Cindy Beall - Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken: Finding Forgiveness and Restoration

This is a supernatural story of Gods redemption and restoration. A man chose humility, his wife believed God for the impossible, and it happened. Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken will give you hope for your marriage and strengthen your faith in a God who can turn our mistakes into miracles.

S TEVEN F URTICK

lead pastor of Elevation Church
author of Sun Stand Still

What you are about to read is an all-too-real story of a couple in ministry whose marriage and vocation are suddenly rocked and halted by the consequences of infidelity. Chillingly honest but remarkably encouraging, Cindys journey is one that breaks through the barriers of shock, pain, and betrayal to forgiveness, strength, and restoration. I look forward to sharing this book with so many I know who are dealing with the unfortunate devastation of a marital affair.

P ETE W ILSON

pastor of Cross Point Church
author of Plan B

One of the greatest gifts we can give to each other is the gift of knowing that we are not alone. Through Cindys transparency and openness, she willingly gives this gift to all her readers. Need encouragement? Need hope? Need to know you arent alone? Then please read Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken.

J UD W ILHITE

senior pastor of Central Christian Church
author of Throw It Down
founder of leadingandlovingit.com

Chris and Cindys story is an inspirational and captivating account of humility, forgiveness, and redemption. Through the pain of betrayal, their story reflects the love of God that penetrates darkness to illuminate a new hope for marriages in crisis.

C HRIS H ODGES

senior pastor of Church of the Highlands

With elegance, vulnerability, and grit, Cindy Beall shares what is every married womans greatest nightmare. A powerful story of hope, an honest journey of struggle, an inspiring passage of renewalthe chronicle of Cindys major life interruption speaks to the deepest place in my heart. This book is more than just a book on marital infidelity. It is a picture of the restorative love of Jesus, able to supersede any difficulty and compelling enough to make ugly things become beautiful. I love Chris and Cindy Bealls story. It is the story of Jesus.

L ISA W HITTLE

speaker and author of {w}hole

This is a refreshing story of forgiveness, grace, and a pure desire to defeat the odds by saving a marriage that was on the verge of ending. If you are walking down the path of divorce, this book will inspire you not to give up, but to give your marriage to God and watch Him work a miracle.

D INO R IZZO

lead pastor of Healing Place Church

Cindy Bealls message of grace is simple but profound: Jesus is your hope for a successful marriage. No matter where you find yourself, her story will challenge and inspire you to let God heal the past and build a better future.

J UDAH S MITH

lead pastor of The City Church, Seattle, Washington

I was randomly placed with the Bealls a few years back for an evening that turned out to be a ministry-shifting moment in my life. I was captivated that evening as the authenticity flowed from Cindys story on hurt, hope, and the resurrection of an undying love. This book took me back to that night. Cindys words will rip the veil off any fear and doubt that God can heal you in spite of your own best effort.

C ARLOS W HITTAKER

worship leader

If you are a skeptic who believes miracles no longer exist, or if you are in the thick of pain and think God has left, I ask you to read this book. What happened in Chris and Cindys life and the healing that came to their marriage cannot be anything short of a miracle. Low odds, indescribable pain, and bleak circumstances were all God needed to do what He does bestthe impossible. If you need hope that God still does the impossible, this is your book.

N ATALIE W ITCHER

author of The Devil in Your Garden

So honestSo realSo transparentSo timely. Being in leadership, Ive seen the devastation of a husband and wife who didnt know how to put the pieces back together again. Cindy does such an excellent job of using word pictures to describe her journey of healing and restoration. This book will help couples rebuild trust in a broken marriage.

S HEILA G ERALD

pastor of Champions Centre, Tacoma, Washington

CINDY BEALL

Foreword by C RAIG G ROESCHEL

HARVEST HOUSE PUBLISHERS

EUGENE, OREGON

Except where noted, Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version, NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by Biblica, Inc. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide.

Verses marked MSG are taken from The Message. Copyright by Eugene H. Peterson 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002. Used by permission of NavPress Publishing Group.

Cover by Koechel Peterson & Associates, Inc., Minneapolis, Minnesota

Cover photo iStockphoto / davidp

Backcover photo Amanda Hyden

This book contains stories in which the author has changed peoples names and some details of their situations in order to preserve their privacy.

HEALING YOUR MARRIAGE WHEN TRUST IS BROKEN

Copyright 2011 by Cindy Beall
Published by Harvest House Publishers
Eugene, Oregon 97402
www.harvesthousepublishers.com

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Beall, Cindy, 1970-

Healing your marriage when trust is broken / Cindy Beall; foreword by Craig Groeschel.

p. cm.

ISBN 978-0-7369-4315-4 (pbk.)

ISBN 978-0-7369-4316-1 (eBook)

1. MarriageReligious aspectsChristianity. 2. Sex addictionReligious aspectsChristianity. 3. Adultery. 4. PornographyReligious aspectsChristianity. 5. TrustReligious aspectsChristianity. I. Title.

BV835.B357 2011

241.667092dc22

[B]

2010050358

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In honor and in memory of my father,
Joe Ernest Moehring,
and my father-in-law,
Charles Joseph Beall

A Story of Healing in Their Own Words:
Kevin and Nicole

A Story of Healing in Their Own Words:
Brian and Jenni

A Story of Healing in Their Own Words:
Matt and Andrea

A Story of Healing in Their Own Words:
Wade and Christi

A Story of Healing in Their Own Words:
Jim and Beth

A Story of Healing in Their Own Words:
Chad and Sarah

W HEN C HRIS B EALL , MY NEW STAR WORSHIP LEADER, confessed to me that hed been unfaithful to his wife, Cindy, I could have vomited on the spot.

Overwhelming emotions flooded my heart. Shock. Disappointment. Anger. Sadness.

Questions pelted my mind like hail smashing against a sidewalk during a storm. How did this happen? Why didnt I see it? What am I going to tell our church? What will Cindy do? Will their marriage survive this blow?

Ill never forget seeing the deep and seemingly unrecoverable hurt in Cindys eyes when she discovered the devastating truth.