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Based on questions from women who have attended author David Deidas highly acclaimed relationships seminars, this must-have book puts male behavior under the microscope. Included are chapters on sex, work, relationships and communication. Interspersed throughout are sidebars that shed light on the many faces of men and help women grasp what makes them act the way they do.

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ITS A GUY THING A Owners Manual for Women DAVID DEIDA Health - photo 1
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Understanding Men
Why Are Men So Difficult?

Most women, their man was so difficultwhy, on occasion, he behaved like a jerk. The answer is easy: Most men give out masculine energy. This, at times, is offensive to most women. What do I mean by masculine energy?

Every man and woman has both masculine and feminine energy within them. In about 10 percent of all men, these energies balance. Another 10 percent of all men demonstrate more feminine energy than masculine. But about 80 percent of all men demonstrate more masculine than feminine energy. These men can often seem like jerks.

These men are difficult for most women to deal with in intimacy because masculine energy is very different from feminine energyand about 80 percent of women are naturally more feminine than masculine. Intimate relationships between a masculine man and a feminine woman often seem like a struggle between creatures from different planets. They try to communicate with one another in a language neither understands.

Many men seem like jerks to many women because feminine energy is frequently confused, offended and hurt by the masculine, just as the masculine is by feminine energy. Once understood, the differences between masculine and feminine can become gifts men and women offer to one another in passionate love, rather than wrinkles to be ironed out.

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Why Is He So Rigid?

One masculine quality is modality, the ability to focus. Masculine energy tends to focus on doing one thing at a time. It moves on a single track. Have you ever tried to interrupt a man while he is absorbed in a project? Many men just wont notice you or else they will become angry and resentful.

The feminine is much less modal. Its not stuck on a single track. It flows easily from one thing to another. Its much easier for a man or woman using their feminine energy to do several things at once. When men use their masculine energy, they may feel everything is falling apart when they are called on to do more than one thing at a time, or when they are suddenly pulled off a project.

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Why Doesnt He Pay More Attention to Me?

In both sexes, masculine energy is a vehicle of focus and accomplishment. This energy eliminates distraction and focuses on what needs to be done.

For instance, when most men watch TV or work on a project, the rest of the world ceases to exist. That includes their intimate relationship. Even if the project is as mundane as waxing a car, masculine energy will focus and shut out the rest of the world.

Masculine energy has the ability to focus. Its a strength, but a strength that can turn to weakness when its used to avoid an intimate relationship.

Feminine energy is quite good at flowing and relaxing. If your feminine energy is at work while waxing the car and your partner wants to talk with you, you can easily shift your attention and focus.

Men often find it very difficult to shift, because they are stuck in their masculine energy. Its not easy for most men to break what they are doing, shift their attention to you and then flow back again. For women who are comfortable with their feminine energy, this ability to shift happens almost automatically.

Many women might feel, Why isnt he paying attention to me?, Whats his problem? You could take it personally, believing hes choosing to neglect you.

If a woman friend were to neglect you it would send a definite message. Most women are very aware of relationships. But for men, absorption into a project or TV is rarely designed to send a message. Its just how they do things. Thats how masculine energy works.

Women often ask, Cant my man learn to go with the flow? Cant he be more flexible? Why does he have to be so rigid and single-minded?

Men may wonder, Why does she get hurt when Im busy? Cant she understand its not personal? What a hassle! She gets hurt every time Im doing what I like to do. Cant she change?

If you want to trust your man to get the job done, try to accept his need to focus. Without this quality, your man might not carry through with projects he starts. You would begin to feel like you had to do them yourself. You would lose trust in him.

You cant expect a man to get things done and not be focused. For a man to drop this quality he has to move into his feminine energy, where he may lose his focus and fail to get the job done.

Why Does His Work Seem More Important Than Me When your man is hard at work - photo 5

Why Does His Work Seem More Important Than Me?

When your man is hard at work, it doesnt necessarily mean hes shutting you out. Hes not being insensitive, turning away or avoiding participation with you. When hes focused on a project or a task, that becomes the whole world to him.

Men are either in one mode or another. For instance, a man could be having problems with his wife yet still enjoy an outing with his male friends. On a fishing trip a friend could ask, How are things at home? Hell say, Man, it sucks. Wow, look at the size of that fish!

For most women, or anyone in their feminine energy, the intimate relationship touches their lives no matter what theyre doing. Its difficult to drop the relationship, get absorbed in something, enjoy it completely, then go back to the relationship.

A man who temporarily forgets his relationship may not be avoiding his feelings. The same thing may happen to you when you are in your masculine energy. When the masculine energy focuses, everything else disappears.

If you were in the midst of an emotionally charged thought or feeling and your partner said Can you get the catsup for me?, it would disrupt your emotions and probably frustrate you. When you inject your emotional mode into his action mode, it feels the same way to him.

Men dont exist so much in a world of flow and feelings. To a large extent, they exist in a world of problems, functions and challenges.

Most archetypal myths of men involve battling demons, enemies, war and conquest. They involve breaking free and winning. Most archetypal myths about women involve love relationships. Men and women play in very different domains. If you want to be married to a masculine man, as opposed to a feminine or more neutral man, then part of the package you get is his modality, his ability to focus.

When your man thinks your emotions are wrong, it can throw off the whole relationship. Emotions cant be wrong, they simply are. In the same way, his action mode is not wrong, it just is. But this doesnt mean you cant gift him with your feelings, sensitivity, intuition and wisdom.

Two of the biggest gifts you bring to your man are your sensitivity and intuition. He can learn a lot from your world that is foreign to his. And you can also learn from him.

Dont disown your feelings. If you really feel its best for him to be interrupted, then interrupt him. Just remember that you may encounter some initial resentment, because hes stuck in one mode.

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