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A paradigm-shifting model of parenting children in two homes from an internationally recognized expert. A researcher, therapist, and mediator, Robert Emery, Ph.D., details a new approach to sharing custody with children in two homes. Huge numbers of children are affected by separation, divorce, cohabitation breakups, and childbearing outside of marriage. These children have two homes. But their parents have only one chance to protect their childhood. Building on his 2004 book The Truth About Children and Divorce and a strong evidence base, including his own research, Emery explains that a parenting plan that lasts a lifetime is one that grows and changes along with childrens--and families--developing needs. Parents can and should work together to renegotiate schedules to best meet the changing needs of children from infancy through young adult life. Divided into chapters that address the specific needs of children as they grow up, Emery: Introduces his Hierarchy of Childrens Needs in Divorce Provides specific advice for successful parenting, starting with infancy and reaching into emerging adulthood Advocates for joint custody but notes that children do not count minutes and neither should parents Highlights that there is only one side for parents to take in divorce: the childrens side Himself the father of five children, one from his first marriage, Emery brings a rare combination of personal and professional insight and guidance for every parent raising a child in two homes--

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All of the cases described in this book are composites. Essential details have been changed to protect the confidentiality and privacy of my clients and research participants. The cases in this book are real emotionally, but no case corresponds to any actual person, living or dead.

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PREFACE
Two Homes, One Childhood

I f you have picked up this book, you or someone close to you must be raising a child in two homes. You may be in the middle of a divorce. Or maybe you already have been divorced, perhaps long ago. Maybe you never were married, but you live apart from the father or mother of your children, someone you may have lived with for quite some timeor not. Maybe you were in a same-sex relationship, and share a child you and your partner planned and birthed together, or perhaps adopted. (All of these experiences are divorce in my book, and in this book, so keep reading no matter how your child ended up with two homes.) Or you may have a friend, or perhaps a child, who is going through divorce. You are looking for a way to help him or her. If so, this book is for you too.

Whatever your situation, lets be clear about one thing from the very beginning:

Divorce stinks.

Divorce stinks if you got dumped by someone you thought you could trust forever. Divorce stinks even if, deep down, you think you may actually be better off living apart. Divorce stinks if you initiated the breakup and thought this was what you wanted, or needed, or had to do. Divorce stinks even if your decision to live separately was mutual, and you both are doing your best to do things right. Divorce stinks even if its your friends, or your relatives, who are splitting up, not you.

Most of all, divorce stinks for children.

Whether you are eager to move on or so emotionally devastated that you think you never can, my goal is to help you make living in two homes less of a burden for your children. I dont want your children, or anyones children, to be children of divorce or children from broken homes. I hate those labels. Children do not have to be defined by their parents romantic relationship. Children shouldnt be defined by divorce (in its many forms). And you can make sure that doesnt happen. You can make sure that your children get to be just kids. That is my goal for you and for them.

Children have only one childhood. Childhood can be, should be, a time of innocence, trust, wonder, joy, exploration, learning, making strong, worthy effortsand making lots of mistakes too. Childhood is a time when forgiveness, fresh starts, and repeated mistakes all should be expected and accepted. Childhood is a time when nothing, even the sternest reprimand, should shake a childs sense of being loved, of feeling safe and secure. Childhood is about learning lessons of independence and responsibility, while venturing forth from the safe base of parental love. Childhood means being protected from deep wounds that refuse to heal, but not from lifes bumps and bruises, from pain that teaches essential, if sometimes difficult, lessons.

Your children have two homes but only one childhood.

You, and I, want to protect and preserve your childrens childhood.

You can do this, together with your ex. You can still share in your childrens joys and fret about their frustrations. You can find a way to still be parents, even though you are no longer husband and wife (or whatever). And if you can still be parents, separately and together, your kids can still be kids, despite growing up in two homes.

Of course, being a parent is never easy. Parenting in two homes can be especially hard. To protect your childrens childhood, you are going to need to put in extra effort, emotionally, practically, and financially.

You may think your ex is a narcissistor maybe just a jerk. You may wish he or she were not your childrens father or mother. If so, I understand that feeling. But you need to understand that your children probably do not feel the same way. And if they do, that may be a problem. Children shouldnt have to choose sides, picking one parent over the other. Even if your ex is a jerk, he is still your childrens father. That isnt going to change. So you and your children are going to need to find some way to deal with him.

Right now, you may feel so devastated that you think you just cannot go on. You cant do this all on your own. You may be beyond exhausted, beyond depressed. You may have a great deal of emotional work to do. If so, I urge you to get startedfor your childrens sake, and for yourself. I can help you begin.

Or maybe you have a more friendly relationship. If so, good for you, and your ex too. That will make things easier, but not easy.

There are different styles of coparenting relationshipsangry, friendly, and distant. What is distant coparenting? Distant coparenting is when you have little negative connection, or communication, with your ex. But you also have little positive engagement. Some people in distant relationships still feel a lot of tension or anger or pain. They find that keeping their distance is the best way to avoid explosions. For many people who have had an angry divorce, distance is the most, or the only, realistic goal.

If this is you, you can make distance work. You do not need to feel friendly toward your ex. But you do need to find ways to communicate and cooperate with her about the basics of rearing children in two homes. You also need to make sure that your distance is not some form of the silent treatmentfilled with tension and ultimately a contest over your children.

Whatever your coparenting style, I have advice for you. Part of that advice is that being a parent is hard work, no matter what.

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