Wilder - How to Sustain After Break Up

HOW TO SUSTAIN AFTER BREAK UP

Stay Calm And happy After A Break Up

RECOVER LOVE SERIES

BY

CHERYL WILDER

Copyright: Published in the United States by CHERYL WILDER

Published JUNE 2016

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L ove is deepest emotions in human that help us to make a strong bonding between a male and female. Romantic relationships are the most meaningful part of life that can fulfill our many needs, but at the same time it is not to be considered to be the only important thing in life. Failed relationship happens and we have to think it consciously as a part of life and behave accordingly. Resentments are inevitable in relationships. It's absolutely difficult to find out the human being whose interest, habit and preferences all align with yours. It is normal that each of us have differing values in life and have different ways of looking at the world, and we want different things from each other. Such differences come up from our temperaments, our belief systems and the atmosphere where we live and grow. At some point of time nearly everyone experiences the pain and sorrow of a breakup of an important relationship.

Intense feeling of sadness and melancholy are the common reactions during the end of a relationship. But life is not small and there are many ways that can control you and motivate you to start a new meaningful and satisfied life after break up. We here are trying to discuss all those challenges and their solutions that surely help one to think of their life positively even after the breakup of a romantic relationship.

A research team recently polled over 2000 men and women separately where they wanted to know the reason behind their break up and interestingly some of the results were common while some others are really amazing for us. However the main objective of the research to give the proper information on the common cause that can prevent their break up of relationship and strengthen their bonding and make it longer. 39.7% said that they just fall in love with someone else, 36.6%, said that their partners cheated, 29.3% said that partners lied about something and they could not bear anymore, 29.1% were always fighting and after that they decided not to stay together, 21.1 %, said that the partner stopped behaving sweet and romantic as previous days, 20.6% said that the partner was not ambitious towards career, 20.2% said that the partner moved away, 18.9% said that the partner was not able to adjust with his or her family and 15.7% were separated as they were not satisfied regarding sex. So, the research results show that the reasons may be different but the basic thing remain same, i.e. a trouble in keeping tow people together. Hence, the inevitable outcome is the break up.

Your partner starts ignoring you either physically or emotionally.

Distance and cold behavior, either physically or emotionally towards your partner is a major cause of break up. Physical distancing has come into the forefront when your partner gives less and less time for you and gradually after either of you or your partner are avoiding each other and not behave or doing together the things which you earlier did. Emotional distance creation is more subtle and much strong indicator that the relationship is now moving towards the end of the road. In this situation your partner communicates with cool and unwilling way and showing not to give importance to you and avoid in discussing any future plans.

Your partner intentionally makes changes in daily routine to avoid you

It is generally observed that your partner has rearranged his or her daily routine in order to avoid you and spend more time in office or get involved in some other tasks at the time of troubled relationships. At this time your partner is spending lots of times with new friends, spending more times with party boys and then it is an alarming situation of your relationship.

Notice the changes in the frequency of your confrontation

Constant fighting does not make any sense, but do not be delighted when you notice that your partner suddenly stopped arguing. At the time of the troubled relationship, it has been predicted that partner wants to minimize his or her emotional touches gradually by eliminating direct confrontation. At this time your partner is completely frustrated with you and no longer interested in caring you. However the exact opposite interaction can also be a warning situation where your partner suddenly makes a tremendous fight and pressure you and blow up on you for as such no reason and this trying to make an excuse to leave the relationship.

Stop and avoid physical intimacy gradually

Everyone should believe that physical intimacy is the most powerful way to sustain and maintain our relationship. When your partner starts creating physical distances to the next level, gradually disappears the cuddling, massage, foreplay, etc. It acts like a big crack in your relationship that makes it hard to proceed in future. It is also quite normal that bedroom routine of your partner might change due to numerous reasons, but if you find that your partner has stopped making advances altogether and are rather trying to avoid you, then it is a sign of losing interest in you which is difficult to change.

So, now we know the signs which can make us understand that the relationship is probably moving towards the end.

These are some common mistakes that we generally commit and escort our relationships towards breakup.

Misunderstanding of True love and Simple Attraction

Sometimes we fail to predict the actual love at the time of growing relation with the other. Sometimes we do not differentiate love and attraction. It needs to be understood that there is plenty of reason to be attracted towards a person but love is completely different from that. Attraction comes in a flash of a second and disappears just like that where as true love does not care for all these things. So it is one of the common factors of break up by choosing a wrong partner.