Danny Silk - Loving Our Kids on Purpose

This book is dedicated to my children: my oldest child, Brittney, and her husband, Ben; my oldest son, Levi; and my funniest child, Taylor. You have all brought out the best in me. I love you, completely, with all my heart.

My Chosen, Sheri: Youve helped me become the man I always hoped I would become. I love you!

Bill and Beni Johnson: There is no one on this planet who has so completely restructured my internal world and impacted my legacy as have the two of you. Thank you!

Kris and Kathy Vallotton: Who does the counselor go to when his marriage is in trouble? Best friends. Thank you for always being there for us.

John and Sandy Tillery: You imparted into my life my love for community and service. You taught me that there is no such thing as secular. You showed me how big lifes adventure becomes when I pour my life out for the whole world. Thank you!

Mountain Chapel, Weaverville, California: You took a boy and made a man out of him. Thank you!

Bethel Church, Redding, California: Youve taken that man and are changing the world with him. Thank you for sending me all over the globe.

Allison Armerding: You are making me look like a genius. Thanks!

It is very difficult to promote Danny Silks ministry without sounding like I have the need to exaggerate. But the truth is, in the circle I run in, he is without equal. His discernment gives him access to root issues that have become obstacles to relational peace and blessing, while his wisdom enables him to be a builder of families and an architect of relationships. I heartily recommend Danny and all his materials to help bring about Gods best for your life.

Bill Johnson
Senior Leader, Bethel Church
Redding, California

I have known Danny Silk for more then 25 years. He has the most amazing ability to understand the root causes of social and behavioral issues of anyone I have ever encountered in my 30 years of working with people. Our team has been encouraging him to write this book for a long time, as his timeless wisdom needs to be imparted to the masses.

But reader beware: Dannys insights often smash old religious mindsets and free people from the bondage of spiritual captivity. You will find that you are laughing and crying yourself into new relational paradigms as you willingly walk headfirst into his sword. His stories will capture your heart; his wisdom will astonish you; and his life will change you forever. This book is a must read for everyone, whether you have children or not.

Kris Vallotton
Senior Associate Pastor of Bethel Church
Cofounder of the Bethel School of Supernatural Ministry
Author of The Supernatural Ways of Royalty and
Developing a Supernatural Lifestyle

As a high school principal, I had the privilege of watching Danny Silk in action with both my staff and parents. When Danny and I first met, I was at my wits end, having grown tired of giving advice to hurting parents who treated the symptoms of broken relationships yet ignored the diseases that caused them. Loving Our Kids on Purpose is a powerful tool that describes the why, but also gives honest, practical application as to how we should raise our children in a loving environment that will allow their destinies to come forth. Parenting is the greatest call on our lives, as well as the most difficult task we could ever face. Dannys honesty and ability to tell stories that every parent can relate to shows, through example, how Gods New Covenant with us applies to parenting and allows us to nurture a right relationship with our children through love, instead of fear.

I have seen it work firsthand in my school, where parents and children reconnected their hearts and the fruits of love and peace became evident in their lives. This book is a must-read for every parent, teacher, social worker, or anyone who is connected to kids and families. Dannys revelations are tools for success in achieving our most important goalraising children to fulfill the destiny God has for them.

Chris Adams
Administrator of Educational Services
Shasta Union High School District
Redding, California

My friend Danny Silk has at last brought his insights and giftings for effective and healthy parenting toward the goal of strong, functional families to print. With the profoundly biblical theme of child rearing majoring on the issues and connections of the heart, Danny presents a challenging example of how the Kingdom of God is the kingdom of right relationships.

Ultimately, Danny demonstrates convincingly that we parents are responsible for building and nurturing home environments of love, respect, honor, and liberty, unsoiled by fear, control, perfectionism, and overreaction to mistakes. Danny guides us systematically through how providing a framework of acceptable choices and fostering internal discipline in our childrenteaching them to own their problems in order to champion solutionsresults in the building of their Christian character. Danny offers blueprints equipping us with parenting tools with purpose: disciplining for attitude and relationship instead of the distraction of chasing behaviors; favoring love and heart-connection over rules and mindless compliance; and training our children to navigate the waters of freedom and opportunity through the responsible sharing of power and control, lest they grow up strangers to such and thereby become easy prey for a world awash in bad options.

Andr Van Mol, MD
Family Physician

Danny Silk is passionate about helping families reach their highest potential in loving communications. He is an innovative and hilarious speaker, teaching Gods truths about love, honor, and respect in an easily digestible fashion to both Christian and secular audiences. Sheri, his equally wise and funny wife, often joins him in conference and seminar presentations, a two-for-one dynamic duo.