Susan Rabin - How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace: The Smart Guide to Flirting

What better way is there to start a relationship than to flirt? In this innovative book youll learn the fine art of relating to others and attracting them to you, and youll soon be making connectionsinstead of excuses. Expert flirt Susan Rabin will teach you:

How to make eye contact and the flirting triangle work for you

How to master the five Ws of (not-so) small talk

The best way to start and end a good conversation

How to make techniques like the echo, the third ear, and the three Rs work for you

How to turn self-denial and self-destruction into self-esteem and self-support

The best way to handle the sting of rejection and get back in the saddle

How to end a relationship with Mr. or Ms. Not-Quite-Right and still respect yourself in the morning.

SUSAN G. RABIN, M.A., is a relationship therapist, communication and flirting coach, international speaker, and president of Dynamic Communications, Inc., a company dedicated to making relationships work and is director of The School of Flirting. She appears frequently on radio and television, including The Oprah Winfrey Show, The Today Show, Good Morning America, The OReilly Report, as well as on the Learning Channel and CNN.

Susan was the former Family Living/Sex Education Coordinator for the New York City Board of Education and is also the author of 101 Ways to Flirt and Lucky in Love (both available in a Plume edition). She lives and works in New York City.

BARBARA LAGOWSKI is a former editor and the author of fourteen books.

Visit www.dynamiccommunications.com and
www.schoolofflirting.com

Also by Susan Rabin

with Barbara Lagowski:

Cyberflirt

101 Ways to Flirt

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Copyright Susan Rabin, 1993

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Portions of this book appeared in Complete Woman and Cosmopolitan.

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Rabin, Susan.

How to attract anyone, anytime, anyplace: the smart guide to flirting / by Susan

Rabin with Barbara Lagowski.

p. cm.

ISBN: 978-1-101-66422-3

1. Man-woman relationships. 2. Interpersonal attraction. 3. Etiquette.

I. Lagowski, Barbara J. II. Title.

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This book is dedicated to the salmon who swim upstream, and my loving family and friends who helped me with my struggle. I hope I can help others with theirs.

To my mom and dad. I wish they could read this book, but I am sure they know of my happiness and success, and I want to thank them for giving me the intelligence, personality, ability to persevere, and education so that I could make this book happen.

To my three children, Stuart, Jeff, and Frannie, who kept me on my toes as a single parent, and gave me a reason to work hard and persist and above all a desire to learn to love well. They taught me lessons of life not found in the school books, ones that only experience and motherhood can provide. Sometimes raising children alone felt like an endless struggle, but one well worth it, and I am very proud of each of them. They turned out to be exceptional grown-ups.

To my sister, Jewel, whose name only begins to describe her precious qualities. She is loved and appreciated in ways words cannot express, and was always there for me. I thank God she will read this book and enjoy my successes with me.

To the best sister-in-law a person could have, Laura. Never too busy or tired to listen (and listen well) to my ramblings. I hope to fulfill my promise to her yet. Laura, the chauffeur is on the way, shes just a little late.

To my brother, a real treat of a guy who taught me early what a good man and loving brother is, and gave me my first inkling of how different men are from women, and just how okay that is.

To Ben, my brother-in-law to whom I owe my sense of humor and love of sports. He is a very good man and made me feel special and cared for especially when the chips were down.