Katherine Shepard - Why am I so Jealous and Insecure: Learn How to Overcome Negative Emotions and Low Self-esteem to live a Happy and Productive Life

Why am I so Jealous and Insecure: Learn How to Overcome Negative Emotions and Low Self-esteem to live a Happy and Productive Life

By Katherine Shepard

Copyright 2015 by WE CANT BE BEAT LLC

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A happy and healthy relationship is attainable but only when you have the know how to handle it. You need the right skills and information of what makes thriving relationships work without hitches, although all relationships will experience mild hitches that outsiders will never notice, as they are not supposed to note.

Happy relationships appear impossible to many when jealousy and insecurity sets in, but when partners are confident that they can make it through and weather the effects of jealousy, then living together happily is very possible. We cannot be surprised that relationships are mainly broken by jealousy and insecurity related issues, which are always an obstacle to a mutual and satisfactory relationship.

The only way to make it through a rocky relationship or a budding one that is threatened by mistrust between the involved parties is to clarify and bring any signs of jealousy into the limelight, so that the issues that are causing the insecurity can be identified and the underlying emotions cleared. The initial steps should be to try to discover the things that are causing the jealousness, and when all are noted, it will be simple to derive a plan that will enable the partners to neutralize the strength of the effects of jealousy.

Jealousy and insecurity may appear as a simple thing to many, but to the jealous person it is like a plague that eats into the confidence of keeping the relationship upright and pushing on with life together. The person is always enclosed in his or her virtual world where everyone seems a threat. The mind always sees a possibility if their partner being snatched by other people, and when the feeling is very severe, jealous people will always be looking forward to that time or day when the worst the separation will be revealed.

When getting or starting a relationship, you should expect that you will face many obstacles through your togetherness, and they way to deal with them is by being ready to tackle them amicably and positively. Jealousy and insecurity is always expected mainly in new relationships, and as long as you stay positive and focus on keeping it on the right path then you will both make it through effortlessly. Never allow jealousy and insecurity to ground the progress of your relationship because when you tackle it positively you will always make it through.

This book shows you how jealousy and insecurity creeps into a healthy and promising relationship and the destruction it can do if it is not tamed. As you read on, you will be enlightened about how you can overcome this destructive state of the mind and feeling, leading to a healthy, joyous and happy relationship until death do you part!

The only way to confront and conquer an animal that is threatening your life is to understand everything about it, so that you can learn its weak points and neutralize its energy and power to attack. The same tactic can be applied when you are dealing with a situation where jealousy and insecurity is threatening to destroy your relationship.

It is very vital to understand what jealousy and insecurity is all about, so that we can have a clear strategy of tackling it. Jealousy can mainly be described as fear of things that are supposedly threatening a relationship, some of which are not a reality but the mind of the jealous person shows him or her that there is a huge threat to the togetherness. The following are some of the fears that are related to jealousness.

• Fear of Loss Jealous people generate insecurity when they start thinking that they might lose a partner to other suitors, and in such a case they will mostly want to be near their partners or keep regular communication just to ensure that they are way from the perceived threat that may cause the loss.
• Fear of being abandoned In such a situation, the jealous partner will struggle to do things in a bid to show that they are capable of everything that their loved ones may require, just to ensure that they are not left alone. All the fears that are discussed here will make you very uncomfortable if you are jealous, but this specific one eats even into your social and financial life, because you may even spend beyond your limit just to make yourself feel that you have provided enough to keep your partner to yourself.
• Fear of Scarcity We all see special things in our partners, which we believe that other people do not possess. In a natural setting where the population of one gender is higher than the other, the fear of scarcity can easily set in and deceive you that you that your partner is a target of many admirers. This can be true in a way but if at all your relationship is stable, you do not have anything to worry about because your partner will be there to defend you relationship form the intruders.
• The fear of Change Is another imagination that sends shivers down the jealous peoples spines when they think of how their partners may plot to shortchange them with other people. Before your partner decides to change his or her mind concerning the relationship you have, you ought to have seen signs of discontent in the way you do your thing together. There is no need of worrying without enough evidence of what you are worrying about.
• The fear of the Unknown Jealous people by nature will keep on thinking how their partners will end the relationship. Even when they are supposed to be focusing on other important things, the mind drifts back to imaginary things that make them feel that their togetherness is not safe. A j ealous person can imagine anything and at such times, insecurity sets in because they always see how they can lose their partner. Fearing something you do not know can be very dangerous to a relationship because one will never believe that the relationship is safe, even when they are still together with their partners.

Everyone gets jealous at one point or another but the level differs. As long as people have feelings and can generate that sense of ownership, they always work hard to ensure that they secure their territories of ownership such that they do not lose what is so attached to them. In that case, the only people who cannot be jealous are the ones who are not in touch in touch or recognize their feelings, and the others who are yet to initiate relationships that have deep-rooted feelings.

To keep it safe, it is good to project the circumstances that can make you generate jealous feelings, when you figure them out you derive a way to deal with them and resolve the cause, and by so doing you will not drawn into the sea of desperation that jealousy and insecurity can throw you into.

Let us now look at how jealousy and insecurity starts to buildup in a person, so that when we derive ways to overcome this destructive state of the mind you will be able to put the advice into practical and productive use.

Jealousy and insecurity is a very mysterious and destructive feeling that engulfs the mind of people and if not controlled, it wears off the strong trust in a relationship and eventually the parties break up. Most people are not even able to identify this destructive feeling jealousy when it strikes them, while identifying it is the first step towards winning the battle against the insecurity that sets in.

The emotional feeling can generate from deep-rooted issues that are at times obvious to the jealous person, but at times, they do not realize them too. You will understand ore of this as you read on, from the research that we have done to come up with comprehensive tactics to overcome this enemy.