Fran Greene - The Flirting Bible: Your Ultimate Photo Guide to Reading Body Language, Getting Noticed, and Meeting More People Than You Ever Thought Possible

Your ULTIMATE PHOTO GUIDE to Reading Body Language, Getting Noticed, and Meeting More People Than You Ever Thought Possible

FRAN GREENE

Former Director of Flirting at Match.com

TO MY MOTHER, ROZZIE GREENE, WHO WAS THE MOST FABULOUS FLIRT.
THANKS FOR GIVING ME THE FLIRTING GENE. I LOVE YOU.

AND TO MY TERRIFIC HUSBAND, DR. JAMES MULLIN, ALSO KNOWN AS EXHIBIT A.
I LOVE YOU MORE TODAY THAN YESTERDAY AND LESS THAN TOMORROW.

Move One:
SMILE to Make Yourself More Approachable and Attractive

Move Two:
MAKE EYE CONTACT to Establish Trust and Intimacy

Move Three:
USE THE FLIRTATIOUS HANDSHAKE to Make an Unforgettable First Impression

Move Four:
MAINTAIN PROPER DISTANCE and Space to Get Close

Move Five:
SPEAK WITH APPROPRIATE BODY LANGUAGE to Stand Out

Move Six:
PRACTICE THE ART OF THE FLIRTATIOUS TOUCH

Move Seven:
LEARN WHAT MEN DO When They Want to Attract a Woman

Move Eight:
LEARN WHAT WOMEN DO When They Want to Attract a Man

Move Nine:
WIN OVER YOUR FLIRTING INTEREST with Mirroring

Move One:
WORK THE ROOM to Stand Out

Move Two:
MAKE THE FIRST MOVEGreat Opening Lines to Find Love

Move Three:
LISTEN to Make You a People Magnet

Move Four:
USE FLIRTING PROPS to Get Noticed and Start Conversations

My own flirting story is the inspiration for this book and the reason I met the love of my life. It happened to me, and it can so easily happen to you. And its proof positive that flirting can spark love.

I have always been an outgoing person, but during my twenties, I made putting myself out there my full-time job. Determined to find a husband, I did everything in my power to make it happen: blind dates, singles events, bar outings, personal ad placements, cruises, partiesyou name it. I flirted anywhere and everywhere and made each event an exciting journey. Several adventures led to dates, others to boyfriends, some to great one-time meetings, and many to no-thank-yous. A few even led to broken hearts. Still, I never regretted trying.

As a full-time flirt, I rarely waited for someone to approach me. It just seemed such a waste of precious time. Going to a singles bar or event alone motivated me to flirt. If I didnt, the evening would be painfully boring, frustrating, and disappointing. (I know many of you are thinking, No way, not me! Going somewhere alone is too scary and overwhelming. Rest assured, in the pages to come, I will help you through this process. Eventually, you may even look forward to solo-sailing! Trust me.)

Whether alone or with friends, I flirted no matter where I went: dining out, attending a concert, waiting in line, getting gas, talking to the letter carrier, even sitting in classlocation never mattered. I was always on the flirt. To me, flirting made every situation more enjoyable and fun, made me feel good and others feel great, and increased the chances of my dream coming true.

Like anyone, I felt the occasional frustration or discouragement looking for love. But I never gave up (though I did let go of the myth that love just happens). I knew that anything important in life takes work. I must admit, I was envious of those who said that love just found themlucky them! But I persevered.

One day, after a lengthy meeting, I went to lunch with a group of colleagues. There were eight of us, seven women and one man. Jim worked at a sister office so I had met him for the first time earlier that day. He was nice and good-looking, so I decided to sit next to him at lunch to try out some of the flirting moves I had picked up and perfected from my flirting fieldwork. I was complimentary, funny, leaned in when he talked, smiled, maintained warm eye contact, listened attentively, and showed interest. Over lunch, we had a great time getting to know each other, but we left it at that.

Fast forward three months. Jim came to our office for another meeting. After it ended, I offered him a ride to the airport. He said yes but on the condition that I went to dinner with him beforehand. I agreed (of course!).

As we left for the restaurant, we passed the office of a woman who knew I was not married. She jokingly yelled out, Fran, is that your new husband? Jim put his arm on my shoulder and replied, I should be so lucky! His words made me smile from ear to ear, and I quickly whispered back, No, I should be so lucky.

Three years later, we were married.

My story is not unique. During the past twenty years, I have taught how-to-flirt workshops to thousands of single, divorced, and widowed men and women and have watched many of them find love. It is truly an amazing thing. This book has grown out of their personal struggles with how and where to meet new people, as well as their successes. (If my success rate is any indication, you may well find the love of your life by following my lessons!)

As I have taught them, I will teach you. I will show you how to master the art of flirting and reading body languageand I promise youll have fun doing it! But just as I am committed to giving you a step-by-step guide that will better enable you to find love and excitement, you will have to be ready, willing, and able to flirt like a proor at least try! If you do, youll experience limitless rewards.

Flirting works! Now lets get started.

Forever your flirt,

OUR DESIRE TO FIND SOMEONE WITH WHOM TO SHARE OUR LIVES bonds all of us together. Yet often, we approach this task passively and haphazardly, leaving it to fate or chance. Many of us spend years wishing and hoping for the loves of our lives to come knocking. Wouldnt it be great if you could snap your fingers and s/he would arrive on the scene?

I, too, wish that could be true, but consider the following: Anything really important in life takes time, work, perseverance, and resilience. For most of us, finding love is a process. Flirting makes that journey fun, exciting, and challenging.

What is flirting exactly? Its a series of nonverbal and verbal actions we do when expressing our interest in or attraction to another person. Flirting is playful, nonthreatening, and sometimes subconscious. Its about displaying and reading body language.

Know how to flirt, and you can meet people ordinarily too terrifying to approach. Through flirting, you get to express yourself in inventive and ingenious ways, create a stimulating environment, and set the stage for romantic interest. Not only is it exhilarating for the flirter, but its also a real ego boost for the flirtee. When you flirt, you feel energized and confidentfeelings that become your love building blocks, the foundation for your journey.

Where may your journey take you? It can take you anywhere! A flirtatious encounter could, for example, lead to a shared interest, friendship, professional connection, romance, relationship, marriage, or one-time encounter you will remember forever. No matter the outcome, a sense of magic surrounds flirtation.