Jay Payleitner - Dont Take the Bait to Escalate : Conflict Is Inevitable. Being a Jerk Is Optional

Dont Take the Bait to Escalate

Conflict is Inevitable. Being a Jerk is Optional.

Jay Payleitner

Conflict is difficult, and most of us avoid it. But what if conflict could become life-giving and good? This book offers very practical help that can help you thrive through difficult relationships and conversations.

Christopher D. Hudson, author of 100 Names of God

Its not hyperbole to say that Dont Take the Bait to Escalate is a gift to the planet. Its a masterclass in how to approach conflict with empathy, grace, kindness and ultimately, wisdom. Wow!

Bryan Mattimore, author of 21 Days to a Big Idea

In a social media age where conflict isolates and divides, Jay Payleitner brings a necessary, practical book to help us learn to see conflict as an opportunity to get closer instead of further away. Highly recommended!

Britt Mooney, church-planting pastor and author of Say Yes: How God-Sized Dreams Take Flight

Our divided society has forgotten that its okay to agree to disagree. Jays book is full of optimism and excellent practices we can and should (or must) all start applying to our day-to-day encounters. Thank you, Jay, for this timely advice written in plain language. Your book makes this world a better place.

Mariana Ferrari, named Top 200 most creative minds in the world, advisor to Fortune 500 CEOs, and president of DOOIT

I love the old joke, Im great at conflict, just ask any of my former friends. As someone who chooses the jerk option far too often, I appreciate the simple way Jay shares his wisdom and the biblical foundations he applies to approaching conflicts of every stripe. Dont skim this bookallow the patterns and principles to shift your approach. Your former friends will thank you.

Matt Guevara, founder of Venn Digital Marketing

Jay Payleitner did it again. This time he took the bait to deescalate and wrote a beatitudinal book on conflict resolution. Its a timely must-read packed with timeless wisdom and embellished by the unique Payleitner wit that actually makes it fun to resolve and even prevent conflict!

Maurits van Sambeek, metaphysician from the Netherlands

None of us can get through life without conflictsometimes we cant even get through a day or a week without it. With his trademark humor and wit, Jay Payleitner provides an abundance of wisdom, helpful examples, timely tips, and wily tricks to successfully handle conflict in our lives.

Julie Bryant, senior writer at Masterworks in Poulsbo, Washington

Dont Take the Bait to Escalate is sorely needed in our anger-centric culture! Its chock-full of practical tips and fun anecdotes. Buy one for you and one for that irritating relative!

Kent Evans, executive director of Manhood Journey and author of Wise Guys and The Manhood Journey

Powerful and timely! These truths are needed in the schoolhouse, White House, and at your house! Payleitner offers a better way to negotiate and deal with conflict that can change every relationship for the betterit can make our country better too. Please read, apply, and share this book!

David Horsager, bestselling author of The Trust Edge and a leading global expert in building high-trust leaders and organizations

Ive been a jerk. Maybe you have been too. And its likely that weve all been on the receiving endthe result of someone else being a jerk in a conflict situation. Payleitner delivers a treasure trove of scenarios, illustrations, biblical insight, strategies, and applications (generally, a SOP manual) for successfully navigating through conflict.

Steve Hefta, strategic account manager at Marketplace Chaplains

Reading a Jay Payleitner book is like having a conversation with a good friend. Jay can take something serious like conflict resolution, ground it in the Bible, and then add humor and plain English to make it palatable and easy to grasp.

Bernard J. Forster, hearing officer at education management consulting

Conflict is inevitable on this side of Heaven. But we can find joy in our friendships and experience peace with the people around us. Jay Payleitners book reveals what God has to say about resolving conflict biblically.

Scott LaPierre, pastor, author, and speaker

Dont Take the Bait to Escalate provides strategies to avoid taking a conflict from smoldering coals to full-scale dumpster fire. Payleitner not only offers important tactics to use (and, just as importantly, to avoid), but his wonderful anecdotes breathe life into each approach. With such a variety of tools in my conflict toolbox, I can win every conflict I engage inand my adversary will too by ensuring the conflict bears fruit for all.

Brad Barbera, innovation strategist and author of Keep Innovation Simple: Lead with Clarity and Focus in a World of Constant Change

Taking a bold and honest, yet truthful and compassionate approach, Jay Payleitner dives head-first into the delicate topic of conflict. This book will equip you for any difficult conversations or negotiation and is a must-read for all.

Matt Haviland, Mens Center director at Alpha Grand Rapids

Jay Payleitners Dont Take the Bait to Escalate is a well-written, superb, easy-to-read book that clearly lays out how to manage conflict and stressful situations. With case examples that strikingly illustrate his points and a step-by-step approach for assessing and managing relational issues, it is a must-read for anyone who wants to better solve conflicts, and it should become a go-to manual for therapists and psychologists.

Leroy R. Hall, licensed clinical psychologist and clinical neuropsychologist

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