M.D Dorsal Finn - The Vulture Perspective: A Real Mans Guide to a Happy Successful Life

A partner needs to be an asset; she needs to contribute. After all, if she is not contributing to the partnership she is taking from it: a liability. Life is too precious and important to travel through it carrying a burden. You are better off being on your own than lugging a burden through the journey. Also, by carrying a liability on the journey, you may miss the chance to meet a real asset.

I knew a lady who was diagnosed with terminal bowel cancer. The first thing she did was to leave her husband! She said she had a life-and-death fight on her hands (which she certainly did), and that she didn't have any spare energy for a husband who took more than he contributed. She said he was a good husband and she that loved him, but she had no room for him on this journey. She beat the bowel cancer. I spoke to her doctor, and he said there was no medical explanation for her recoveryit was a miracle. If you are stronger being on your own, never be afraid to fly solo.

A friend had a new lady in his life. He is tall and good looking, a great guy. Every time I saw him, all he did was complain about this new woman in his life. She was domineering; she wanted to change him; she didn't like his friends, his family, or the way he dressed. She wouldn't get out of her comfort zone and wanted to spend most of her spare time with her mother. She was on anti-depressant medication and constantly complained. My friend was young and inexperienced. I told him that I could see warning lights flashing everywhere.

I asked him why he was with this woman. Did he have more fun with her or on his own? I am sure he will make the right decision eventually.

Love won't always get you over the line. If you love someone and she is a dead-set liability, you are set for a tough journey. All you need is love! The Beatles were wrong. You need more than love.

You are responsible for your own happiness. Your partner is responsible for her own happiness.

The main areas to consider for the asset/liability equation are these:

1) Financially: Does she contribute adequately financially? This is your decision as to the level and type of financial contribution. You may be happy that she is bringing in a solid wage. You may be happy that she is careful with banking and grocery shopping or caring for the kids. Your choice. You probably wouldn't be happy with a partner who loaded up every credit card she could get her hands on, and then handed the bills to you.

2) Emotionally/Spiritually: Is she there for you, or is the support a one-way street? Spirituality does not relate to religion in this situation. It encompasses common beliefs, morals, standards and compatibility. A disciplined, health fanatic may not appreciate a drug taking, party girl. A peace loving, hippy vegetarian may find life difficult with a gun loving, carnivorous, beer drinker.