Endorsements
Rejection so easily entangles us. It creates fear, it stunts our emotional growth and trust in people, it triggers feelings of unworthiness, and it becomes a mechanism of self-protection. This book offers wisdom in how to react to rejection and clearly shows how we can turn heartbreaking wounds into something purposeful and redemptive. Because rejection is inevitable, this book is a must-read!
Lauren Scruggs , New York Times bestselling author, wellness enthusiast, lifestyle blogger, and entrepreneur
One thing is for certain: we need more voices like Kaits in the world, helping us navigate the hard-to-talk-about subjects like rejection, heartbreak, and insecurity. Unafraid to bring out the real talk (with a perfect amount of candor), Kait invites us into a bigger story of what life can look like when we stop avoiding the hard stuff and start fighting back. Dont be afraid to lean all the way into this bookyoure in the best hands!
Hannah Brencher , TED speaker and author of Fighting Forward
Kaits honesty and vulnerability will keep you nodding your head and turning the page. So many relationship books are written by married people who dont understand todays unique challenges. So many of them focus on just helping you find love. Kait has written a book that helps you look inward, deal with shame, and move forward with hope. If youve ever felt pain from love, Kaits story will help you find healing.
Jonathan Pokluda , host of the Becoming Something podcast and bestselling author of Welcome to Adulting and Outdated
Kait has written a phenomenal guide for taking radical ownership of our stories by showing us how to maximize the power that resides within our pain. Through no-holds-barred vulnerability and the willingness to tell the unfiltered truth about lifes messiness, Thank You for Rejecting Me will show you how to live your boldest, bravest, and strongest life possible. My friends, this is a must-read!
Mike Foster , author, counselor, and host of the Fun Therapy podcast
Kait flips the all-too-familiar relationship so many of us have with rejection. Instead of hating it, she teaches us, through her own story, that the rejection we (meaning every human being on the planet) experience on macro and micro levels every single day can be an access point to untapped growth, freedom, and Gods presence. Thank you, Kait, for teaching us with grace and nuance that if we have the courage to press in, rejection can actually be one of our greatest allies.
Kat Harris , author of Sexless in the City and host of The Refined Collective podcast
Thank You for Rejecting Me smashes fear in the face with a fierce uppercut and will help you refocus on your promising future with God. Youll crack up at Kaits playful humor, but youll also weep through some of her challenging stories and walk away thinking differently about your painful past. Grab this book!
Rashawn Copeland , founder of Im So Blessed Daily and author of Start Where You Are
Nothing holds us back like rejection. The memory of past rejection and the fear of future rejection cause us to live small and afraid showing up as only a sliver of our full selves, revealing only a curated shell of who we really are. And in the process, we miss out on so much. We miss out on the beauty of being truly seen, known, and loved. We miss out on finding out who God created us to be. But in Thank You for Rejecting Me , Kait shows us how to break free from that crippling fear and step into true freedom. This book will change your life. Im buying copies for every woman I know.
Stephanie May Wilson , author, podcaster, and speaker
Rejection can either break you or remake you. Kaits story is a vulnerable, beautiful, humorous look into how heartbreak can be turned to hope. Youll laugh, youll cry, and then youll be challenged to see yourself as the woman God made you to be: beautiful, loved, and accepted just as you are.
Debra Fileta , professional counselor, creator of TrueLoveDates.com, and host of the Love + Relationships podcast
Half Title Page
Title Page
Copyright Page
2021 by Kait Warman
Published by Baker Books
a division of Baker Publishing Group
PO Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
www.bakerbooks.com
Ebook edition created 2021
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ISBN 978-1-4934-2884-7
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Dedication
For my amazing Heart of Dating community.
I never would have had the courage to speak publicly
on these pages without you guys rallying behind me.
Thank you for listening, contributing,
sharing your own stories, and believing in me.
I truly consider you family.
We are in this boat together.
Contents
Cover
Endorsements
Half Title Page
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Foreword
Introduction
Not Today, Rejection
1. Neon Bikinis and Cellulite
Fighting Insecurity
2. Here I Am
Fighting Self-Hatred
3. Never Have I Ever
Fighting Sexual Shame
4. Sorry, Not Sorry
Fighting Not Fitting In
5. The Ugly Cry
Fighting Heartbreak
6. Now You See Me, Now You Dont
Fighting Abandonment
Fighting Failure
8. Im Not Crazy
Fighting Abuse
9. Big Little Lies
Fighting Betrayal
10. All by Myself
Fighting FOMO
11. Is This Thing On?
Fighting the Silence of God
Conclusion
This Is Me
Acknowledgments
Notes
About the Author
Back Ads
Back Cover
Foreword
We all have felt the sting and pain of rejection. Whether or not we want to admit it, we stuff emotions down and hide from the reality of what rejection sears into our psyche. Who wants to walk around with the label REJECTED written on their chest?
As a writer, teacher, and church leader, I have spoken to countless women in my years of ministry. Ive listened to their stories and sat with them in their tears of grief, shame, and hurt, and Ive found that the pain in these womens lives often started from a similar root: rejection.