Real ideas that real-life couples can put into practice immediatelythats what I love about Red-Hot Monogamy! All the biblical truth and godly love life advice Ive ever heardand moreis simply and beautifully wrapped up in this one practical book. Speaking at marriage conferences about my own lost-and-found love, Ive been recommending great books on sex for years. Not anymore! Bill and Pams perspectives make Red-Hot Monogamy perfect for everyoneprofitable for difficult, good, or even great marriages! I wish Id had it years agofor my own marriage enrichment and to recommend to others. And I thought my married love life sizzled before reading this book!
Nancy Sebastian Meyer, national speaker
and author of Beyond Expectations: Finding
Joy in Your Marriage
Bill and Pam Farrel know what it takes to make red-hot monogamy a priority. This book not only tells you why investing in your marriage is important, it tells you how to make it happen! Practical, humorous, creative, and chock-full of ideas to make your love life all it can be, Red-Hot Monogamy is a book all married couples need to read!
Jill Savage, founder and executive director,
Hearts at Home, and author of Is There
Really Sex After Kids?
After reading Red-Hot Monogamy, I was convinced and convicted that sex could be even better! This is a great resource to spice up your marriage and help your intimate relationship be more of what Godintended. Thank you, Bill and Pam, for your encouragement NOT to settle for lukewarm. Red-Hot Monogamy can help any couple turnup the heat!
Kendra Smiley, conference speaker and
author of several books, including Be the
Parent (Moody, January 2006).
What a wonderful book! I could have used this over the past 20 years and will be using it in the years to come.
Steve Arterburn, bestselling author of Every
Mans Battle and Healing Is a Choice
Why settle for lukewarm lovemaking when you can have red-hot monogamy? Bill and Pam have done a great job addressing a wide range of sexual topics without making it feel like a how-to hand-book. Tank you for not over spiritualizing or dancing around difficult topics. Red-Hot Monogamy is full or real ideas, tips, and suggestions to make married sex fun, regardless of what phase of life you may be facing.
Marita Littauer, president, CLASServices
Inc., speaker, and author of The Praying
Wives Club and Love Extravagantly
Unless otherwise indicated, all Scripture quotations are taken from the HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION. NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by the International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved.
Verses marked NASB are taken from the New American Standard Bible, 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995 by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission. (www.Lockman.org)
Verses marked MSG are taken from The Message. Copyright by Eugene H. Peterson 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002. Used by permission of NavPress Publishing Group.
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RED-HOT MONOGAMY
Copyright 2006 by Bill and Pam Farrel
Published by Harvest House Publishers
Eugene, Oregon 97402
www.harvesthousepublishers.com
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Farrel, Bill, 1959
Red-hot monogamy / Bill and Pam Farrel.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN-13: 978-0-7369-1608-0 (pbk.)
ISBN-10: 0-7369-1608-3
1. Sex in marriageReligious aspectsChristianity. 2. SpousesReligious life. I. Farrel, Pam, 1959 II. Title.
BV4596.M3.F375 2006
248.844dc22
2005026892
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My angel, my lover, and my best friend,
You have taken me to heights I never knew existed,
You helped me see possibilities
I never dreamed Id see.
Thank you for making red-hot monogamy
an incredible journey!
Bill
Weve had 25 years of red-hot monogamy
how about at least 25 more?
Your love has given me wings to soar.
You have been my mirror, and I am forever grateful.
Your angel,
Pam
We love because God first loved us.
1 JOHN 4:19 GNT
O n a cold, clear January night, the stars flickered in the sky like individual candles calling lovers into one anothers arms. Inside, the lights were romantically dim. Music softly serenaded lovers as they reminisced over 25 years of memories.
Anita Renfroe then stepped to the podium in the ballroom and announced, We are here tonight to celebrate the righteous red-hot monogamy of Bill and Pam Farrel. The crowd laughed as we looked at each other in shocked amusement.
While we were recovering from her statement, our oldest son, Brock, stepped to the podium to say grace at the Twenty-fifth Anniversary Dinner Gala we were sharing with 300 of our closest friends. He introduced himself by saying, Hi, everyone. I am Brock Farrel, the first product of my parents righteous red-hot monogamy.
At that moment the concept for this book was conceived. It was embarrassingly awesome to have our love referred to as red-hot monogamy. In our hearts we know this is the dream of every married couple. We were created as sexual beings with an incredible capacity for pleasurable experiences. We were created with an intense desire to be connected to another human. We were also created with incredible emotional potential. As a result, sex can be the greatest source of pleasure on earth or it can be the greatest source of disappointment and insecurity. Red-Hot Monogamy is our attempt to help you develop a love life you will love.
I S I T R EALLY T HAT R ED- H OT?
You may wonder why we chose to write this
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