Nancy Levin - Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free: The Ultimate Guide To Telling The Truth, Creating Connection, And Finding Freedom

Deep bows of gratitude for the limitless love and support of so many.

Louise Hay: For being the beginning. I miss you.

Reid Tracy: For seeing me, believing in me, encouraging me, celebrating me.

Debbie Ford: For entrusting me to carry your legacy forward. I honor you.

Wayne Dyer: For the omnipresent reminder to assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled. And for the briefcase story.

Pat Denzer, Linda Perry, Danita Currie, Tracy Phillips, Reenie Vincent, Fanni Williams, and Michelle Knight: For being my phenomenal team behind the scenes. I couldnt, and wouldnt want to, do what I do without you. I deeply appreciate each one of you, and all you do, so very much.

Christiane Northrup: For your gorgeous and generous foreword to this book, and for your friendship.

Julie Stroud: For the depth of your wisdom, insight, vision, and heart.

Melanie Votaw: For the clarity and grace with which you seamlessly bring my heart, message, and voice alive on the page.

My Boundary Badasses: For my courageous clients with whom I first shared the work that has become this book. A zillion thank yous for allowing me to guide you through this process as it was still taking shape, for all the stories and pieces of yourself you shared within these pages, and for the impact each one of you has had on me.

All my coaching clients: For trusting me to guide and witness you and be a catalyst for change.

My Hay House Family: There are far too many of you to name, but I must name with thanks and love: Margarete Nielsen, Michelle Pilley, Mollie Langer, Christa Gabler, Adrian Sandoval, Sally Mason-Swaab, Anne Barthel, Marlene Robinson, Steve Morris, Rocky George, Sharon Al-Shehab, Roger Alapizco.

Gabby Bernstein: For the singular and significant support youve provided as I rise.

Colette Baron-Reid: For recognizing and trusting me.

Melissa Grace: For embracing and loving the fullness of me.

Patty Gift: For your effortless and sacred companionship as we roam around, and stay still, and your devotion to what Lulu left behind. Well always have Paris... and Brooklyn, Boulder, and beyond.

Kelly Notaras: For your unparalleled heart and always getting me because we share a brain. You will forever be my NSLP.

Aaron Thomas: For being by my side in a love that heals.

Mom and Dad: For life and love, which is everything.

Kate Aks: For being the other half of my heartbeat... and for sharing Allan, Isabel, and Simon with me.

Nancy Levin, best-selling author of Permission to Put Yourself First, Worthy, Jump... and Your Life Will Appear, and Writing for My Life, is a Master Integrative Coach and the creator of several in-depth coaching and training programs, guiding clients to live life on their own terms and make themselves a priority. She was the Event Director at Hay House from 2002 to 2014. Nancy received her MFA in Creative Writing and Poetics from Naropa University in Boulder, Colorado, and she continues to live in the Rocky Mountains.

Website: www.nancylevin.com

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I have said yes when I meant no, my client Valerie says. I have had sex when I didnt want to. I have agreed to do things I didnt want to do. My mother constantly speaks to me and never asks for my opinions, wants, or needs. My ex-husband did the same. As if I was nonexistent. Ive let people speak for me and make decisions for me. Ive let other people control and manipulate me. I have been in situations where I wanted to leave but couldnt... until I became ill and understood if I didnt leave, I would die. Dissatisfaction, anger, and depressionIve experienced it all.

Valerie is not alone. Another client, Tina, tells me her story: When I was amicably divorcing my husband years ago, I remet a man from childhood who lived in a different time zone from me. Texting turned to several long conversations a day. I was also working two jobs and heavily involved in my daughters school. So I had little extra time available. I became sleep-deprived, short-tempered, and sick. When I set a boundary with this man to not text nearly so much, he became angry, blaming, and refused to accept my new rules, as he called them. He insisted I must be lying to him and seeing someone. He needed to know my every move, literally down to when I showered and what I ate. I found myself explaining over and over what I was doing with my time. For a long time, I kept calling him back, even after his drunken rages, insulting and hurtful messages, followed by tearful apologies. I continued to try to appease him and calm his fears, even as I knew someone who truly loved me would honor my boundaries.

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