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Stand your ground without guilt, fear, or awkward tension. Finally get what you deserve and stop letting it slide.Who is making your daily choices for you? Is it you? Make sure you possess the everyday assertiveness to get what you want and resist the pressure to reject what you dont want. Youve put yourself last your entire life. Its time for that to change.Stop enabling, sacrificing your needs, people pleasing, and being so agreeable.The Art of Everyday Assertiveness is a guide for the chronically nice, overwhelmed, and accommodating. It is a deep psychological dive into the beliefs that makes us lack assertiveness, and how to systematically combat and replace compulsions with healthy mindsets.This is a book that stands apart from others because of the plethora of real life examples and solutions. If your problem is assertiveness, youll find the step by step answer in this book - included is an Assertiveness Action Plan unlike any other.Gain respect, set boundaries, and ask for what you really want.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. Hes also a recovering people pleaser who knows exactly how it feels to feel unable to speak his mind.How to decisively say NO and reclaim your time and energy Stop putting others first and being taken advantage of.A wide variety of ways to say no - without tension or awkwardness.Beating the subconscious beliefs that make you a compliant doormat.How to set healthy boundaries and protect yourself from others.How to ask for exactly what you want, when you want it.The instinct to over-apologize and how to fix it.Stop being a helpaholic and start treating yourself better.

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The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Say No. Set Boundaries. Take Back Control. Get What You Want.

By Patrick King

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www.PatrickKingConsulting.com

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Table of Contents

Chapter 1. The Balance of Assertiveness

Asserting Your Needs

Your Personal Bill of Rights

Chapter 2. Damaging Beliefs and Damaging People

Toxic Beliefs

BLUE Your Beliefs

Chapter 3. How to Ask for What You Want and Get It

They Should Have Known

Symbolic Value

Passive-Aggressiveness

Becoming Assertive the Right Way

Chapter 4. How to Say NO Without Tension

Chapter 5. Asserting Boundaries

Choosing and Enforcing Your Boundaries

Toxic Takers

Chapter 6. Understanding Your Patterns

Communication Self-Assessment

The Need To Apologize

Chapter 7. Assertiveness Action Plan

Summary Guide

Chapter 1. The Balance of Assertiveness

What does assertiveness mean to you? I can tell you what it means to me: freedom.

Its not necessarily freedom from others or from the obligations in my life, but assertiveness is the freedom to choose what I want to do and not be beholden to people, places, and things.

It might sound insignificant, but its absolutely not. Its analogous to the difference between feeling like youre drowning versus treading water effortlessly. And if it sounds familiar, then welcome to the first step in taking back your time, energy, and life.

Im a recovering people-pleaser, passive person, and overall doormat. I realize now that I acted in this manner for a few reasons. First, I didnt know that it was okay to say no to people. Second, I felt like people would hate me if I disagreed with them. Third, I literally didnt know the words to use. These things sound almost silly to read back as I write them, but I know Im not alone in themIll dig into these factors deeper in later chapters. I wrote this book as much for me as for you.

Becoming an assertive person who knows how to stand up for themselves takes far more than a few simple phrases in the guise of communication skills. It requires a deep look into the relationship you have with others, and more importantly, the relationship you have with yourself.

Thats why youll go to extreme lengths to avoid conflict, unable to express yourself clearly and fairly without your emotions sabotaging you. Thats also why youll beat yourself up for being such a pushover, losing your temper, or following orders against your better nature.

Assertiveness is, in theory, as easy as saying those simple phrases: No, I dont want to, and Are you trying to take advantage of me? But in practice, its one of the most difficult lines to tread. How can you get your message across without insulting or enraging others? Is there a way to balance your needs with the requests of others?

Lets take a look at a scenario that is likely familiar, from one perspective or another.

Three friends had been meaning to meet up, so Keisha booked a table for dinner that night. She ordered the most expensive meal because her promotion allowed her to treat herself. Michael hadnt told them he was recovering from gastric flu and didnt order food, excusing himself, sweating and shaking, to throw up halfway through the meal.

Gita had paid out for unexpected car repairs that day and, hiding a gasp when she saw the prices, just ordered a side dish so she could afford a much-needed drink.

When the bill came, Keisha told the waiter they would split it three ways.

Michael resented paying for their food when he should have been at home in bed, but he agreed, not wanting to disappoint Keisha. Gita, probably helped along by the house wine on an almost empty stomach, passive-aggressively groused that Keisha was too controlling and they should have cancelled. There was palpable tension in the air until things became obvious and plain.

Why didnt you both just say? Keisha asked as she theatrically paid for the entire meal amidst protests that turned into deafening silence. That was the last time they met up as friends.

Most people can remember a time when they have played the role of Keisha, Gita, or Michael. Assertiveness would have been a very welcome fourth dinner guest.

Michaels passive behavior stemmed from feeling too guilty to tell Keisha he wasnt well enough to meet up; he felt obligated to make it out. Gita was ashamed of her financial situation and fearful of judgment, which bubbled into mistrust of Keishas intentions. Despite Keishas outward appearance, her low self-worth fueled her aggressive behavior surrounding where, when, and how they ate together.

Have you been any or all of these people on some occasion?

Assertiveness allows you to let people know where you stand, but in a way that doesnt change your relationship, and doesnt attach negativity to the situation. If those things do happen, it wont be because of your actions or words.

Think of assertiveness as a bubble protecting your values, availability, capability, and needsyour confident bodyguard who stops things from spiraling out of control. Being assertive is calmly standing up for your rights and respectfully influencing others in potentially stressful situations.

Again, it seems as easy as just speaking a few phrases directly and without subterfuge, but we instinctually know that people are anything but predictable or logical, so its never that simple. How do you suppose Michael, Keisha, or Gita would react to an assertive pushback? We can never imagine it going well, though there are many ways to smoothly and strategically speak your mind. Whatever the case, its this assumption that keeps us quiet until we reach our breaking points.

One way to make assertiveness easier is to have remind ourselves of what were missing out on in our liveswhats at stake. It is anything but trivial, and it compounds on a daily basis if you dont speak up.

Asserting Your Needs

We all have needs, psychological or physical, and the inability to be assertive means your needs will often go unfulfilled. On a short-term basis, this is acceptable and sometimes even necessary. Sometimes we choose to downgrade our needs in favor of someone elses more pressing matters. But the vast majority of the time, are we really making that choice, or do we simply feel handcuffed by our inability to express ourselves as we want?

Needs are a big part of who you are: they are the indulgent daydreams of your deepest desires, what you wish for when you toss a coin into a fountain or see a shooting star, or the goals you enter into a journal on New Years Day. They are everybodys driving force, and unmet needs create feelings of anxiety, hopelessness, and unhappiness.

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