Diana Cage - Box Lunch: The Laypersons Guide to Cunnilingus

BOX LUNCH: THE LAYPERSONS GUIDE TO CUNNILINGUS

by

Diana Cage

eBook edition

2004 by Diana Cage. All rights reserved.

Cover illustration by Colleen Coover.

Cover design by Matt Sams

Contents

Introduction: Confessions of a Lesbian Sexpert

One: A Guided Tour of the Pleasure Palace

Two: Love Your Pussy

Three: Getting in the Mood

Four: Getting Down to Going Down

Five: Positions

Six: Toys and Penetration

Seven: Love Your Ass

Eight: Safer Sex Tips

Nine: Ouch! That Feels Good!

Acknowledgments

Resources

About the Author

INTRODUCTION

Confessions of a Lesbian Sexpert

I love sex. I wouldnt write about it if I didnt love it. I especially love getting and giving head. Its really the one sex act I cant live without. I think all kinds of sex are wonderful, but many women will tell you that the sustained, concentrated stimulation of oral sex is the most surefire way to have an orgasm. For many women, its the only sure thing.

This is a different type of sex book. Sure, its about cunnilingus and there are many books out there on exactly the same topic. But this book is more than just technique and positions. This book is about learning to bring joy into your bedroom. This book will help open your mind, which in turn helps you enjoy sex. This book wont just teach you how to go down on a woman, it will make you a better, freer, kinkier, cuter, sexier lover.

As a woman who has sex with other women, I get to enjoy performing oral sex as much as I do receiving it. Being on both sides mean I know more about what works and what doesnt. I know what my own body responds to and I know about the responses Ive gotten from all the women Ive had in my bed.

I know what its like to have performance anxiety. I know what its like to want to please the beautiful woman in front of you. And I understand that sometimes it can be hard to relax and let the other person take control.

I truly love performing oral sex. In fact, there is nothing Id rather do with my mouthnot even eat! And as far as my cunt is concernedwell, there may be lots of ways to get a woman to her happy place, but using your mouth is a sure way to make her really like you. Lick a lady into oblivion and shes going to keep you on her mailing list for a long time to come.

Cunnilingus is an ancient actthe act of kissing the genitals has been around as long as there has been kissing and genitals. The Kama Sutra, probably one of the best known ancient love manuals of all time was written in 400 BC. It has an entire chapter dedicated to giving women oral pleasure. With positions creatively named The Quivering Kiss and The Circling Tongue, its clear that oral congress was a highly developed act for ancient sex fiends.

Cunnilingus positions from the Kama Sutra:

With delicate fingertips, pinch the arched lips of her house of love very very slowly together, and kiss them as though you kissed her lower lip: this is "Adhara-sphuritam" (The Quivering Kiss).

Now spread, indeed cleave asunder, that archway with your nose and let your tongue gently probe her "yoni" (vagina), with your nose, lips and chin slowly circling: it becomes "Jihva-bhramanaka" (The Circling Tongue).

Let your tongue rest for a moment in the archway to the flower-bowed Lord's temple before entering to worship vigorously, causing her seed to flow: this is "Jihva-mardita" (The Tongue Massage).

Next, fasten your lips to hers and take deep kisses from this lovely one, your beloved, nibbling at her and sucking hard at her clitoris: this is called "Chushita" (Sucked).

Cup, lift her young buttocks, let your tongue-tip probe her navel, slither down to rotate skilfully in the archway of the love-god's dwelling and lap her love-water: this is "Uchchushita" (Sucked Up).

Stirring the root of her thighs, which her own hands are gripping and holding widely apart, your fluted tongue drinks at her sacred spring: this is "Kshobhaka" (Stirring).

Place your darling on a couch, set her feet to your shoulders, clasp her waist, suck hard and let your tongue stir her overflowing love-temple: this is called "Bahuchushita" (Sucked Hard).

If the pair of you lie side by side, facing opposite ways, and kiss each other's secret parts using the fifteen techniques described above, it is known as "Kakila" (The Crow).

The learning curve

Just about everything is great when youre getting busy with someone you really like. But really, nothing compares to the focused sensation of a hot wet tongue sliding over an erect clitits in a class all its own. And for scores of womenmyself includedits the fastest route to that holiest of grailsThe Orgasm.

Many women claim that the orgasms they achieve through cunnilingus are stronger and more focused than those achieved through other means.

The first time someone went down on me I nearly died from pleasure. It was better than mangoes, a great novel, trampolines, puppies, Camaros, vinyl hot pants, and sake, all rolled into one. It was the most intense, exciting thing that had ever happened to me. My partner was extremely talented, and so eager that I felt like some kind of yummy dessert. She clearly knew her work. There was nothing nerve-wracking or scary about the experience. It was all fun and sexy, and I was happy to lie back and enjoy myself. The orgasm she gave me was so grand that I never wanted her to stop.

That first lover may have blown my mind, but whether I could blow hers was another story. I was young and inexperienced, and totally overwhelmed by my desire to please. Her pussy was a delight. It was beautiful and sexy and I was thrilled to have my face pressed up against it. But lets face it, I didnt know what the hell I was doing. I was intimidated. I was in awe. I was standing at the edge of a gorgeous and totally new terrain. I fumbled around for a while saying clumsy, uncool things like Uh, is this OK? Until she got frustrated and flipped me over and went down on me again. Im lucky I was so eager to be a great lay because that lesson could have turned me into a pillow queen of the worst kind.

Pussies are sensitive instruments. While most everything you can do to a vagina with your tongue is going to feel pretty good, it takes a certain amount of skill and technique to get her to grab your head, pull your hair, and scream, Dont stop, dont stop! Im coming! Im coming! Oh, God! I see God Its a good thingno, a great thingthat my lover was willing and able to show me exactly how to please her. Otherwise Id have ended up a pretty lousy lesbian.

She was a great teachervery patient and a good communicator. She carefully told me what worked and what didnt, and taught me step-by-step how to blow her mind. She pulled her pussy lips back, exposing everything, and pointed out the extremely sensitive areas and the places where she preferred more pressure. And she did that all without ever making me feel clumsy or inexperienced.

Now Ive gone down onand been gone down on bymany lovers since that time, but she pretty much gets the credit for making me into the cunnilingus champ that I am today. Thats exactly why I wrote this book; so that every single one of you out there will have a chance to learn a thing or two about making your lady go crazy. Being really great at going down is bound to make you popular. And the more popular you are, the more youll get laid. And life is about getting laid, isnt it? Admit it, it is, or else you wouldnt be reading this.