Susan Rabin - 101 Ways to Flirt: How to Get More Dates and Meet Your Mate

How to deliver a sexy handshake.

Four flirting secrets that will really get you noticed.

The one simple object every successful flirt needs to carry.

Flirtatious maneuvers that can change your outlook, your attitude, and even your life.

In this wise and witty guide, a master flirt teaches all the skills you need to enhance self-confidence, sharpen communication, and help you approach new people with assurance. It wont be long before you fill up your social calendar with interesting friends, professional contacts, datesor a lifelong partner.

SUSAN G. RABIN, M.A., is a relationship therapist, communication and flirting coach, international speaker, and president of Dynamic Communications, Inc., a company dedicated to making relationships work and is director of The School of Flirting. She appears frequently on radio and television, including The Oprah Winfrey Show, The Today Show, Good Morning America, The OReilly Report, as well as on the Learning Channel and CNN. Susan was the former Family Living/Sex Education Coordinator for the New York City Board of Education, and is the author of How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace and Lucky in Love (both available in Plume editions). She lives and works in New York City.

Visit www.dynamiccommunications.com and www.schoolofflirting.com

BARBARA LAGOWSKI is a former editor and the author of fourteen books.

Also by Susan Rabin with Barbara Lagowski
How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace Cyberflirt

Ways to Flirt

How to Get More Dates
and Meet Your Mate

SUSAN RABIN

with
Barbara Lagowski

PLUME

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Rabin, Susan.
101 ways to flirt: how to get more dates and meet your mate /
Susan Rabin with Barbara Lagowski.
p. cm.
ISBN 978-1-101-55477-7
1. Interpersonal relations. 2. Interpersonal attraction. 3. Man-woman relationships.
I. Lagowski, Barbara J. II. Title.
HM132.R23 1997
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To all my readers who made my first book a bestseller and requested yet another. Thanks for your appreciation and inspiration. May you enjoy and learn from 101 Ways to Flirt as you did from How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace.

To all my new readers, I hope you enjoy this book as your introduction to the art of flirting and will want to refer to How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace for more helpful hints to becoming The Master Flirt.

To Penguin books for establishing my credibility and success in the field of interpersonal relationships. To family, friends, Stuart, Kristin, Jeff and Frannie for being proud and enjoying my success.

I wish to acknowledge the myriad of readers who let me know how much they enjoyed How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace, and how that book empowered them to reach out, have more fun, and change their lives. I hope this book, 101 Ways to Flirt, continues the process of becoming.

Thanks, Sandra Martin. You are the best agent and friend a flirt can have.

Thanks to Peter Borland, my editor of How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace. He engaged me with his ideas for 101 Ways to Flirt.

Thank you to Jennifer Moore, my current editor, who has shown her enthusiasm and belief in this project.

Thanks, Barbara Lagowski. We are of one voice. It is a pleasure working with you again. Lets keep doing it, Barbara.

Thanks to my friends and family. Our relationships fuel my fire.

Thanks to all the men and women who have touched my life and allowed me to flirt with them daily. Life is so much fun when you relate positively to people, and even unpleasant communications can be turned around with skilled flirting.

One morning, while boarding a train to Philadelphia, I was confronted with a decision. In the aisle seat immediately to my left, there was a nice-looking man rummaging through his briefcase. Sitting with him might give me an opportunity to flirt. In the rear of the car there were more empty seats than I could count. Choosing one of them would give me a desperately needed hour and a half of peace and quiet. What would I do... take a risk? Or take a nap? The other passengers were kneecapping me now with their luggage in an effort to pass through the narrow aisle. Throwing caution to the wind, I slid into the window seat facing the handsome man.

Minutes later, the train chugged out of the stationand I was already certain I had made the wrong choice. Although my seatmate did not speak to me directly, his body language was making me feel very unwelcome. He would neither catch my gaze nor return my smile. He fidgeted constantly in his seat as if something (or somebody!) was making him terribly uncomfortable. Embarrassed that I might be the cause of this much misery, I hid behind my morning paper, peeking at my fellow traveler from behind the op-ed page. When I saw him pull a popular biography out of his bag, I hoped that he might finally relax. Instead, he squinted his eyes at the page, as though he were trying to read in a dark cave.

I simply couldnt stand his discomfort any longer. I laid my paper in my lap, smiled at him, and asked, as pleasantly as possible, You seem to be having trouble reading. Would you like me to move so you can sit closer to the window?