon in my opinion and so I have reworded some of the concepts to make them more digestible as you will want to pass them on to your children.

This is a great one to start with because it really challenges you to change.

What it says is that if the result you are getting such as your childrens behaviour is not what you want then you must change your own behaviour in order to get a different result.

We tend to think as parents that it is their behaviour that must be changed and we carry on telling them off, shouting at them and getting cross.

So here is a new way of thinking.

Do something different.

If you do something different you will get a different result.

The first way to do this is to decide what result you want. There could be any number of results such as children doing what they are told, not throwing things, shouting and so on.