Tina Robbins - Oral Sex for Everybody: Giving and Receiving for Men and Women

Original title: DEVRAME

2008 by Editorial Ocano, S.L. (Barcelona, Spain)

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Contents

Introduction

When we are eating something we enjoy we often say: This melts in your mouth. We are satisfied and we savor the experience. Enjoyment, savor, mouth, and satisfaction; I cannot find better words to begin this hopefully provocative guide about one of the most pleasurable sexual practices there is: oral sex.

Leave all timidity behind and prepare to take advantage of the most thrilling techniques, the most voluptuous kissing and caressing, all designed to drive your lover absolutely wild. This is a complete guide to learning how to both give and take, the most important aspect of oral sex being to join with your partner in climactic union, and getting there by engaging the five senses in a total communion.

Often we find ourselves burdened with inhibitions, taboos, or bouts of shyness, all of which hinder our relationships. If this is the case with you, then you have found the perfect book. Keep reading, and you will learn to free your body to go beyond your mental limits and completely enjoy an exciting session of oral lovemaking. Passionate sexual play enables us to explore our partners body and feelings. It is a time for letting the imagination fly and for abandoning oneself completely to caresses, kisses, whispers, nibbles, and massages, all of which are part of the thrilling art of oral sex.

I will explain it all, step by step, without any hurry. Haste, indeed, is the worst enemy of sex. We are going to relish every moment, every gesture, each caress, allowing ourselves to unlock the most carefully guarded secrets of our deepest desire. Chapter by chapter we will go forward, sorting out the preliminaries, the different techniques (whether for him or her), different positions, the erogenous zones so enthralling to your lover, and a long list of fantasies and role playing which will enable you to enjoy sex as never before.

All will be presented in a form that is both pleasant and fun, for this is exactly what we are talking about: having great fun, and freeing oneself from hang ups, allowing yourself to be carried away by the moment. Oral sex is the most intimate and sensual form of contact, more so even than intercourse itself. To be brought to orgasm or to bring someone else to orgasm requires certain skills. No one is born with these skills and too many times we feel inhibited in communicating to our lover what we like or what excites us and ignites our passion. This play of strokes, rubs, kisses, wandering hands, lips, and tongue over the most sensitive parts of your partner will make your relationship much more fulfilling.

I suggest that you and your lover read this book together. I offer it for couples who wish to bring more creativity into their relationships, for self-conscious lovers who have yet to allow themselves to fully let go, for singles who want to try new things, and, generally, for all those who love good sex, in all its splendor!

Foreplay

Many couples believe that foreplay, that magic opportunity for seduction when the five senses begin to awaken sexual desire, starts with direct stimulation of the genitals, or, worse still, oral sex itself.

Oral sex, as its name clearly indicates, is sex, and therefore doesnt count as foreplay. Sure, sometimes you crave a quicky, and this certainly can result in a satisfying experience. But, in general, a sensual and slow dalliance helps open up our senses as well as better prepare us for orgasm.

We are talking here about caressing, kissing, murmurings, erotic massage, which, by themselves, can make for fulfilling sex without the need for penetration. Sex based on these preliminaries, without intercourse itself, is known as petting.

G OOD C OMMUNICATIONS

For starters, good communication, using both verbal and visual cues, is essentialjust as essential as stretching out comfortably in the bed, turning off the lights, and letting go of any worries before getting started. It is important that each partner appreciates and praises the appearance and desirability of the other. It is the time to leave behind all fears of looking foolish and to break through any barriers of false modesty. Leave behind all taboos and prejudices, tell him or her what you like, what you want him or her to do, how he or she can give you more pleasure. Do this with words, looks, and little signals to indicate your wants and needs.

In the case of oral sex, fears and embarrassments often come up, which are easily overcome if we learn to communicate more clearly with our partner. There are men who love to get fellatio, but do not like to give cunnilingus, as well as women who feel ashamed to ask for it when the opportunity presents itself. It also happens that there are men who dive right into 69 without clearing it first with their lover. All of this provokes uneasiness which could be easily avoided with a simple look, gesture, or word.

P ROCEED WITH C ALM

In general, a man requires between two and three minutes of direct genital stimulation to achieve climax. This is not the case with the ladies, who need twenty to thirty minutes of sexual sport to reach orgasm. In addition, women usually require an extra dose of foreplay: kisses, caresses, sweet nothings, and glances make for a more fulfilling and satisfying act. We can employ any of these at any time during intercourse. Experienced couples know how to dole out these delights; they know when to hold back, they know when to speed up; they give them out affectionately as required to the different parts of their lovers body. The key is to listen , to sense your partners desires and totally satisfy his or her need.

Haste can be the worst enemy of sex. Take your time. Savor the moment and relax. Anticipation is erotic and one of the most exciting factors in a relationship. Above all, avoid routines. There is nothing less exciting than a couple caught in predictability. Surprise your lover with new moves and different positions. Dont tip off your moves beforehand! Present your lover with new experiences. This is the best-kept secret to being a good lover.

U SING A LL F IVE S ENSES

Using our senses is the best aphrodisiac, as long as you dont squander the multiple possibilities they offer and discover the secrets of how to make the most of them.