Shaunti Feldhahn - Through a Mans Eyes: Helping Women Understand the Visual Nature of Men

Ive spoken at hundreds of events for women on the topic of marriage, and I can honestly not think of a more needed book. Is it possible (please!) that we can finally have an honest conversation in the church about the visual nature of men without guys being called creeps and women being called frigid? My deepest prayer is that couples will read this book and be able to talk without judgment about this reality for men in our modern society and for their marriages. For many couples, this will be the most important book they read this yearand maybe in their entire relationship.

K ATHI L IPP , author of The Husband Project, Happy Habits for Every Couple, and the Hot Mama series

Women, be brave. This is all the stuff your man has been trying to tell you about how hes wired, but didnt know how to say. This is the stuff every mom of a boy needs to know. Whether you have an issue you need to address, are curious about how to support a man or guide a son, or simply need reassurance that the male wiring was intended to be a good thing, this resource will help. This eye-opening book is the go-to resource for a whole new generation of women who care about men.

S HANNON E THRIDGE , MA, relationship coach, speaker, and author of many books including the best-selling Every Womans Battle series, The Sexually Confident Wife, and The Passion Principles

The visual nature of men is an unchangeable reality of life, love, and marriage. And it is an issue few women understand. That lack of knowledge creates a lot of relational problems and barriers to experiencing intimacy. Finally, here is a book that will empower women with the truth about how God made men and how to relate to them with understanding. I love this book and am so thankful to Craig and Shaunti for writing it.

J IMMY AND K AREN E VANS , co-hosts of the syndicated television program MarriageToday with Jimmy and Karen

Finally a book to help women understand what even the most honorable man or boy faces today! Many wives personalize a mans visual nature as evidence that her good-willed husband does not love her. Of course, all he can say is Well, I do love you as he battles to avoid the swimming areas and the Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition, or to stay accountable with his Internet viewing. And when men have given in to those temptations, and dont understand the pain they inflict on their wives, their wives dont know how to handle it. In Through a Mans Eyes, every wife, mom, counselor, and pastor has the resource weve been waiting for.

E MERSON E GGERICHS , best-selling author of Love and Respect

This is a home-run title on such a desperately needed topic! Through a Mans Eyes opened my eyes to so many things that men struggle with and served as the springboard for some very helpful and healthy conversations with my husband. I appreciate the courage Shaunti and Craig had to address this subject and the grace with which they did so. Highly recommended for any woman who wants to understand her husband, son, boyfriend, or other men in her life better.

C RYSTAL P AINE , founder of MoneySavingMom.com and New York Times best-selling author

Oh, how I wish Id had this resource thirty-two years ago when I was a new wife. Even though Ive been married for many years, I learned so much on the pages of this book. If you have a man in your life, you need this resource! Thank you, Shaunti and Craig, for giving women the gift of understanding.

J ILL S AVAGE , CEO of Hearts at Home and author of No More Perfect Moms

Reading this book made me think Craig and Shaunti had somehow installed a hidden camera in my brain! Their insights into the male thought process are incredibly accurate. This book will help women develop a deeper understanding of men, and consequently will create deeper levels of intimacy in their relationships.

D AVE W ILLIS , founder of StrongerMarriages.org and author of iVow: Secrets to a Stronger Marriage

Through a Mans Eyes picks up where For Women Only left off, in giving me (Barb) insight into understanding the visual nature of men. For years weve told couples around the world to make sure they buy a copy of the book. This new book is excellent! So compelling we couldnt put it down. Thank you, Shaunti and Craig, for writing more on these crucial differences between men and women. It gives couples everywhere the capacity to talk about them.

D R . G ARY AND B ARB R OSBERG , Americas Family Coaches

Any woman (or man!) who reads this book will have a much better understanding of the visual nature of men and boys. As I read this book, words like refreshing, challenging, insightful, grace, practical, and helpful kept popping into my head. Shaunti and Craig are two of my favorite authors, researchers, and friends, and I respect and admire both of them. Putting these two people together to write this book makes it not only a stroke of genius but a resource that will bring health and understanding to thousands of women who need to comprehend how men think and react to visual stimulation. The answers to the questions about the effect of pornography on men and boys could save many a relationship.

J IM B URNS , P H D, president of HomeWord and author of Teaching Your Kids Healthy Sexuality and The Purity Code (for teens and preteens)

Men have long needed their hidden sexual wiring exposed along with the challenges it brings. And women have long needed this enlightenment and the compassion for their men that surely comes with it. Clearly, a must-read!

D R . R OBERT L EWIS , founder of Mens Fraternity and producer of Marriage Oneness

This is a book that all husbands should want their wives to read. Through a Mans Eyes takes women on a journey into the minds of men and shows them how even nice guys struggle with the onslaught of visual temptation they face every day. Thankfully, it also shows women how to be compassionate, wise, and encouraging in dealing with this aspect of their husbands lives.

M ARK AND S USAN M ERRILL , founders of Family First, All Pro Dad, and iMOM

This is a much-needed book! Every wife, girlfriend, or mom needs to read it and then be encouraged because she has finally cracked the secret code and understands something that is a daily part of life for every male on the planet. Only with true understanding can true intimacy thriveand this will get you there.

D RS . L ES AND L ESLIE P ARROTT , authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

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