Marcus Kusi - Emotional and Sexual Intimacy in Marriage: How to Connect or Reconnect With Your Spouse, Grow Together, and Strengthen Your Marriage

Emotional and Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

How to Connect or Reconnect With Your Spouse, Grow Together, and Strengthen Your Marriage

Marcus and Ashley Kusi

Emotional and Sexual Intimacy in Marriage: How to Connect or Reconnect With Your Spouse, Grow Together, and Strengthen Your Marriage.

Copyright 2017 by Marcus and Ashley Kusi.

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In this book, we share what we have learned in life and marriage; if any of the information is perceived as advice, please take it with a grain of salt.

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Dedication

To all the couples that are committed to making their marriages the best they can be.

Contents

Introduction

You have most likely picked up this book because you can see your marriage could use improvement in the intimacy department.

Maybe you have a hard time connecting with your spouse emotionally, sexually, intellectually, physically, or spiritually. You feel something is missing in your marriage, you are slowly drifting apart, and you want to rediscover that connection you once had together. You might even be afraid of intimacy because you dont want to get hurt.

Just like many couples, we used to feel the same way. Over time we grew apart and we missed the deep and meaningful connection we had in the beginning. To be honest, we were terrified about waking up one day to see ourselves living like strangers.

Once we admitted that something was missing in our marriage, we decided to recreate that intimate connection.

Why?

Because we did not want a monotonous marriage that lacked intimacy, excitement, and fulfillment. As you may already know, unresolved intimacy issues can lead to feeling distant, lonely, rejected, unappreciated, boredom, frustration, and could result in divorce.

Can a small change transform a level of intimacy in your marriage?

In our case, we came up with a plan and took action. This simple plan, which helped us to transform and strengthen intimacy in our marriage, is the most essential thing you can do to rekindle intimacy in your marriage.

We now feel connected emotionally, physically, sexually, intellectually, spiritually, and much more. In addition, we spend more quality time together, and we have more meaningful and deeper conversations.

As you just read, intimacy in our marriage has improved a lot, and we want to help you experience it in your marriage too.

For your marriage to flourish, you and your spouse have to feel intimately connected to each other in all areas of your marriage. You both have to feel fulfilled and happy to experience intimacy on many levels. As you already know, all marriages can benefit from enhancing their intimacy. This book is just the place to start.

Weve all heard about married couples that have filed for divorce because they have grown apart, feel like roommates, or dont share any interests anymore. However, we believe that if a couple decides to enhance intimacy in all aspects of their marriage, they can recreate the connection that is missing.

You can have the happy, healthy and fulfilling marriage you both dreamed about when you said, I Do. You can turn that missing connection and desire into an advantage. Instead of getting divorced, start pursuing your spouse. Better yet, learn how to reconnect with your spouse.

You see, intimacy is so much more than what happens between the sheets. Effective communication, trust, and a safe environment also play a huge role in developing intimacy and helping you to deeply understand your spouse.

The fact is connection is an intrinsic part of our lives as human beings; especially as a married couple. There are thousands of studies about human connection and the lack thereof. One such study by Dr. John T. Cacioppo, compared individuals who had high levels of social interaction versus those who were more isolated in their daily lives.

The study found that: our social connections impact our lives in every single way. Our physical health, cognition, our ability to get a good sleep, and reduce the levels of stress or inflammation in our bodies (the main factor of autoimmune diseases) is dependent on these bonds. This is why our closest relationship of marriage should be one of the most powerful and strongest connections we have. If our marriages suffer, we suffer.

As marriage coaches, we know through our experience, conversations, and research that there are many couples who are missing this deep connection in their marriage. Thats why we wrote this book. We want to help couples like you learn how to connect or reconnect in every way throughout your marriage. This book is for the couple who knows something is missing, as well as the couple who want to rekindle and take intimacy in their marriage from good to great.

What are the deepest needs that are not being met in your relationship? Can you appreciate your spouses presence in your marriage? Are you willing to start by looking inward and working on yourself? Are you able to trust your spouse? Are you at least open to trying? If you are, then we welcome you to begin this process of learning how to truly connect with your spouse so that you can have healthy intimacy in all areas of your marriage.

We suggest you start with a marriage check-up. Find out the state of intimacy in the different areas of your marriage. Ask each other, On a scale of one-to-ten, ten being the best, how strong of a connection do you feel in this area of our marriage? Find out how connected you both feel in these key areas: emotionally, as friends, intellectually, spiritually, relationally as a parent or spouse, financially, socially, sexually and physically.

Finding out where each of you are, will help you to discover the areas that may need more attention as we dive deeper into this book. Knowing where you are weak is the first step in trying to rekindle and strengthen intimacy in your marriage.

In addition, to keep your intimacy strong, create a special distraction-free time in your calendars to spend together. Spending time connecting every day is the most essential thing that has made a huge difference, transformed and strengthened intimacy in our marriage.

As we mentioned, we will show you how you can intentionally do the same for your marriage. If you and your spouse spend time deliberately connecting every day for a year, you will be amazed at the results. You will feel emotionally connected, build trust, and experience a satisfying sex life. In addition, you will build a safe haven that will allow you and your spouse to talk about your feelings, dreams, fears, struggles and desires. Now imagine what would happen if you do nothing about whats missing in your marriage today. Most likely you will be in the same place ten years from now, or worse.