George K. Simon Ph.D. - In sheeps clothing : understanding and dealing with manipulative people

Understanding and Dealing

with Manipulative People

"After having read several books on several different self-help topics, psychology books, psychiatry books, etc., I MUST recommend you buy this one, first. It cuts straight through the bs - neatly and cleanly. I have bought copies of this book for friends and can't recommend it enough."

-E. Adams, Online Purchaser

"Don't Be Bossed-Around Ever Again fl! ... In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People by George K. Simon, Jr., Ph.D., is a godsend to anyone who has ever questioned their own sanity while in any kind of relationship with a controlling and manipulative person.

-The Aeolian Kid, Online Purchaser

"Dr. Simon teaches the mechanics of popular tactics used by manipulators and how you can identify and thwart their attacks so that you control the outcome. This book helped me with a person that I have no choice but to see daily. After the end of every "friendly" conversation I felt depressed or insulted but could not figure out how this person was doing it. This book helped me to understand what was really happening. Dr. Simon's guidelines exposed this person and [allowed me to take] control. Because this person knows [I] can no longer [be] controlled, I now a perfect one that's better than the alternative."

-A reader in Chicago

"This book is like the secret decoder ring for the jumbled mess that is a manipulator's modus operandi. Do yourself a favor and get this book now."

-Christy, Missouri

"It's sad that there are people out there that make life so much harder than it should have to be for others. Being able to identify such people in your life (both at home and at work) is very important and can be of invaluable help to 1) not go crazy oneself, and 2) take corrective action. Dr. Simon's book is written with amazing clarity. If you read only one book this year, read this one."

-JA008, Online Purchaser

"This is one of the best books I've ever read and I would recommend it to anyone. It has redefined how I judge people and helped me to become a stronger person. I used to be very naive and unaware of people's ulterior motives, and I have learned a tremendous amount from reading this book."

-S. Brescenti, Online Purchaser

"This book makes it clear that evil is allowed free rein because of our ignorance of its nature. Simon shows us what seemingly mundane interactions that leave us perplexed may really be about. According to him, master manipulators leave us drained and confused as we try to change them into the good person we want to believe they really are. I would add that the manipulators are just plain evil because evil requires lies, manipulation and a weakening of the other's will through deception. Simon shows you how to recognize the signs and what you can do about it. Good people are responsible for informing and protecting themselves from the manipulators in society. This book is a necessary start."

-Kaye, a reader in New York state

"Pithy and often funny, George Simon takes the bluster and obfuscation of overbearing, weasely bosses, nasty neighbors, and obnoxious coworkers and boils it down to show you the simple psychological strategies being used to impose on your patience, good will, or even wallet. I have recommended this book to everyone I know and bought extra copies for my kids when they went out into the work world. Highly Recommended!"

-C. MacCallum, Online Purchaser

Understanding and Dealing

with Manipulative People

George K. Simon, Jr., Ph.D.

Copyright 1996, 2010 George K. Simon, Jr., Ph.D. Published by Parkhurst Brothers, Inc., Publishers (www.pbros.net); printed and bound in the United States of America. All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by an information storage and retrieval by a reviewer who may quote brief passages in a review to be printed in a magazine or permission in writing from the Permissions Director at the publisher's address shown on its web site.

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The vignettes contained in this book are fictionalized versions of actual events and circumstances provided to the author. The names, professions, locations, situations, and other biographical data have been altered to preserve anonymity and privacy to the greatest degree possible without distorting the fundamental psychological realities the stories are intended to illustrate.

A.J. Christopher printing history: First printing, November 1996; Eleventh Printing, September 2009.

A. J. Christopher edition is out-of-print effective 3.31.2010 by agreement with Parkhurst Brothers, Inc., Publishers, whose edition is available as of 4.1.2010.

PARKHURST BROTHERS paperback edition ISBN 978-1-935166-30-6

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I am deeply grateful to my wife, Dr. Sherry Simon for her unfailing love, faith, understanding, patience, and support. She is responsible for the title of this book and was a valuable resource in helping me clarify my thoughts during its writing.

I wish to thank Dr. Bruce Carruth for his critique of the original manuscript and suggestions for making it more readable.

I am deeply indebted to the work of Dr. Theodore Millon. His comprehensive approach to understanding personality has not only influenced my thinking on the subject but also proved invaluable in my efforts to help people change.

I owe a supreme debt to the many individuals willing to share with me their experiences with manipulative people. They taught me much and enriched my life. This book, in large measure, is a tribute to their courage and support.

I am most appreciative of the validation, support, and enriching input consistently afforded me by workshop attendees. They have helped me clarify, refine, and enhance one of my principal missions in life.

Words cannot express the gratitude I have for the thousands of readers who have kept this book on the active lists of online booksellers and retail outlets for over 15 years. The many emails, blog posts, and letters readers have sent helped me make necessary updates and changes to this Revised Edition. I have attempted to honor the considerable feedback I continue to receive by expanding the discussion of key concepts as well as introducing important new content for this newly revised edition.