Annie Mayer - Marriage: Complete Guide for Saving and Rebuilding Trust, Intimacy and Connection

Marriage

Complete Guide for Saving and Rebuilding Trust, Intimacy and Connection

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Introduction

I want to thank you and commend you for downloading the book, Marriage: Complete Guide for Saving and Rebuilding Trust, Intimacy and Connection.

This book contains actionable steps and strategies on how to save your marriage and rekindle the love that you have for your spouse. The purpose of this book is to find solutions to marital problems and equip both husbands and wives with the right attitude and strategies that will eventually create change in the relationship.

During the first few years of marriage, most couples come to grips with who they are together. That means accepting shortcomings, subtle dissatisfactions, and even surprising habits they never knew existed. Overcoming these said differences will help a marriage have a lifeline of love and solidity even if the relationship evolves over the years. Let this book be your guide towards finally reconciling with your husband or wife and become committed again to make your marriage work for good.

Thanks again for downloading this book, I hope you will receive a lot of value from it! Be sure to check out your bonus at the end of the book.

Chapter 1 When Couples Fight and What to Do about It

Couples fight, and a good marriage is no exception. While some married couples are already accustomed to fights, there are still those who find solutions, and then there is the rest who are so tired of constant marital clashes and would neither find relief nor answers. Many are made to believe in the notion that fights are bad and is incompatible with love. That is wrong. Couples can both fight and stay in love with each other.

Arguments and heated exchanges are not essentially destructive nor are they indication that a marriage is headed towards its doom. Although fighting is deemed as an intense form of heated communication, it is believed that those individuals who cringe upon hearing intense emotions and draw back from arguments, are often those whose marriage are on the verge of falling apart. However, the purpose of this eBook is not to make fighting appear acceptable. Rather, this is just to show different ways to grapple with the issue and ultimately save and rebuild your connection with your spouse.

Helping married couples know and understand why fights happen in the first place is far more important than trying to get them learn to become their own mediators. All relationships have areas of differences and fighting is a normal and inherent part of marriage, what you can do to lessen the fights is to understand what may be causing it.

There are ways to ease the tension. When fighting with your spouse, you have to realize that you do not have to respond automatically in defense of yourself or take the bait as many couples often do.

Love and Hate should not be linked to each other

Humans love drama and conflicts in life. They simply love a love story involving conflicts such as betrayal, separation, and disappointment. Knowing about other peoples torment is somehow our way of confronting the horrors inside us. The impact of this human drama is because it touches you in the most powerful way. While most people do not feel the rage of jealousy, admit it or not, you sometimes experience such feeling.

Basically, the first step to protecting your marriage is to accept the fact that fights occur but it does not automatically follow that you consider a divorce. Fighting should not destroy your bond as husband and wife. It should not be that destructive to consider ending the marriage.

Y our differences is not really considered a threat in marriage

Yes, there may be couples who are always into lively dialogues, but that does not mean they are no longer compassionate with each other. There are couples who are temperamentally compatible because of the passion they bring on in each other. Think of it this way: which is way better - to voice out your sentiments or to just shrug things off only for them to turn up to be a form of hatred, despise, and unspoken anger? Your differences may vary on opinions and beliefs, but it does not mean you can no longer meet halfway.

Do not make high expectations

Do not project all your expectations and fantasies that your spouse should be everything you wanted in a partner. If you do this and demand that he or she be everything that you wanted him/her to be, all will just lead to disappointment, anger, and frustration. Let your partner be who he/she really is.

Avoid being too possessive of your partner

This is fueled by the darker aspects of love and desire. Marital love is always to some degree interdependent, and that is where the problem usually starts. However, to wish it otherwise is considered unrealistic. Many married couples were usually drawn to the concept of linking their happiness to their partner. And if circumstances happen threatening the bond, they are likely to become possessive.

Do not take personally any negative emotions or mood thrown at you

Fights are often triggered when a wife or husband responds to anothers foul mood and criticizes it. But if you would just ignore your partners mood and reply with kindness and compassion, there will be no fighting and heated discussion. So when you are faced with this kind of situation, immediately assure yourself that his mood or behavior towards you at the moment has nothing to do with what you have done in the past. Your partner is not just his self at the moment so do not take things too personal.

Find some time to be alone

As the old dictum goes, you need to choose your battles. If you are tired of fighting, it would be best to detach emotionally and have the courage to get out of the scene and be alone for a while. This will help the both of you to let go of the need to fight, attack, or to belittle. When you allow yourselves to be separated even for just a little while, you let the storm clouds clear up and you will surprisingly both gain a new perspective, a positive one at that.