Craig Beck - The Natural Pick Up Artist: Bulletproof Seduction Extended Edition

By Craig Beck

www.CraigBeck.com

What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear; that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to learn about fear, not how to escape from it, Jiddu Krishnamurti

When guys turn up for a Powerfully Confident Bootcamp they are often shaking with fear. The brave decision to attend this extreme and unusual form of personal development training seemed like a good idea at the time, when it was just a payment window on a computer screen. But then in the cold light of day, when we are standing face to face many want nothing more than to tell me to keep the money and just let them go home. To date only one student has bailed out, this is testament to just how important this training is to the many men who go through the process with me each year.

A Powerfully Confident Bootcamp is a two-day training program with me and no more than two other likeminded students. We start with a process that I call the Deep Dive, this is where we talk about fear and those intense feelings of anxiety that prevent guys from laying it all on the line and going after the girl they really want. After I listen to stories that are often very common and similar to one and another I start the Bootcamp with the bad news. I inform my students that one day, no matter what they do they are going to die. Regardless of the decisions they make there will come a time when all the things that they worried about will mean nothing to anybody. All the stress about the opposite sex, all the anxiety spent worrying about what other people may think of them and all the misdirected energy will be a blissful irrelevance.

Fear is a protective reaction of the human mind; it is there to serve a purpose. When you approach the edge of a tall building, fear is very much your best friend. This action of the central nervous system will dramatically extend the duration of your life in situations like that. Where this process falls down is when it tries to force protection on you in environments where you are not really at risk. Walking up to a beautiful woman that you are attracted to and simply talking to her does not put your life at risk and yet our mind tells us that we are doing something very dangerous. Often it will put our limbs into a state of paralysis to force us to avoid the danger. If you have ever attempted to approach a girl when you feel like this and have experienced just how intense the sensations of panic are you will understand that I am not exaggerating here. A recent survey has revealed that the number one biggest fear in America today is public speaking; do you know what came in second? Death was the second most common fear. What this tells us is that people fear speaking in public more than they fear dying!

This may at first glace appear to be a rather silly thought process but in my experience of teaching this material I have often seen that the more intelligent the man the more they experience fear. The biggest threat to your ability to approach and attract women is thinking, or better put thinking too much. My goal in working with students is to get them to the point when they operate entirely subconsciously around women; I want them to get to the point where they very seldom make a conscious decision to approach. You will see from the in field videos at my website that some of the best approaches I make are done with zero planning or forethought. When I find myself talking to a hot woman and I have no idea how I got there, this is a beautiful feeling. In this moment I know I am operating from the most powerful part of my mind, the subconscious.

The Bad News

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life.

Almost everything--all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.

Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet, death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it, and that is how it should be, because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It's life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new, Steve Jobs

Back when I first started out in the media industry as a cocky seventeen-year-old boy, I remember once being interviewed by a local newspaper. I had just been appointed as the new breakfast presenter for Radio Wyvern, in Worcestershire a town near the southern Welsh border with England. At the time I was the youngest morning show host in the country and the pressure was on me to mature fast but also to quickly demonstrate that I was worthy of the risk some poor misguided programme director had taken by putting such a total newbie in this enormous position of power. The newspaper article had been arranged as a favor for the boss and so it was only ever going to be a light hearted affair. I didnt need to be too careful what I said because the journalist had been asked to write something that was nothing much more than a complimentary commercial for my new breakfast show. The depth and weight of those questions would hardly tax me further than whats your favorite color.

It quickly became apparent that I was going to be given twenty harmless if somewhat inane questions to pad out an article about me that they would probably bury somewhere on page thirty seven, just next to the classified ads for surgical support stockings and lost pets. I answered each question quickly and honestly. The journalist would listen to my reply, sigh and scribble something down my reply on his note pad. After four or five questions I realized that I was boring the guy to death. Hey I was seventeen years old, nobody had told me how to speak to the press or even how to answer trivia about myself.

I decided I was going to have to spice up my answers and try to be a little more of a personality, after all I was guessing that was all this poor journo was clinging to for ammunition to write what might be the most tedious piece of copy in his career. After a few more questions I felt like I was doing a little better, the journalist had smiled once and raised his eyebrows a few times. This, I decided meant that I was either doing really well or really bad, I wouldnt know for sure until I saw the actual newspaper the next day or I got called to the boss office for the hair dryer treatment.

Question twelve was what is your biggest fear, I looked him square in the eye and paused a moment. Then I raised one eyebrow, Roger Moore style and said fear, is my only fear everything else is childs play. This answer immediately made me want to vomit. So putrid and contrived was it that on the anniversary of this interview I swear the same gut wrenching, bile-inducing sensation came over me every year for many years that followed, as some sort of divine punishment for saying something so pretentious and appalling.

Here I am twenty-five years later sitting on a train to London and for some reason that memory is as fresh as it was the day I uttered such trite nonsense. Shockingly, I now believe it may have leapt from the grey, murky bog of my mind because I may actually have been right. Now hold on a minute, I know that premise does not defend against such wanton pomposity and I still most deservedly require a good slapping about the chops until I beg for forgiveness. However, fear is what I have come to recognize as the single biggest element that prevents me (and all of us) reaching our true potential and really living the life of our dreams. It is not logic, responsibility or contentment that keeps us trapped in underachievement but rather it is fear that holds the key to our jail cell.