Rina Mcnally - Narcissist: How to Handle a Narcissist and 10 Steps to Heal from Narcissistic Abuse

NARCISSIST:

How to Handle a Narcissist and 10 Steps to Heal From Narcissistic Abuse

T ext Copyright Rina Mcnally

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Introduction

What is Narcissism? The word has traditionally been associated with a harmless love for ones self, very rarely being used to describe a destructive abuse mechanism. When mainstream society thinks of narcissism, I get the feeling its not looked at with disdain, but rather as an off-the-cuff petty character trait. How wrong could it be?

T he world we live in has become narcissistic. Driven by materialism and superficial goals, no longer does humanity wish to work in communities, but rather to bring people down - society judges people by what car they drive, what job they have, how much money they make, what clothes they wear, what their face looks like, what their voice sounds like, what shoes they wear, what phone they have, what area of town they live in. The list goes on and on. A narcissist will judge all of these things. They are too shallow to consider anything else. They dont want to work as a team; they are driven by jealousy and seek vengeance on anyone happy with their lives.

If youre reading this now, you know better than to disregard the danger, weight, and severity of a narcissistic person. You may have encountered such people, encounters which have brought you to this very book. If youve been unlucky, you may have suffered the wrath of the narcissist. If you are this person, the contents of this book will be for you. Narcissists, and toxic people in general, do not have a petty off-the-cuff character trait. They are controlling, torturous, soul-destroying black holes of society.

The World we live in has gone down that path and, as a result, all of humanity, certainly in the developed World, is on the Narcissistic Spectrum. Having a healthy self-esteem and being proud of who you are and your achievements is a good thing. Having a healthy competition with your friends and colleagues to out-do each other and maintain a healthy respect while doing it is good. Its all part of the competition of life and its the way it should be.

The extreme side of narcissism is toward the end of the spectrum, where it becomes toxic. This is known as Narcissistic Personality Disorder. These people dont wish you well; they dont acknowledge anything you do that could be perceived as successful nor will they encourage you. They are terrified at the prospect of someone being happier and more successful than them. They are jealous people, to the bone. What they fail to recognize is that happiness and success are subjective and are in the eye of the beholder. But Narcissists believe the world revolves around them in a egotistical and superficial way. All they do is look for ways to ridicule you.

This one guy with whom I used to work was one of the worst cases of covert narcissism Ive ever seen. We had mutual friends, and at various gatherings I was forced to be in the same room as him. He was never invited to my parties, but he weaselled his way in. I barely spoke to the guy, but hed make fun of my voice to colleagues (in the name of jest). Hed make fun of my home and criticise elements of it. He criticised a mobile app I once made. He ridiculed my car. I once found he even ridiculed my appearance. All of this was in the name of jest. Thats what these people do; they dont confront you face to face; they pretend to be a friend. They hide and lurk in the shadows like the scum they are, and they will look to attack you from afar. Everything they do is covert bullying, but its designed to

a) be disguised,

b) ruin your reputation, and

c) encourage you to attack.

They want you to strike out. They want you to react. This gives them power. This gives them something to talk about. The truth is, these narcissists are very jealous, insecure people. They often come from broken homes, broken relationships, and are cripplingly dull individuals in constant search for supply i.e. praise and admiration. Without it, they cant cope. This particular person was like the Talented Mr. Ripley. He literally tried to copy everything I did, but in secret did everything to bring me down.

The tools I discuss in this book are tools Ive used to get my own life back. I was at rock bottom. I couldnt sleep. I couldnt think. I felt angry, vengeful, and ultimately, just helpless. I felt like every word was weighed and every move was measured. There was nowhere to go. I couldnt think of or say anything without it being scrutinized. The poison from the narcissist affected me, specifically from an ex girlfriend, and it poisoned my soul. I lost myself. I wasnt the same person any longer; my spirit had been darkened. To this day, I still feel the remnants of that time. You never forget the emotional damage; it never quite leaves you. Its there, but in this book, you will see the methods and changes I made to get my life back - to get my spirit back, to get my direction back, and to ultimately fight back against the Narcissist and Flying Monkeys (Ill explain what that is later).