Shaunti Feldhahn - For Young Women Only. What You Need to Know About How Guys Think

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H ave you ever wondered what the guys you hang out with are really thinking and feeling? Has your boyfriend ever completely shut down on you, leaving you wondering why a totally minor incident ticked him off so much? Do you ever find yourself wishing that the cute but un talkative guy in class would open up a bit more?

Would it matter if you understood the unique way guys are wired?

Whether youre reading this book for fun, curiosity, or out of desperation to understand guys, we believe you will come away with a brand-new perspective on how guys think that will affect your life in high school, college, and beyond.

This chart shows the six insights the book is going to cover, These six surprises help us move past our surface under-standing (what we assume about guys) and take us inside to what these guys are really feeling at their core.

The short answer: from the guys themselves.

The longer answer: In 2004, Shaunti wrote a book called For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men. That little book explained a bunch of things that women just tend not to get about men, and it became a bestseller. Its been talked about on TV and radio, and Shaunti has had speaking engagements about it all across the country.

People started asking Shaunti for a follow-up book that would teach the same concepts, but in a way that would better relate to you as teenagers. They wanted answers to the question: What dont young women already know about guys that they really need to know?

We figured this need was a no-brainer. What teenage girl wouldnt love to have some previously undiscovered insight into what guys are really thinking and feeling?

So we began our researchand discovered that getting teenage guys to honestly share their deepest needs and fears wasnt easy. We eventually hit on the right formula, and held lots of confidential meetings (focus groups) with groups of teen- and college-age malesand conducted informal interviews with guys everywhere. We also did a ton of test surveys, stopping guys in malls, in coffee shops, and on the street. When we promised the guys that their names would never be revealed, many of them overcame their usual fear of baring their souls. And, wow, did we learn some fascinating things!

We hired several experts to help us test whether everything wed been learning by just talking to guys was true. They helped us design and conduct a scientific survey of four hundred guys from all over the country who were between the ages of fifteen and twenty to see how they really thought and felt about a bunch of different things.

For Young Women Only is all about the guys fascinating answers from that survey and all those interviews. Because its a short book, instead of trying to cover everything, we are focusing on things that girls tend not to get about guys. Weve divided our findings into the six insights on the chart, all of which are backed up by statistical evidence. Each chapter of the book will cover one of those six insights. We think youll be amazed by some of the surprises, just like we were.

Occasionally we also include some survey results or quotes from For Women Only (FWO). That survey included men all over the country from ages twenty-one to seventy-five and was followed up with informal interviews of many more, weve included a little of that information because sometimes it helps to see what guys will be like a few years down the road. So really, youre getting the benefit of two surveys and two books for the price of one!

The best and most important part of hearing the truth about guys from guys is that it helps us really know and believe its true.

In this book we want to move you from the place of wishing certain things about guys to knowing the truth about themright from their own mouths. And when you know the truth, you will have the opportunity to make better, smarter decisions about how you interact with the guys you know. Hopefully, those new choices will help you as you relate to your guy friends, boyfriend, and even family members.