Stella Belmar - She Wants You: How Avoiding These 48 Attraction Mistakes Will Make You A One-In-A-Million Man and Inspire Women to Pick You Over Dozens of Average Guys (Dating Advice For Men Book 4)

SHE WANTS YOU

How Avoiding These 48 Attraction Mistakes Will Make You A One-In-A-Million Man and Inspire Women To Pick You Over Dozens of Average Guys

By Stella Belmar

http://www.StellaDatingCoach.com

http://www.StellaSingles.com

More bestselling dating & relationship books by Stella:

Flirt Her Up: How To Use The Power Of Words And Body Language To Attract, Interact And Connect With Women In Any Setting

What Women Really Like In A Man: 45 Dating Tips On How To Capture A Girl's Heart, Make Her Fall In Love With You (For Good) and Never Want To Leave You

Read Her Signs: An Essential Guide To Understanding Women and Never Getting Rejected Again

The Road To Confidence: Learn to Conquer Your Fears, Build Self-Confidence and Enjoy Long-Lasting Dating Success

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Contents

Introduction

A COMPANY I ONCE worked for had a saying engraved on a board in every office that read: Never Assume Anything. This pertained specifically to how to deal with clients and reports we would prepare for them.

I always think of this as a very wise metaphor for life. In my practice as a dating and relationship coach, I find that this serves especially well men and women who are trying to find dates or even their life partner. Many misunderstandings happen because one or both parties quickly assume something about the others behavior, words or feelings that may not at all be true.

In this book, Id like to share with you common and less common mistakes that happen during the dating process and in relationships with women.

As women are intuitive beings, it is sometimes difficult for men to gauge or understand where they stand with them. In turn, assumptions get easily made, which often leads to not just misunderstandings but plain-out missed opportunities.

I hope that armed with this knowledge, men would be able to better understand the other sex, approach women from a more open-minded perspective and not take things personally when theres no reason to.

So, to all the guys out there: I applaud you for your courage and determination to learn about women and try to be a better man every day. The world needs more of you and Im happy to share some of the techniques that could embolden you in your pursuit of love, sex and happiness!

~ 1 ~ When to Call

THERE ARE A LOT of myths and rules circulating on how and when a man should contact the woman after the first date.

The mistake many make is to try and play by those rules. The only rules you should abide by are your standards of value, responsibility and your word. The more positive values and manners you cultivate, the easier it will be for you to feel when and how to contact a woman.

So, how does that translate into the real world?

Ask any woman and I can guarantee you that shell say you can contact her soon after the date, meaning the next day or even that same evening depending on how it went, of course. Thats why its paramount for you to learn as much as you can about women and read her signs, language and level of comfort with you (see my book, Read Her Signs ).

The 3-day rule and other BS that many refer to constitute playing games, but they are also a turnoff for most women. Somehow, many pick-up artists have made you believe that playing games and manipulating women is THE ONLY way to get a woman and that if you dont do it, youll be classified in the friend zone and good luck getting out of it.

Let me tell you: none of that is true or necessary!

Women are tired of games, lying and manipulation. If you want to stand out, why not try a refreshing maneuver: being honest. This creates a lot of charm for a man as he shows that hes secure in who he is and what he does. Trust me, youll gather a lot more interest from women if you just behave in a relaxed and straightforward way.

So, if your date went well and you spent many hours talking and having fun, you can send a short text or email saying you enjoyed your time together.

The reason many PUAs tell you to wait can probably be explained by the fact that many men appear too eager after a date. The key is to find balance; everything needs to be in moderation. Send her a quick text and see how she responds. You can have a few texts back and forth, but dont make it a full-blown conversation. There is a certain mystique in exchanging fewer words. You can always call the following day to arrange another date.

When guys start playing games, women see through the act in no time. Thats a big turnoffand it can quickly backfire. It immediately shows her that you are insecure and that you went on some cheap website to learn trivial dating techniques that are so transparent most women will run.

I know, a lot of it takes practice and experience. Thats why real players have mastered their own personal brand of flirting and seduction. But dont underestimate yourself. They did it by trial and error, most likely adapting a few techniques to their own style and watching how that works. Theyve adapted it to who they are and what works for THEM. Thats why most standard techniques that PUAs teach dont work well. Or worse, the guys appear like dorks to women when using these methods. And at the end of the day, its not manipulation and lies that will get you to meeting and keeping the woman of your dreams.

So, be smarter than that. If you cultivate a good sense of who you are, accept your imperfections and have pure intentions toward others, you will feel confident. That confidence resonates with the opposite sex. You will feel comfortable calling a woman you like or, perhaps, telling a woman politely that the two of you didnt click. Its that simple, no need to make things more complex than necessary. Life is complicated enough as it is!

Ive mentioned it in my other books and Ill repeat it here again: when a guy waits too long before calling a woman, shell either think youre not interested, youre swinging her among a bunch of others and it wasnt all that serious, or that youre so insecure that youre trying to manipulate her. None of these are good. Dont listen to people who think they know that waiting is good to create chemistry and a sense of anticipation.

The best anticipation you can create is by having a successful and fun date in the first place! Then, shell want to see you again, and not because of your artificial games.