Kimberly Peters - More Sex, Better Sex: A Couples Guide to Stronger Relationships & Better Sex

A Couples Guide to Stronger

Relationships and Better Sex!

By

Kimberly Peters

All rights Reserved 2015 How-to Mastery

Disclaimer

T he materials in this book are designed for educational purposes only and are not intended to diagnose, treat or other instruct anyone on how to deal with sexually or health related problems, diseases or medical issues. Every person and every situation is different and it is the sole responsibility of the reader to determine which information is relevant for their own situation and application. The writers, publishers, and distributors of this book are not responsible in any way for the use or application of any or all parts of this publication.

Introduction

S ex is a beautiful thing and the most intimate way that two people can express their love for one another Whether it be a gentle and loving kiss first thing in the morning or an amazing roll your eyes back in your head orgasm after some intense lovemaking, sex can create an entirely new dimension to everyones marriage or relationship.

But sex is more than a physical response to your biological urges. Sex is a complex combination of physical, mental and emotional attitudes and feeling. For some it comes naturally while other may fight a constant battle to have enjoyable sex.

How to Make Sex Better will show you some ways to get more from your sex lives. Some things you never thought mattered or even thought about at all. But these things often make the difference between just going through the motions to having an extremely rewarding sex life and an unbreakable bond in your relationship.

So whether you want to rekindle your passion or just make your partner feel better and improve your relationship, this is the right book for you. It is not long and most people will be able to read it in one or two sessions. But dont rush it. Take your time and understand what you are reading. Even more important is understanding what really applies to you and your partner.

Then take it slow and do some of the things we suggest throughout these pages. The result will be a closer bond with your partner and the very best and most rewarding sex of your life.

Its All About Two

T he best sex occurs when both partners want to make the experience the very best it can be for the other one. If you are reading this book to make sex better for just you, then we have a little attitude reconditioning to do first. Sex just cannot be at its best when either partner is thinking about just themselves.

As we said in the introduction, sex is more than a physical response to our biological needs. It is a combination of many physical, emotional and moral components. Failure to understand this and take all of these components into consideration and you are not likely to get the results you want.

While we will explain each component in more detail what we need to first understand is that unless we are talking about masturbation, the sex act requires two people. (Actually it can be more than two people but thats another book!) That means there are two people whose needs have to be considered if the sex is to be the very best possible. It is only when both partners needs are met that the sex can be great for both people.

We also need to understand that when we talk about great sex we are talking about a heck of a lot more than an awesome roll your eyes back orgasm. Orgasm is only one part of the sex act and the feeling, though wonderful and intense, only lasts for a short time. It is the time before, during and after the sex act that helps make it wonderful and special.

This means that we should be thinking about not only ourselves when it comes to sex but about our partner as well. We need to understand their feeling, moods and other factors so that we are more in touch with each other. This is how we instinctively know what we should do or not do in the moment. This is where we make the decisions that help us turn good sex into deeper and more gratifying sex.

There are people in this world who only care about the physical response and the physical feeling and sensations of the sex act. While those feelings are pleasurable and wonderful by themselves, they are but a small part of the meaning and depth of sex. If physical response were the only aspect of sex, then people would only need to find a willing one night stand or just take matters into their own hands so to speak.

There are also people who have a constant parade of one night stands with little or no emotional attachment. For these people the needs of the other party exist only for satisfying their own ego. They do not really care if the other person has an orgasm. They only want to feed their ego and tell themselves they gave the other person an orgasm. Kind of like slapping oneself on the back for the accomplishment.

Then we have the people involved in a relationship who look at sex as something they are entitled to because they have a marriage certificate or are in a long term relationship. For these people, they expect sex when they want it because they feel they are entitled to it. They do not care whether the other person has had a bad day, is feeling ill, or just not in the mood. They want it, they expect it, and they feel entitled to it.

This is not taking the other partner into consideration at all. For sex to be at its best, and for it to be a bonding and emotionally fulfilling act, both partners must have all of their needs, or at least most of them, satisfied. By needs we are talking about more than an orgasm. Like we said, the orgasm is just one part of the sexual act. It lasts a few moments and then its gone. That is not our goal.

Our goal is for you to experience something that exists throughout your relationship. A feeling of closeness and bonding that carries through to work, when you are apart and becomes something you look forward to. Sex is not something that should be thought of as a 15 minute process or something that is done because its Saturday night. Sex should be something both partners wish to share with each other.

Sometimes this means training ourselves to think like our partners think. Men and women are wired differently and sometimes we just dont see the signs or hear the real content behind the words. So we need to make ourselves more aware and more thoughtful and considerate. Sex is not something that gets turned on and turned off at will.

Instead great sex is an attitude and way of treating each others that continues 24/7. If you are having a hard time believing or understand what we have talked about in the last couple of pages, you really need to re-read it and talk about it with your partner or even a trusted friend. Sometimes having someone else explain something in a different context will help make it crystal clear.