Jerry M. Kantor - The Toxic Relationship Cure: Clearing traumatic damage from a boss, parent, lover or friend with natural, drug-free remedies

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Using engaging and memorable vignettes, The Toxic Relationship Cure discusses how homeopathy is used constitutionally for clients suffering mental, emotional and physical damage consequent to prolonged toxic and unhealthy life relationships. The book fills a vacuum in the homeopathic library where despite the presence of numerous, excellent self-help and acute prescribing texts little exists to help the layperson understand homeopathys relevance to longstanding maladies rooted in psychic or spiritual crisis.

Loretta Butehorn PhD, CCH

It is always a special pleasure to have a book exceed even my highest expectations, and this book did. Jerry Kantors The Toxic Relationship Cure is crammed with practical insights into seventy-two homeopathic medicines and their body/mind typology. Using vivid, composite case histories Kantor illuminates specific homeopathic medicines with an eye to how each can reflect the impact of a problematic relationship. Kantors book goes several steps further than most other homeopathic texts by venturing to describe a needed homeopathic remedys medical and psychological impact. Further, his description of both well-known and little-known remedies offers valuable differentiation among remedies similar to the remedy under discussion.

Dana Ullman, MPH

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Copyright 2013 by Jerry M. Kantor

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Publishers Cataloging-in-Publication Data Kantor, Jerry.

Toxic Relationship Cure: clearing traumatic damage from a boss, parent, lover or friend with natural, drug-free remedies / Jerry Kantor1 st ed.
p.cm
Includes index.

1. MedicineHomeopathyPsychology.

2. Integrative MedicineTraumatic relationship impact from natural medicine perspective.

I. Title

First Edition: January 2013

ISBN: 0984678816

ISBN 13: 9780984678815

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INTERPRETING CHRONIC ILLNESS

THE CONVERGENCE OF TRADITIONAL CHINESE MEDICINE, HOMEOPATHY AND BIOMEDICINE

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IT IS IN THE COUNTRY OF THE MIND THAT MARTIAL LAW IS FIRST DECLARED

A CKNOWLEDGMENTS

T hanks are due to my wife Hannah, for being my first and best reader; also, to Burke Lennihan, RN, CCH for editorial help, unfailingly wise counsel and permission to use excerpts from her book, Your Natural Medicine Cabinet: A Practical Guide to Drug-Free Remedies for Common Ailments for the appendix on finding a homeopath. Appreciation also goes out to Andreas Richter for his insights into Bromium, and to Franz Kafka for having agreed (at least in fantasy) to let me take his case.

Here is a shout out to the Junior High School biology teacher whose name I no longer remember, who taught me that any definition of life must include the property of irritability: When you poke something that is alive it reacts. The various ways that one can be poked, and the multiplicity of responses this evokes do not cease to amaze.

The small man thinks that small acts of goodness are of no benefit, and does not do them; and that small deeds of evil do no harm, and does not refrain from them. Hence, his wickedness becomes so great that it cannot be concealed, and his guilt so great that it cannot be pardoned .

CONFUCIUS

Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And when you look long into an abyss, the abyss also looks into you .

FRIEDRICH NIETZSCHE

C ONTENTS

I NTRODUCTION

NATURAL MEDICINE FOR TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

A toxic relationship is injurious because it erodes an individuals dignity, under mines his confidence, and warps his personality. Whether incurred instantaneously or incrementally, its resulting distress can fester throughout a lifetime. When the wound of psychic trauma inflames, what can one do? Psychotherapy, counseling, or psychiatric drugs are the well-travelled paths in our society.

In addressing relationship trauma in my health care practice of over three decades, what I have found to be the most effective and transformative method is a form of natural medicine called homeopathy. Part of the national health care system in many countries, homeopathy is the second most widely practiced form of health care in the world according to the World Health Organization. In the US it is recognized by the FDA as a form of medicine on a par with conventional drugs, albeit not as well known. This book aims to remedy that gap, at least when it comes to homeopathys power to heal emotional and spiritual suffering.

The Toxic Relationship Cure provides insights into homeopathys method of resolving trauma from toxic relationships, illustrated with vivid stories of fictional characters based on my clients who have been healed with homeopathic medicines. A bonus chapter, Clearing the Toxic Beyond , illuminates homeopathys effectiveness in treating spiritual crises, a source of suffering for which conventional medicine offers no cure.

HOW HOMEOPATHY HEALS BOTH ABUSER AND ABUSED

When declaring, Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster, the nineteenth century philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche was prescient. He had recognized the common human tendency to identify with the oppressor in which someone who is repeatedly abused defends himself emotionally by an implosive phenomenon now known as Stockholm syndrome or traumatic bonding.

In the pages that follow, variations on Stockholm syndrome occasionally appear. We discover how the denigrating or accusatory perspective of a boss, family member, lover or friend can worm its way into the mind of its target. Newly adopted as ones own, this venomous mindset timeshares with its opposite number: a guilt-based mindset more conventionally associated with victimization. This includes reactions such as depression, anxiety, poor self-esteem, and even fatigue, because the tension between these opposite mindsets drains the persons energy. Continuous tension between a polaritys opposite tendencies of bully and chicken fuel not only emotional distress, but physical and mental ailments as well.