Lindsay C. Gibson - Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents is written with the wisdom and heart of a seasoned therapist and the mind of a scholar whos spent decades poring over psychological research and theory. In this book, Lindsay C. Gibson seamlessly blends this impressive body of knowledge with the real-life experiences of her clients to create a user-friendly and highly readable book. This book is not about blame but rather about understanding oneself on a deep level and learning to heal.

Esther Lerman Freeman, PsyD, clinical associate professor at the Oregon Health and Science University School of Medicine

Children cannot choose their parents. Unfortunately, many individuals grow up suffering the life-shaping adversities of having emotionally immature, neglectful parents. With wisdom and compassion, Lindsay C. Gibson enables readers to recognize and better understand these toxic relationships and to create novel, healthy paths of healing. This book provides a powerful opportunity for self-help and is a wonderful resource for therapists to recommend to clients in need.

Thomas F. Cash, PhD, Professor Emeritus of psychology at Old Dominion University, and author of The Body Image Workbook

Lindsay C. Gibsons insightful book offers the emotionally lonely a step-by-step journey toward self-awareness and healing. Gibsons revealing anecdotes, enlightening exercises, and honest insight lead the reader to a better understanding of how to connect more fully with oneself and others. This is an excellent book for anyone who feels isolated from family members and seeks to enjoy a more emotionally connected life.

Peggy Sijswerda, editor and publisher of Tidewater Women (tidewaterwomen.com) and Tidewater Family (tidewaterfamily.com), and author of Still Life with Sierra

Lindsay C. Gibsons Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents is an insightful and compassionate guide for anyone seeking to understand and overcome the long-term impact of growing up in an emotionally barren family. Here you will find sage advice and simple practices that will help you break free from old patterns, connect more deeply with yourself and others, and, ultimately, be the person you were always meant to be.

Ronald J. Frederick, PhD, psychologist and author of Living Like You Mean It

Lindsay C. Gibson, a very experienced psychotherapist, wrote Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents to provide guidance to adults for self-help in resolving anxiety, depression, and relationship difficulties that result from having emotionally immature parents. It is a thorough and detailed description of immature parents, childrens experience of their parenting, and methods to resolve the resulting problems. There are many useful examples from Gibsons psychotherapy clients. The book includes helpful exercises for self-understanding. A person can use the book to develop emotional maturity and deeper relationships.

Neill Watson, PhD, research professor and Professor Emeritus of psychology at the College of William and Mary, and clinical psychologist who does research on anxiety, depression, and psychotherapy

Based on years of reading, research, and working with patients, psychologist Lindsay C. Gibson has written an outstanding book about the multiple ways that emotionally immature parents impact the lives of their adult children. I highly recommend Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents for all readers who want to understand the parent/child dynamic. This is an uplifting book that provides hope and superb coping strategies for those who find it difficult or impossible to bond with parents who lack empathy and sensitivity. Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents is full of wisdom that will enable you to relate to your family members and friends in the healthiest way possibleno matter what age you areand possibly even to recognize whats behind some of the dysfunctional exchanges depicted in the news and in popular culture.

Robin Cutler, PhD, historian and author of A Soul on Trial

Lindsay C. Gibsons book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, is filled with clinical vignettes that will resonate with adult children of emotionally immature parents. The book also offers practical advice and exercises for identifying ones true self and avoiding the pitfalls of self-images, relationships, and fantasies that undermine ones psychological well-being. Finally, the book provides solid guidelines for interacting with ones emotionally immature parents in a manner that avoids painful and damaging recreations of the past. Readers will find relief from recognizing that they are not alone and that they are understood by this remarkable clinician.

B. A. Winstead, PhD, professor of psychology at Old Dominion University and the Virginia Consortium Program in Clinical Psychology, and coeditor of Psychopathology: Foundations for a Contemporary Understanding, Third Edition

Publishers Note

This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books

Copyright 2015 by Lindsay C. Gibson

New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

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Cover design by Amy Shoup

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Gibson, Lindsay C.

Adult children of emotionally immature parents : how to heal if your parents couldnt meet your emotional needs / Lindsay C. Gibson.

pages cm

Includes bibliographical references.

ISBN 978-1-62625-170-0 (pbk. : alk. paper) -- ISBN 978-1-62625-171-7 (pdf e-book) -- ISBN 978-1-62625-172-4 (epub) 1. Adult children of dysfunctional families--Mental health. 2. Emotional maturity. 3. Dysfunctional families--Psychological aspects. I. Title.

RC455.4.F3G53 2015

616.89156--dc23

2015005419

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