Ali Campbell - More Than Just Sex: Because Getting Enough Just Isnt Enough

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Text Ali Campbell, 2012

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To everyone that has loved
and lost for whatever the reason.

There is light at the end of the tunnel
and it isnt always a train

Ali

Welcome to the book that can change your dating life forever. Im going to teach you not only how and where to fish but exactly how to bait your hook to land the girl of your dreams.

You are also going to hear me use the word meaningful a lot in this book, too. Literally full of meaning, there are hundreds of books on the shelves about how to pick up women, the slickest pulling techniques and proven, tested killer lines that shell be helpless to resist or so they say, anyway.

Sure, there are ways to approach women (or anyone for that matter) that are much more likely to have a positive outcome. There are plenty of things you can do and say to affect her thinking in a seductive way, much more quickly, and there is definitely work that you can do on yourself to make you more comfortable in your own skin and allow the real desirable you to come out. After all, if you are going to have a meaningful relationship, then that is what shes going to connect with anyway; or shell find out soon enough and leave you back at square one. Single, feeling down and poorer, having likely spent all your money trying to make sure that she never found out who you really are. How long can you keep that up?

This book is NOT for PICK-UP ARTISTS. Its for real men who want a real relationship. The PUA guys are a special breed all of their own (usually): the type of man who measures his self-worth by the notches on his bedpost or the numbers in his little black Berry.

While the idea of going out tonight and pulling the hot blonde at the bar may very well appeal to you, how good would it feel to be happily having dinner with her months from now, hearing her tell you that she loves you and is committed to making YOU happy?

Can you imagine building a meaningful relationship with the girl of your dreams? Sounds WAY better, right? And thats what this book is all about. Its about helping you gain and maintain a meaningful relationship with someone really hot and very special.

You are going to learn how to differentiate between the meaningful and the meaningless, both on the outside and the inside. You are going to learn how to create powerful meaningful connections and avoid the meaningless, energy-sapping nonsense that most of us associate with the trials of modern dating. This book bridges the gap between pulling and keeping, between gaining and maintaining a meaningful relationship.

The PUA guy might have a few more lad points and stories to tell of that night in the bar when well, you know. But hell also have a fair number of horror stories, howlers and close shaves, too!

During the course of researching this book I have heard it all, Ive interviewed celebrities, models, film stars, players, playboys, real-life Casanovas, happy family men and luckless losers. I do not want the latter to be you.

The difference is subtle and, if youre reading this then, to be blunt, its been way too subtle for you so far.

Dont worry, I can change all that because Ive also spoken to some seriously hot women: hot in so many ways, the girls you see in the pages of the glossy mags and women at the top of their profession in every sense. (It was a tough job, but I did it for you honest.) So for the first time, I am going to tell you exactly what she really wants and how to sort yourself out so that you can give it to her. And believe me, she will be seriously grateful!

When I spoke to these women the same thing came up time and again. (And remember, these women are everything you could ever want or dream of, the top 1% by any barometer you choose.) The one thing they find consistently frustrating is us guys acting like weirdos trying to impress them. Its just not cool or attractive.

Instead Im going to show you how to bring out the very best in yourself, so that when you meet the girl of your dreams (and Ill show you where and how to do that, too), she will think YOU are a catch and be the one trying to impress YOU!

A single guy approaching a beautiful woman should always remember no one is out of anyones league, its about the inner beauty and the connection between two people. Give the girl a chance, dont pre-judge her on her image because she could be thinking youre every bit as hot! Im always attracted to personality. Looks are important yes, but if someone can make me laugh and I get on well with them thats it for me.

Nieve Jennings, Miss UK and Miss World finalist

So it all starts with being honest and real with her and, before you can be honest with someone else, you need to be brutally honest with yourself.

In this book, I am going to help you to steer your course from wherever you are now be that in a relationship that youd love to be more or looking for one from scratch all the way to happily contented with the girl of your dreams. Remember, shes looking for Mr Right, too, so dont leave it to chance, show her it could be you.

It doesnt matter about your background, or your job, or the size of your wallet, chest or anything else. It doesnt really matter if you are rich or poor, and it certainly doesnt matter what car you drive.

In fact, on that score you might be trying way too hard believe it or not in the female psyche flashy is much more likely to count against you than for you, and if you think a sports car will get female attention you are SO wrong.