Lesley Robins - The Breakup Book: 20 Steps to Heal a Broken Heart

THE BREAKUP B OO K

I knew this significant and original book would be informativeand it is, very. What I didnt expect: pure inspiration in a fresh voice that will make readers feel they have a smart and sassy new best friend. Surviving a broken heart is not easy, yet Robins creates an environment through her writing that is comfortable, safe, and welcoming.

Giuliana Rancic , Anchor, E! News

I loved this book. Charismatic and engaging, Lesley approaches her readers with humor and compassion. After taking in this profound and deeply moving book, you will forever know how to mend your heart, no matter what the situation.

Sherry Gaba , LCSW, Life Coach on
Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew

Lesley Robins is very wise and brutally honest. Its tough out there. This book is written in a funny, straightforward, no B.S. kind of way and reminds me how delicate relationships and breakups really are.

Kevin Connolly , Actor, Entourage

Lesley Robins rocks and heres why: I have a beautiful, young daughter, and as a young father who knows what its like out there in the world, what I fear most about her growing up is... boys. I look forward to passing on these words of wisdom to her. This book is awesome. Read it.

Constantine Maroulis , American Idol Finalist ,
Tony Nominee , Rock of Ages

With humor, authenticity, wisdom, and a style that is all her own, Lesley Robins delivers an important message, in a fresh new way, that may save millions from stewing in the depths of anguish for longer than necessary. The reader will feel they have just connected with a good friend who really knows the pain they are going through... and how to get to the other side. Her words are uplifting, motivational, and extremely supportive.

Tammi Baliszewski , PhD, Host at Empower Radio

Lesley charms her readers by taking a delicate subject and writing about it in a smart and witty way, like something taken right out of a Sex and the City episode. A modern-day relationship bible that will help mend any broken heart.

Carissa Chesanek , Miami Editor, Zagat

Every word she writes in this book hits home! Being in the midst of a breakup, I was clinging to every word. I wanted to erase some of the missteps Id already taken and do it her way... it makes more sense. Lesley gives spot-on advice in every portion of her book but the section I coveted was Step Nine: Get Out of Dodge. It works wonders, as does the rest of her heartfelt advice.

Peta Phipps , Publisher, Caribbean Living magazine

THE

BREAK
UP B OO K

20 Steps to Heal a BROKEN HEART

LESLEY

ROBINS

New York

THE BREAKUP BOOK

20 Steps to Heal a BROKEN HEART

2015 LESLEY ROBINS .

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I dedicate this book to

A man that came into the world

During my darkest time

Who reminded me what joy is

My nephew, Dennis Ian,

Or as I call him,

Munchkin.

Table of Contents

INTRODUCTION

MY BREAKUP STORY

In 2010, I went through a disastrous breakup. It was a breakup that dragged on for another year and a half, a breakup that had happened many times before with the same guy. I wrote about it. Slowly, I healed. And then, miraculously, I became awesome.

My story is nothing new. Love, unbridled passion, crushed hearts. No one has it all figured out. No one. Everything seems possible when in love. Life-changing decisions can be motivated by love; likewise, life-destroying decisions can come from the heart. I am not immune to falling flat on my face in search of this natural high and having to pick myself up piece by piece when it came crashing down in the end.

Breakups happen to everyone. They dont discriminate by race, gender, age, sexual orientation, hometown, or celebrity status. Your heart could have been busted up many times before and glued back together like Humpty Dumpty, but it will break again and test your strength. Breakups will humble you and tear you apart. Some breakups can make you feel like the world is coming to an end.

Over and over again the process goesfalling in love and finding that bliss, to the breakup you didnt want to see coming and the heartbreak that follows. That moment when one side of the seesaw comes crashing down because the other person decides to get off the ride, and there you are stuck at the bottom with no one on the other side. You start to cry. Your body aches. Why would the other person get off the seesaw? Playgrounds used to be fun. WTF?!

A breakup isnt something you can ever really prepare for, either. You may have a hunch that something is about to go down, but you never really know when that conversation will strike. Even if you do suspect a breakup is about to happen, but its not you pulling the trigger, you will try to talk yourself out of believing its about to happen. And believe it or not, most likely there is nothing you can do to stop it.