Jordanna Levin - Higher Love: Everything you need to manifest more love in your life

The quest for love is not an adventure I had intended to be on for almost two decades. When I was 16, and fittingly sweet, I envisaged putting a ring on it by age 23, a baby in it by age 26 and weaving a love story through it to last a lifetime. Instead, I found myself strapped into a drama-fuelled love roller-coaster at 17 and struggling to find the let-me-off-this-thing eject button.

Ive been lucky to have experienced young love, big love, messy love and convenient love. Ive been through bouts where Ive dated frequently or infrequently, and Ive also been through dry spells that have lasted three years. Ive wined and dined with male versions of myself, my parents and been-there-done-that ex-lovers. Ive been swept up by romance, side-swiped by swagger and sorely disappointed when a relationship doesnt meet its potential.

Although dating can be so fun, it can also be fraught and, in too many cases, fatally flawed. We become so consumed with impressing, dazzling and being so incredibly sparkly to distract our potential suitor from our many, many flawsand all the while theyre doing the same.

Dating, if were not doing it consciouslywith an eye on our values and what we truly desirecan be something we throw ourselves into with little clarity about the depth, surrounding waters and our ability to stay afloat. And then, before we know it, were in the middle of the sea with nothing but a self-inflated life vest, a whistle and none of the many fish in said sea that everyone assured you were swimming just below the surface.

What if I were to tell you dating doesnt have to be like this? That there is a way to do it differentlya way that has nothing to do with playing games or remembering one-liners, and absolutely zero to do with the length of your lashes or how fiercely you bat them.

What if the only thing needed for dating with more success was you; but not the insecure, dying-for-validation needy version of you, but rather the I am empowered, standing in my truth, know my values and am in full alignment version of you?

It all comes down to strengthening your personal vibration. You know what a strong vibration attracts? Everything that is in your highest interest, including the love youre longing to create, that you deserve and that you are oh so worthy of.

Consider this your all-access pass to a higher love.

Before you even contemplate dipping your toe in the dating pool (theres no actual pool, FYI, so no risk of actual drowning), its imperative that you are vibrating at your strongest, most authentic frequency. If youve automatically envisaged yourself pulsating down the street like a life-sized vibrator, let me stop you right there! Your vibration is your energetic make-up. Its what creates your personal energy, and, in terms of manifestation, its what attracts things into your magnetic field. Dating aside, a healthy, vibrant and radiant personal vibration has the ability to attract incredible, advantageous and seemingly miraculous opportunities, experiences, and yes, people, into your orbit.

I feel youre eager to move forward, love magnet and all that, but before we do, let me catch you up on the concept of manifestation, because its an important piece of the dating puzzle that Im going to help you master.

Manifestation, for the uninitiated, is basically the process through which you take ownership of your future and the life that you want to create for yourself. Although this is not a book about manifestation (I already wrote that one), manifestion will come up a lot, because if creating a healthy, nourishing and love-fuelled relationship is your end goal, then YOU are the one who is going to have to Make It Happen (title of said manifestation book, if youre in the market. No pressure).

The manifestation formula that I teach, aka the Manifestation Equation, is based on four universal laws: the Law of Attraction, the Law of Vibration, the Law of Action and the Law of Rhythms, and youll notice that these come up throughout this book in no particular order.

The Manifestation Equation looks like this:

Thoughts + Feelings + Actions + Faith = Manifestation

Only when all four parts of the equation are working together in unison is successful manifestation possible. In this chapter were going to pay particular attention to our feelings because this is what forms our frequency (more on this in a minute). But having a broad overview of the equation and its role in creating the things in your life you desirea hot date/life partner/summer fling/soulmatewill help you understand why your personal vibration is so important.

Thoughts (Law of Attraction)

Thoughts are based on the Law of Attraction, the most recognised of the universal laws, which states that like attracts like. Basically, positive thoughts create a positive outcome and negative thoughts create a negative outcome, and while this is so very, very true, thoughts alone are not enough to make a significant impact on our manifestations (mainly because 85 per cent of our thoughts arent even flippin true). Think of all the untruths you tell yourself about relationships: Ill never meet someone. All the good ones are taken. No one will ever love me. Or the classic, Im going to die alone. We seem to get more and more dramatic the more we allow ourselves to get carried away by our thoughts. And while these thoughts alone are not enough to ensure our destiny as a hermit, they are enough to put blockades and obstacles in our path. To give our thoughts a little juice, we need to be able to place feelings behind them.

Feelings (Law of Vibration)

Feelings are based on the Law of Vibration, a universal law that states that everything in the universe vibrates on its own frequency, and things with a similar frequency are drawn together. We are going to be working with this particular law throughout the first two parts of this book. Our feelings are what primarily impact our vibrational frequency, and by concentrating on how we want to feel within ourselves and, ultimately, within a new relationship, we can cultivate the vibrations needed to attract that very thing into our lives. In the context of dating, were talking about that feeling when you really vibe with someone. You know the one: sparks fly, you feel at easesexy even. The conversation flows, banter is strong and yeah, most of the time its unexplainable. This is commonly referred to as chemistryI like to call it the Law of Vibration in action. But, before we start focusing on the vibrations of others, it is beyond important that we fine-tune our own.

Actions (Law of Action)

The most practical of the universal laws is the Law of Action, which states that you must do the things and perform the actions necessary to achieve what you are setting out to do. Want to meet someone to start a beautiful, soulful and passionate relationship with? Well, what are you gonna do about it? Part Three of this book will put you to work, so if youre looking to meet someone, then Im going to ask you to actually go out and physically date people. (I know, revolutionary!) Youll go beyond writing down a list of traits youre looking for in a partner or creating a vision board of your dream engagement; youll do more than simply repeat affirmations of love and high vibrations. Youll actually go out into the world and date people, only differently from how you may have done so in the past.

Faith (Law of Rhythm)

When it comes to dating and relationships, faith is a huge component. Faith in yourself, faith in the other person and faith that everything is happening exactly how it shouldno amount of pushing, pleading, needing or smothering is going to speed the process up. When it comes to love, relationships and the making of the babies, women, especially, place very strict timelines on themselves. And sure, I get it, biological clocks and all that, but at some point, youre going to need to trust in the timing of your life. It can be a tough pill to swallow for some, but once you do, energetically, youre actually creating a clear and unadulterated path so love can waltz on in.