I Still DeserveIt.
Affirmations forwomen who refuse to give up on love.
Derrick Jaxn
Copyright 2017Derrick Jackson
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Table of Contents
Prologue
Everywhere we turn,there are messages being sent to our subconscious. Whether theycome in the form of social media, conversations with our peers, orfirsthand experiences, many of those messages corrode our hope inobtaining true happiness the older we get. However, the messages weare sent will never be more significant than the messages weembrace. Thats what determines how our soul will grow ordeteriorate over our lifetime.
The importance to notonly block out empty, negative messages but also filter the onesthat find their way into our system by rinsing ourselves daily inpositive affirmations cannot be overstated. If we do not shape ourminds, someone, everyone, and everything else will.
My desire is thatthis book will serve as seeds for your soul, and through dailyrepetition or even memorization, it will allow your happiness andmental health to blossom, particularly in your preparation for yoursoul mate. This book is not for simply reading, but for digesting,internalizing, and applying. Its time to give yourself the loveyouve always given so freely to everyone else. You still deserveit.
Chapter 1
If he's worth it,he'll wait.
I can't make him seeme for who I am and the time I need to repair my heart. I can'tmake him accept me for the process I need to heal. But if he'sworth it, he'll see that I am also worth it, and he will waithowever long it takes to find my heart because he'll value it toomuch to give up so easily. I deserve a man who has patience forwhat he wants instead of settles for what's convenient.
Chapter 2
I will notbreak.
So many have come myway with ulterior motives and hidden agendas. Some have changedinto completely different people; others were never good for me tobegin with and revealed that as time went on. Either way, theirdestructive intentions have nothing to do with my worthiness ofreal love. I cannot control what I attract, but I will control whatI accept, and I will use each learned lesson as my guide in doingso going forward. I give myself permission to make the mistake oftrusting the wrong people and acknowledge my power to keep it frommaking me bitter.
Chapter 3
I'm beautiful, nocompliments needed.
I love me, flaws andfaults included. While I will graciously accept those who feel thesame, it won't be necessary to validate that truth. My skin comesin the very tone God intended; my height was meant to be no higheror lower; and my curves were perfectly set to my predetermineddesign. I don't need to be anyone else to be beautiful, and I won'ttry to be in an effort to accept myself. I accept, appreciate, andlove me just the way I am. Fully clothed, or completely bare, I ambeautiful.
Chapter 4
The blessing was intheir blindness.
I don't have to haveanswers as to why they didn't see in me what I see in myself toknow they missed out. Their ignorance is not my burden. I refuse toweigh myself down with their missed opportunity to have the loveI'm capable of giving. I know it's a blessing for those whose soulis blind to what's real to weed themselves out one way or another,to make room for a man whose eyes are wide open.
Chapter 5
The time for lovemay be later, but the time to love myself is right now.
I won't waste anothermoment waiting for secondhand love. I will create in me what willbe multiplied later by the one I'll spend my life with instead ofbeing dormant in the time being. I will invest in myself the sameeffort I expect from my future husband. Every day, second, and hourwill be an ongoing upgrade for my heart, mind, body, and finances.Others will see my light shine and be inspired to do the same. Iwill feel no remorse or shame for turning my love inward until I'mfound by the one worth sharing it with.
Chapter 6
I won't live withregrets from having an open heart.
I did my part byopening my heart. They did their damage by coming in with nointentions of staying. But damage can be undone, no matter how longit takes to do so. My open heart is a blessing when so many havetheirs closed even though it has felt like a curse at times I letthe wrong ones enter. I will not let that pain change me. I willnot let their character flaws alter my path. My open heart isperfect for the open heart that will invite me, and I will not letthose who didn't deserve me take that away.
Chapter 7
My all will beplenty for the right person.
It wouldn't havemattered if I sexed him more, fed him better, or looked anydifferent. He didn't break my heart because of anything I didwrong. He broke it because his hands weren't made to hold it tobegin with. I will judge more carefully and patiently the nexttime, and I will not hold back when the right man comes becauseneither will he.
Chapter 8
I will stop doubtingmy intuition.
I will not let thisgeneration's lowered standards warp the way I view myself. I cannotlet a ticking clock coerce me into knowingly wasting time. I willtrust my intuition when it conflicts with their words so that I'mprotected at all times. The confidence I have in my common sense isno accident no matter what they say to convince me otherwise. Ihave been through too much to keep repeating the same mistakes, andI do not feel bad for refusing to do so.
Chapter 9
I have the right tobe selfish.
I've given so much toeveryone else. I've stretched myself thin trying to help anyone Icould. However, I have no responsibility to leave myself hanging tolove others. Being my own priority is a necessity to be helpful toanyone else, and anyone who doesn't understand doesn't deserve myhelp. I will be selfish if it means saving me, without apology.
Chapter 10
He will put in thework.
If it means phonecalls instead of texts, real date nights instead of "let's chill",or planning ahead instead of random pop-ups, he will do it. If he'ssmart enough and chosen just for me, he will do it. I am worth theeffort and will accept nothing less even if a majority of othersdo.
Chapter 11
There's one man forme who will prove they are not all the same.
It will be in the wayhe looks at me, holds me, treats me, stays consistent, holdshimself accountable, loves his mother, values family, and workstowards his dreams while keeping me a priority. There is a man whowill, despite his imperfections, have worked on himself enough sothat he comes ready to love me. His lust won't compromise hisloyalty. He will give me his heart, not excuses. He'll choose anopportunity for a lifetime with me over night after night withrandom women. He will find me, and he will show me why he was worththe time I waited for him.
Chapter 12
I'm worth anothertry.
I made bad decisions,but I won't dwell on them. I fell for BS a few times, but I willstand up again. I gave my trust and it was broken, but I willrepair it and be more careful next time. While there is breath inmy body, there is a chance to have exactly what I believe in.Millions find their forever-mate every single day, mine will comesoon, and I will be ready when he does.
Chapter 13