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Praise for KISS YOUR FIGHTS good-bye

Dr. Turndorf has relationships figured out. If you
want a great relationship, you must follow her
ten-step method for lasting love.

Jack Canfield, multiple New York Times
best-selling author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul
series and contributor to The Secret, with more
than 500 million books in print

If anger and fighting are ruining your dream
of a happy marriage (or relationship), Dr. Turndorfs
conflict-resolution program is for you.

John Gray, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

This well-researched book offers a thorough,
step-by-step program that provides tools for couples
to heal even the most troubled relationships.

Dr. John Mack, Pulitzer Prizewinning author and
former professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School

This book is mandatory reading for every couple
that wants to build lasting love.

John Bradshaw, author of the #1 New York Times
bestseller Homecoming

ALSO BY DR. JAMIE TURNDORF

Love Never Dies: How to Reconnect and Make Peace
with the Deceased (available July 2014)

Make Up Dont Break Up: Dr. Loves Five-Step
Plan for Reconciling with Your Ex

The Pleasure of Your Company: A Socio-Psychological
Analysis of Modern Sociability (with Emile Jean Pin)

Available from Hay House

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Copyright 2014 by Jamie Turndorf

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Cover design: Karla Baker Interior design: Tricia Breidenthal

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced by any mechanical, photographic, or electronic process, or in the form of a phonographic recording; nor may it be stored in a retrieval system, transmitted, or otherwise be copied for public or private useother than for fair use as brief quotations embodied in articles and reviewswithout prior written permission of the publisher.

The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being. In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, the author and the publisher assume no responsibility for your actions.

An earlier edition of this book was published under the title Till Death Do Us Part (Unless I Kill You First). ISBN: 978-0-8050-6112-3.

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Turndorf, Jamie.

Kiss your fights good-bye : Dr. Loves 10 simple steps to cooling conflict and rekindling your relationship / Jamie Turndorf.

pages cm

Includes bibliographical references.

ISBN 978-1-4019-4533-6 (pbk.)

1. Marital conflict. 2. Man-woman relationships. 3. Interpersonal relations- Psychological aspects. 4. Interpersonal relations. 5. Intimacy (Psychology) I. Title.

HQ734.T9128 2014
306.872--dc23

2013033293

Tradepaper ISBN: 978-1-4019-4533-6

17 16 15 14 4 3 2 1
1st edition, January 2014

Printed in the United States of America

To Jean Pin, my husband
of nearly 30 years, who faithfully
stood beside me through lifes ups and
downs. Your love, level of acceptance,
and ongoing devotion to our
relationship are the greatest
gifts of my life.

A woman died and appeared before Saint Peter at the gates of heaven.

What must I do to enter heaven? the woman asked.

Saint Peter replied, Very simple. You need only spell one word: love.

Thats easy! L-o-v-e.

With that, the pearly gates parted and she entered heaven.

Saint Peter then said, Listen, I have to visit the mens room. Would you watch the gates for me? And remember, if anyone wants to enter, make sure that he or she spells the word.

Saint Peter left, and one minute later, the womans husband appeared at the gate.

What are you doing here? the woman asked.

He replied, I was so bereft when you died that I died instantly. What do I need to do to get in?

The woman replied, Its simple. You just need to spell one word.

Whats the word? he asked.

Czechoslovakia.

While this book is designed to help husbands and wives resolve chronic fighting, the principles and techniques presented can be applied to unmarried and gay couples, as well as to relationships between parents and children, siblings, and friends.

I also want to make you aware that the generalizations I make about male/female behavior are based upon statistical tendencies. This means that, according to statistical data, a certain behavior is most often displayed by a specific gender. For example, more women than men are emotionally expressive. Dont be surprised if you find that certain generalizations dont fit your particular circumstance. In fact, you may note that your experience is the opposite of a statistical finding. No problem. If you need to reverse the gender in order for my remarks to fit, thats fine. In any case, you will find that the techniques for resolving your conflicts still apply.