Evans - You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse: The #1 System for Recovering from Toxic Relationships

In You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse, Melanie Tonia Evans offers a healing and transformative pathway for the people who need it most. Suffused with her personal experience, deep wisdom, and powerful insights, Evans writing provides all the tools you need to validate the effects of narcissistic abuse, and ultimately to release and heal the pain and claim a new life, not merely as a survivor, but as a thriver. Narcissistic personality disorder is a far more common problem than most people realize, and whether your romantic partner, parent, or child has this disorder, you would be well served to use Melanies book as a map to help you navigate your journey toward liberation and personal empowerment. Arielle Ford, bestselling author,The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love Of Your Life with the Law of Attraction

You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse isnt just for women in recovery it should be required reading for every woman who wants to have thriving relationships. In fact, in coaching and mentoring tens of thousands of women I havent met one who isnt vulnerable to narcissistic abuse. Without the knowledge that Melanie brilliantly shares, our tendency towards empathy, forgiveness and unconditional love can make us a target for relationships with people who drain our power and leave us feeling empty and depleted. Learn to recognize the patterns, how to respond and when and how to disengage and heal. Melanies book can save you years, if not decades of your life. She is the expert I most deeply trust, respect and refer all the women in my community to for support on this topic. Claire Zammit, PhD, founder, FemininePower.com

Melanie Tonia Evans is an internationally acclaimed narcissistic abuse recovery expert and the founder of Quanta Freedom Healing and the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program. Her leading-edge healing methods have helped thousands of people from over eighty countries make astounding full recoveries from narcissistic abuse. Her passion is bringing the Thriver Model to the world, a Model that saved her own life and granted her the life of her dreams, despite being told she would never recover from her symptoms of abuse.

Melanies Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program contains her pioneering super-tool, Quanta Freedom Healing, which enables people to heal from trauma in timeframes and ways they have never previously experienced even when every other healing method has failed. Her work is revolutionising the old model of survivor recovery into one of Thriver status, whereby people become more confident, happy and successful after the Program than they ever were before it. The Thriver Model has gained attention and recognition worldwide, with psychologists, counsellors, domestic violence workers and relationship experts globally referring their clients to Melanies Model as the way to heal for real from narcissistic abuse.

For more information, visit Melanies website: www.melanietoniaevans.com

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Breaking the Chains of Painful Love

Take Back Your Power

YOU CAN THRIVE AFTER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE

The #1 System for Recovering from Toxic Relationships

Melanie Tonia Evans

CONTENTS

FOREWORD

Several years ago, a colleague called me with the shocking news that she and her handsome, successful husband a pillar of the community were divorcing after thirty years of marriage. She had found out that he was having an affair. But that was just the beginning. As the scales began to fall from her eyes, she discovered that her marriage and their relationship had all been an illusion. An illusion she had fed and watered with every bit of her energy for decades. He was never the man she had thought he was. The man whose attention she craved but could never quite attract. She always blamed her own shortcomings for this. No. He was far worse. Not only had he sexually abused their daughter, she also discovered that he was, in essence, living a double life: on the surface he was a dutiful father and spouse respected by his entire community and extended family but underneath, the story was far different. As is so often the case, no one believed her side of the story. But that didnt matter. She got out.

Because I had had so much experience with narcissistic personality disorder by this time, I was able to assist her in not only identifying what she was dealing with but more importantly, was able to steer her in the direction necessary to not just get out but to thrive.

My colleagues healing, and that of thousands of others, has been greatly speeded up through the incredibly effective work of Melanie Tonia Evans which I discovered several years ago. I have another friend who, during her divorce, went through Melanies Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program. She would call me every day with her insights, her emotional breakdowns to breakthroughs, and her progress. She too is now Thriving on every level. And all of us listen to Melanies Thriver TV regularly to keep us from falling back into old empathic (but ineffective) patterns.

Our Thrivership is in sharp contrast to what goes on for most people who are in relationships with clever narcissists master manipulators who often pull the wool over the eyes of so many including the therapists to whom their victims go for help. Our culture has only just begun to understand that personality disorders, most of which include narcissism, are an enormous public health problem an epidemic really that has gone unrecognized for centuries. Only recently has the mental health profession even acknowledged the fact that conventional talk therapy doesnt do anything to help narcissists. Neither does anger management. In fact, conventional therapy makes them worse. Why? Because they take what they learn in therapy and turn it on their long-suffering partners or family members. Narcissists run for the victim position. And no matter what is going on, they play the victim role with a skill level worthy of an Academy Award. Their victims, meanwhile, do everything in their power to help the narcissist, not understanding that these energy vampires do not think and act like those of us with normal empathy. They dont have any. For many, that is simply hard to believe. Weve grown up with the mistaken belief that our love and energy can heal anything and anyone. And in most areas of our lives, there is truth in this. But when it comes to a narcissist, that belief is downright dangerous.

Sandra Brown, author of Women who Love Pyschopaths, says that it seems like the world is strangely tilted in their favour. Another colleague of mine a clinical psychologist with thirty-five years of experience counselling men who have been sexually abused by priests told me that these individuals are chameleons who can charm the pants off you. He said, Even after thirty-five years in this field, I realize that I can still be conned by a narcissist if he or she is charming and good looking enough. Sobering, isnt it?

I wrote Dodging Energy Vampires because, after thirty-five years on the frontlines of womens health, I came to see that the vast majority of women who had so-called autoimmune or mystery illnesses like chronic fatique, adrenal exhaustion, fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis, Hashimotos thyroiditis, or lupus were living with an energy vampire. These individuals get well only when they finally see what theyre dealing with and get out. As an expert on holistic womens health, I was compelled to sound the alarm on this phenomenon to help people remove themselves from this kind of toxicity before their health and their lives were ruined. And of course, like Melanie, Ive also had my own personal experience with these characters. I know what it takes to turn this around. And I strongly believe that we are finally at a time in history when our culture is starting to wake up to the damage caused by narcissists. There is no question that the post-Harvey Weinstein #metoo movement has helped. Its a step in a long journey.