H. Norman Wright - How to Speak Your Spouses Language: Ten Easy Steps to Great Communication from One of Americas Foremost Counselors

Copyright 2006 by H. Norman Wright

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First eBook Edition: October 2009

ISBN: 978-1-599-95331-1

This book captures an exciting and insightful way to understand your spouse's communication style as well as your own. In an interesting and practical manner, the author weaves situational illustrations with solid theory to deliver an understanding of how to energize your marriage and feel close to each other. The book helps you get to the heart of understanding personality and gender differences and teaches you how to translate that into speaking your spouse's language without compromising your own integrity. A must-read!

Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge, RN, EdD, licensed clinical psychologist, and Robert C. DeVries, DMin, PhD, professor emeritus of church education, coauthors of Getting to the Other Side of Grief

HOW TO SPEAK YOUR SPOUSE'S LANGUAGE is a must-read for every married couple! We guarantee you'll learn a revolutionary method of expanding and adapting your ability to connect with your spouse. This book has significantly sharpened our communication skills. Now each of us feels heard and has learned to listen to the subtleties in each other's language. This is indeed a breakthrough book, and there is absolutely no one we trust more than Dr. H. Norm Wright. We read everything he writesand if you want a great marriage, we recommend you do too!

Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg, America's Family Coaches, daily radio hosts, and coauthors of The Five Sex Needs of Men and Women

If you want to be fluent in your spouse's language, this book is for you. Norm Wright has done it again. From one of the most trusted marriage experts comes real, practical help in connecting with your mate. You can learn to really hear what your spouse is saying and make sure that your spouse really hears you. Don't even think about not getting this book!

Claudia & David Arp, coauthors of the 10 Great Dates series and The Second Half of Marriage

Through vivid stories of his own experiences and those of the people he counsels, Dr. Wright breaks down the differences in how men and women communicate and then teaches us how to bridge the gap. This is a much-needed resource that gives invaluable information on a new way of connecting and sharing with your spouse, no matter how long you have been together. The Energy Builders at the end of each chapter are especially helpful in putting this new way of communicating into practice.

Eric and Jennifer Garcia, cofounders, Association of Marriage and Family Ministries

Norm has the rare ability to write in a very relaxed and comfortable style, making you feel as if he is sitting in a chair in your family room talking with you. At the same time, he communicates deeply and intuitively regarding the problems many couples have in sharing thoughts, emotions, and feelings with each other, and how they can effectively resolve these problems. We heartily recommend the reading of this book to any couple searching for deeper and more powerfully healing relationships with each other.

Drs. Tom and Beverly Rodgers, authors, speakers, and marriage and family therapists, Charlotte, NC

What we have here is a failure to communicate! Not anymore. Communication is the lifeblood of every relationship, and Dr. Wright's is the right book to help you bridge the communication gap in your marriage. If you want to deepen your intimacy and connect in meaningful ways, read this book.

Ron L. Deal, president, Successful Stepfamilies.com, and marriage and family therapist

When my car breaks down, I don't try to tinker with it on my own. I call in a professional who understands the mechanics of how the car works. Likewise, when communication breaks down in a marriage, it makes sense to call in a professional who understands the mechanics of how a husband and wife keep their relationship on track. If you and your spouse have experienced a breakdown on the road of your marriage, if you feel as if you just can't seem to understand each other, I strongly suggest you call in the expert, Norm Wright. Norm has gotten his hands dirty for over thirty years helping couples who have hit a bump in the road in their journey toward marital happiness. In HOW TO SPEAK YOUR SPOUSE'S LANGUAGE, he breaks down the mechanics of speaking to and listening to and thinking about the one you love so that your marriage can become the joy ride you've always wanted.

Nancy Guthrie, author of Holding On to Hope and The One Year Book of Hope

In the forest of books on marriage relationships, this one stands tall. I've read literally hundreds of books on relationships and this is one is unique. If you feel frustrated, stuck, or discouraged in your marriage, this book will be a refreshing breath of hope and help. It is packed with suggestions that have been forged in real-life experiences. If you are tired of pie-in-the-sky platitudes or superficial solutions, this book will give you practical ways to connect at the deepest levels. Buy it, read it, apply it, and watch your marriage go to the next level.

Gary J. Oliver, PhD, executive director of The Center for Relationship Enrichment, John Brown University, and coauthor of Raising Sons and Loving It! and A Woman's Forbidden Emotion

If it is your desire to respectfully and intelligently enter the world of another, if you want to up your chance of being heard and of having a hearing, let H. Norman Wright be your guide into the fascinating and rewarding domain of effective communication. Apply the principles in this book and you will revolutionize your communication.

Dr. David and Janet Congo, coauthors of One Good Year of Marriage: Making the Most of the Rest of Your Marriage and founders of eLifeMates

Norm Wright did it again! A solid book for real couples who want to talk in a way so their spouses will listen, not only to their words, but also to their hearts. Norm gets to the heart of what complicates couples' communication. He outlines the fine nuances of a couple's conversation and shows how a couple can talk and really be heard. I am going to make this a must-read for all the couples I counsel, as well as the counselors I train. Norm has spent years in the counseling room; he knows what he is talking about, and it shows.

Sharon Hart (Morris) May, PhD, coauthor of Safe Haven Marriage: How to Build a Relationship You Want to Come Home To and originator of Haven of Safety Marriage Intensives

This book will help you really connect with your mate, because it shows you why that so often does not happen and what you can do to make a difference. It's warm, it's clearit's Norm Wright.