Pearl - Preparing to be a Help Meet

Preparing To Be A Help Meet

Copyright 2010 by Michael and Debi Pearl

ISBN: 978-1-61644-010-7

EBook: July 2010

ISBN: 978-1-61644-011-4

EPub: July 2010

ISBN: 978-1-61644-009-1

First printing: April 2010 - 20,000

All scripture quotations are taken from the King James Holy Bible.

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Printed in the United States of America

Other books by Debi Pearl:

Created To Be His Help Meet

The Help Meets Journey

Listen To My Dream

To Train Up A Child

The Last Publishers, The Vision

Visit www.NoGreaterJoy.org for information on this and other products produced by No Greater Joy Ministries.

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No Greater Joy Ministries Inc. 1000 Pearl Road, Pleasantville, TN 37033 USA

Cover design by Clint Cearley

Interior design and layout by Clint Cearley, DesignForgeServices.com

Thanks Guys

Although my name is on the cover of this book, its pages contain the wisdom and insight of many people. To meet my splendid crew, go to: PreparingtobeaHelpMeet.com . There you can ask questions, post pictures of yourself or your Bible class and continue to learn.

Men were asked to add their comments on the contents of this book so throughout its pages you will see small call-outs (like the one below) containing statements from the men concerning the related underlined text.

Below is a breakdown of who the men are so you will better understand their viewpoints. The King/Command man profile is a combination of two men, one married and the other unmarried while the Priest and Prophet are both unmarried.

Example of the mens comments seen throughout the book. The icon at the left determines which mans comment it is. See the table above to recognize which icon belongs to whom.

You spend your time pining away for your one true love and suddenlyyoure married, and it is a lot more than you bargained for. Now is the hour you should be preparing to be a wifeto be a help meet. God wants to make you become a lovely help meet, but to be a good one takes effortlots of effort.

Teachers Guide

A complete Teachers Guide by Shalom (Pearl) Brand, starts on .

There is a thread
a bright thread running ,
weaving , tying bows
and underlining our lives.
Sometimes the thread is narrow
and barely perceptible ; other times it
is flamboyant , creating
showers of wide dashing
ribbons falling from every
corner of our lives, bringing
vibrant color
to our otherwise ordinary
existence .

A ND SO YOUR T HREAD BEGINS

God Needs Our Prayers

M ORAL TO THE S TORY : God wants, no, he NEEDS us to pray.

A C AUTION : Dont pray amiss.

God did something totally different in my love story. When I was just a child he told me who I would marry. He didnt tell my future husbandjust skinny little me. Why? God always has a very good reason. I believe it was because my future husband needed, really needed someone to pray for him. I prayed.

Is there a young man that you have met in passing that you thought would be a good husband? Have you been praying for him by name?

Maybe heaven waits on you.

story one

I HAD JUST TURNED THIRTEEN when I first saw him and knew, just simply knew, he was my man. If he had glanced over and been able to read my mind he would have surely laughed. I almost laughed. It was preposterous to think that I, a scrawny little kid who had not even gone through puberty, would claim him. The whole community had been talking about the famous, young preacher who had been invited to speak at First Baptist Churchs Teen Retreat. He was all man, plain and simple: at least 6 foot 4 inches, and a dark jaw shadow where he shaved away his beard. My young mind quickly assessed him. He seemed bigger than life, a super, in charge type man. He was old, very old, and way too big, outweighing me by over 100 pounds. I guessed that he must have been at least 21 years old. As far as I was concerned, he might as well have been 99. Anybody over fifteen seemed ancient to me.

Anyway, God had never talked to me before; why would he start now and tell me this? I was just a kid. Does God talk to kids? Furthermore, I was not particularly spiritually minded, and not looking for a supernatural epiphany or vision. To top it all off, I was a Baptist, and Baptists do not believe in gifts, words of knowledge or such. Dont misunderstand; I was very interested in the things of God. I liked to teach small children Bible stories; I enjoyed church and was highly entertained when preachers preached on end times, but I was never given to deep spiritual sensitivity. God had a big surprise for me that day. I discovered that God has his own sense of humor. He always does the unexpected. But even to this day, over 46 years later, this remains the biggest unexpected of my entire life. This is how it happened.

There was a serious storm warning that day. Tornadoes were expected. The church leaders almost decided to cancel the youth event due to the storm, but since the preacher was so important, they decided to take the chance. I sat at a lodge with about 30 other teenagers, all of whom seemed years older and way cooler than me.

The teenage girls were acting like they were afraid of the storm. Obviously they thought their twittering would make them appear more femininely attractive. The boys were playing macho, Bring it on, we can handle a silly old tornado. Looking around, I groaned with disgust. All this teenage nonsense was so stupid. Horses, mud fights, BB guns, forts, and bikes were my life. I did not relate to the hormone-driven game. I was half mad that my mom made me come to this dumb meeting. Why should I have to go to the retreat with a bunch of old snobs? It wasnt even our church, so I didnt know many of the kids there. It was clear they dismissed me as a snotty kid not worthy of any notice.