Contents
Introduction
Premature ejaculation may be funny when you see it depicted in movies or when someone is questioning someone elses manhood on that trashy daytime TV show. However, when the problem happens to youand you realize you have problems making your lover happyits suddenly very serious business.
Premature ejaculation can affect your confidence, your sexual enjoyment and perhaps even strain your relationship or dating life. Seeking help for the problem is the right idea and choosing our guide as a permanent solution is a step in the right direction.
You have probably seen all sorts of supplements, drugs and toys advertised out there that promise quick relief. Many of you have tried these products and they are either inconvenient, dont work or are only short-term solutionsnot permanent fixes.
I want you to know that I have experienced PE in the past, and have found it embarrassing, uncomfortable and soul destroying. I know how you feel. Sometimes you just want to avoid sex altogether because of how it makes you feel afterwards.
Well, I am happy to say that I, being an average guy, have overcome PE and feel happy, confident and complete. And yes, just in case youre wondering my lady has no complaints either.
In this book, I am going to teach you the techniques that helped me to overcome it. This is not going to be a long process but a short and to the point discussion on the stuff that really works. By the end of this abbreviated training course, YOU too will get on with living your life and will feel happy, confident and content.
The only way to permanently rid yourself of premature ejaculation is to study the problem, discover the science behind it, and then train your body to resist and to overcome the challenge. This book will discuss ways to control ejaculation by the way of mental control, visualization and masturbation techniques.
Its not easy, but if you really want to learn how to overcome this common problem it will take a diligent effort. The first few chapters cover how to become familiar with your bodys responses and then what to do to gain the advantage mentally and physically. Learning how to tolerate and react to sexual sensations is the key. You will learn what to do and how to automatically train your body to respond.
Before we begin, I want to stress that consistency is another important factor. You cant cure this problem overnight. This is a one to eight week training course thats going to spare your body from the instability of Viagra and all those erection health supplements that could be a health risk.
Its time for you to be a man and gain power over your own body! Lets begin
Chapter 1
What is Premature Ejaculation
Before we discuss all that man hardware lets first talk about the importance of having a positive outlook. This is required no matter what type of problem youre solving; whether its changing a tire, getting a job promotion, stopping yourself from swearing out in public...or controlling your ejaculation.
The fear and anxiety you feel, and the negative thoughts that soak into your mind, are only going to make more problems for you. So instead of thinking of PE as a serious problem, lets start viewing it in a more positive light from this chapter and onward.
Its not a problemits an opportunity that you have to better yourself as a man, as a lover, and as an intelligent, discerning mind. Youre no longer going to let fear or negativity control you.
Becoming a longer-lasting lover is your new goal and youre taking this new goal seriously, just as you would take a job search very seriously. Any goal requires personal determination, discipline and consistency for days, weeks and months on end.
You must be confident and committed. So at the very least, read through to the end of this book. Then read it again, this time taking notes. The extra effort you put into this learning mission you will get back in results.
For starters, lets discuss what premature ejaculation really means.
A Clinical View
Premature ejaculation is not so cut and dry a term to define. After all, there is no official time and score in sex like there is in basketball. Most scientific authorities describe premature ejaculation as Ejaculation during the early stages of sexual excitement.
However, who decides how early is too early? What one man thinks of as amazing staying power might seem to another man to be weak. What one woman thinks of as a long session in bed, another woman might consider much too short.
The agreed upon definition is coming too quickly, orgasming and ejaculating before you or your lover are ready to stop. For many men, this point of no return happens shortly after the penis is put it into the vagina.
It is believed that anywhere from twenty to forty percent of the male population suffer from PE at some stage in their lives, and you have to believe that an even higher percentage lies about their sexual stamina or lack thereof.
PE is not a habit you want to keepbut at the same time, it shouldnt be your secret shame, or something that you want to hide. While some men do go to the doctor for this issue, the chance that something is medically wrong with you is pretty low. This is usually a learned behavior, and its something that a lot of guys probably suffer fromand yet very few admit to it.
So at least you have the honesty to say, OkayI have this problem. Tell me how to overcome it. With this attitude, you WILL overcome PE and you will instantly be a better and smarter lover than the many guys who just jump into bed without a clue.
A Lovers Point of View
While some people try to say PE is not being able to last five minutes or less than 500 strokes, there is no standards that measure this. PE is simply you being unable to satisfy a specific woman. After all, if your lover has no complaints then is there really a problem? Of course, on average, women do tend to take longer than five or even ten minutes to orgasm. Some women take 15 minutes, some women could take an hour!
The first step is figuring out how long your lover wants to go, how long she wants penetration, and what you can do to please her. Of course you also have to realize that many (if not most women) will not orgasm on vaginal penetration alone. So its not simply a matter of doing 1,000 strokes and demanding your girl orgasm already! You have to learn her wants and needs, how she likes foreplay and direct pressure, and then figure out a way to lasts just as long as she wants.
PE is largely based on perception, your choice of lover, and your choice of night. (Yes, contrary to what youve heard, anyone can have a bad nightsex is not mechanical in the slightest)
Why its Important to Seek Help
And no, PE is not a life-threatening condition, so though it may affect your ability to prolong your lifeblood, assuming you have to keep a lover interested in you in order to procreate!
One major problem is that guys avoid seeking help for PE out of embarrassment. They either dont know they have a problem or are too prideful to look up remedies. This quickly earns them the reputation of being a bad or weak lover, with their girlfriend(s). The guy is too sensitive to take criticism and ends up breaking up the relationship out of spite. The more often a guy does this, the less likely he is to actually learn how to be a better lover.
If you never admit there is a problem, you will never seek help. And the longer you go having sex or masturbating without learning how to control yourself, the more difficult the problem will be to fix later on. Indeed, there are forty-year-olds that are forced to see a sex therapist to help them overcome severe cases of PE. When it comes to sex, the sooner the bettercant we all agree on that?