Brya Christopher - WTF Are Men Thinking?: 250,000 Men Reveal What Women REALLY Want to Know

Copyright 2012 by Christopher Brya and Miguel Almaraz

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Brya, Christopher.

WTF are men thinking? : 250,000 men tell the truth about what women really want to know / Christopher Brya & Miguel Almaraz.

p. cm.

Includes bibliographical references and index.

(pbk. : alk. paper) 1. Man-woman relationships. 2. Men--Psychology. 3. Mate selection. I. Almaraz, Miguel. II. Title.

HQ801.B8739 2012

306.82--dc23

2012022153

Printed and bound in the United States of America.

VP 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1

For Pilarthe strongest and most amazing woman I know. Thank you for being my best friend, for making my life happen, and most especially for Evan & Ella. My love for you is endless.
Christopher Brya

Carol, Miguel, and LaurenI wish I could find words that would exhibit my love and admiration to you.
Miguel Almaraz IV

First things first: to our friends, family, and colleagues who worked, dealt, or lived with us during the writing and production of this bookwere deeply sorry, but very appreciative. We really couldnt have done it without you.

Secondly, all the people who purchased the book youre now reading. (We hope it was you.) Thank you very much. Enjoy this one and others to come!

We would also like to thank the thousands of women and men who submitted questions and answers and who provided the detail for this book.

Lastly, it might take a village to raise a child, but to publish a book, it might take more. Like most things in life, this was a team effort. We would like to personally thank the following people on our team for their brainpower, friendship, and skills.

Stephany Evans, our literary agent (and all the people at FinePrint Literary Management). Thanks for having the faith in us and guiding us on our first literary endeavor. We look forward to many, many more mutual congratulations well share over the next decade and beyond.

Shana Drehs, editorial manager at Sourcebooks. Seriously, you need to be cloned. Youre like our editorial spouse; you diligently kept us on time, on track, and in line. The result was an amazing product that exceeded everything we imagined.

Dominique Raccah, CEO of Sourcebooks, and her team who were involved in our project, even at the most detailed of levels. It meant a lot to us. Thanks for sharing your passion, guidance, expertise, and ideas.

Jeff Yanovitch and Chip Allison at Yanocreative.com. You guys are the best. Whether it was creative, graphic or brand design, concept layouts, a soundboard for idea creation, or just helping us through any creative dilemma, you were always there and made it happen. Thank you, gentlemen. You rock.

Kasia Jezuit, who helped us this whole way. We appreciate all your faith, effort, creativity, and hard work throughout this project. You helped us in ways that made this crazy effort possible. (And thanks for all of the sugary treats along the way!)

Nali Giliana, our brother in nearly every way except blood and the founder of the WTFIGO business principle. You have a remarkable business mind and always gave us insights into where we could take this project and everything else for that matter. But more importantly, your friendship is the gift that keeps on giving. We look forward to strategically thinking about more future projects with you over good food, wine, and laughs.

Brittni Payne, who gave us the extra spark of effort when it was needed and for all the work you did on the spreadsheets. Ugh, the spreadsheets! Thanks for all your hard work and diligence when we asked for it. You never disappoint.

Jennie Brya and Karen Linkins are not only two of the smartest women we know, but theyre also core family. We thank you for the generous use of the mountain retreat, the desert sanctuary, and for your love and support.

Gaurav Parekh and the team at Parsus. You have always been an advocate in everything we did. We love your enthusiasm, generosity, and all the time you made for us over great coffee, lunch meetings, or happy hours. Your support and counsel is only surpassed by your friendship.

Lance Faulkner, for all of your technical and SEO guidance, as well as being the rare straight shooter in this very wavy modern world. You are the man!

Holly Jonas, our web design guru. You always made the website better than we thought possible and were always a big advocate of the book, of the concept, and of this project. Thank you for making our web world happen.

The Solavista team, for tireless hours on this project to make this material available to everyone.

And here is a group of people (in no particular order), some we know and some we dont, who wed like to thank. They were our muses who inspired us and helped us in various ways: Richard Dawson, Chris Gardner, Larry David, Rick Normali, Albert Brooks, Pink Floyd, Connie Mableson, Howard Stern, Mark & Trish, Steve Jobs, Carmen Hernandez, Pablo Picasso, Richard Branson, Claudia Hill, Seth Godin, Mark Goodson, Bill Todman, Bob Barker, Brett Schiefelbein, Timothy Ferris, Craig Zahn, and nearly everyone working at every Starbucks in the greater Phoenix metropolitan area.

Can you handle the truth?

In WTF Are Men Thinking?, we provide female readers the real truth about how men think, plus the real truth about the mistakes and problems women unknowingly make when interacting with men. In this book, more than 250,000 men provide the answers to hundreds of questions that women have supplied us regarding communication, dating, romance, sex, marriage, work, and the things that bug them the most.

The answers revealed in our book are not based on opinions or theories of any one specific author, columnist, or therapist, but instead come from a powerful crowdsource of real men.