Nick Andrews - Get In Her Mind, Get In Her Bed

GET IN HER MIND

GET IN HER BED

Taylor Ryan

Nick Andrews

www.GetInHerMind.com

Email: Mailbag@GetInHerMind.com

Nick Andrews: NickAndrews@GetInHerMind.com

Taylor Ryan: TaylorRyan@GetInHerMind.com

Copyright 2008 by Brownfish Publishing

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LCCN 2008929162

Acknowledgements

Nick: This is for all the girls I was too scared to ever make a move on.

Taylor: And for all the girls I did make a move on.

Table of Contents

Introduction to Body Language

Eye Contact

On my move across the country, I had an amazing encounter, at a rest stop no less, and it all started with a little glance. As I was coming out of the bathroom, I saw a girl sitting in a van. She was in the drivers seat, the passenger seat was empty, and two children were in the back. When I walked by her vehicle I glanced in her direction and saw her looking at me. I looked back and continued to hold eye contact. She held eye contact as well, and gave me a little smile. As I drove off she looked at me again. Now I was thinking that was kind of interesting and what a weird place for this to happen. A while down the road she passed me and I realized it was her other that she was waiting for. At this point I was pissed at myself for letting this opportunity go. I decided I was going to redeem myself. Being that there were two women and two little children in the car I knew it wouldn't be long until they made another stop. Sure enough about ten miles down the road they pulled off at the next rest area; I followed. When I got out, I was again met with her adoring eyes. I asked her, "Are you following me?" She laughed and we started talking. Within a few minutes I found out that she was actually staying at a campground nearby. Under normal circumstances I would have continued driving for at least another eight hours, but I wasn't going to pass this up. I was actually curious to see how far I could take things with her. I followed them to their campsite, ate hot dogs with her and her family, and we ended up spending most of the night together. As for my curiosity, I was rewarded. It took most of the tools in my pick up skill set, but like many girls before, she too ended up in my bed. It all started with a little look.

The single most important aspect of being good with women, picking up girls, is eye contact. The concepts you will learn in this book all center around eye contact and the signals women give. Why is eye contact so important? It is how we know a woman is interested. Anything and everything you do in interacting with women is directly related to body language and eye contact. Eye contact with any woman will tell you everything you need to know.

All body language is important, but eye contact and maybe a little smile will tell you what you really want to know. It tells you, Im interested in you and Im available. In the game of pick up thats all you really need to know. Now of course, you will use body language to do a variety of things: get her interested in you, create and continue to build sexual chemistry, skew an interaction in your favor to get what you want, all done with body language, but her eyes are what are telling you, Im interested and Im available. If you want to be good with women, this is the foundation to build your game upon.

Situation: You are terrible with women. You are standing around a bar table with a couple of friends when you noticed a hot ass girl across the room. I mean gorgeous. She walks up to you and says, "There is something about you, I'm not sure what it is but I'd really like to get to know you. Im not dating anyone at the moment. Would you like to go someplace quiet and get to know each other?" You go off in the corner with your future girlfriend or potential bed buddy while your friends wonder how the hell you just pulled this girl. She appears to be way out of your league, but somehow, you, this guy who knows nothing about women, just pulled the best looking girl in the bar.

That would be great if that is how it worked with women wouldn't it? They come up to you and tell you exactly how they feel. Well that is exactly how it works. She tells you those things with her eyes, with her legs, with her arms, and with her body movements. She is sending out signals with her body language. When you catch a glance from across the room and she holds eye contact she is saying, Im attracted to you, Im available, I want you to talk to me! You can reassure that signal by dropping a little smile on her. If she smiles back she has just told you, "I am interested in you, come over here and talk to me so we can get to know each other."

In face to face conversation, the words you say only account for ten percent of the total message. Thirty percent is vocal, describing your tone of voice and inflection. The rest of the message is nonverbal. Sixty percent of what you say is done through non verbal communication; body language. As hard as you try to hide your feelings towards a person, your body language will betray you and tell the world how you really feel.

Yes, it would be nice if that beautiful blonde across the room would approach you. In our society, that just doesn't happen. It's not socially acceptable for a woman to approach a man. Ultimately it is up to the guy to make the first move, but in reality a woman will have already given over a dozen signals before most guys make their first move. Women send out these signals to attract guys they are interested in, but are able to save face by avoiding public rejection. If a guy turns down her signal of advance, there was no harm done, she was not on public display. She does not have to take that walk of shame back to her seat after getting the cold shoulder. She leaves that up to the guy, if he is interested he will pick up on her signals and come talk to her, he takes all the risk and embarrassment. The problem is, most guys dont know what to look for. Most guys don't pick up on those signals of advance she is sending.

Another problem can occur at this point. The fear of rejection sinks in. You read the signs but your lack of confidence is holding you back. You start to ask yourself, "Is she really interested, what if I go over there and she ignores me, what if I misread the signs, what if I cant think of anything to say?" Yeah, what if? What if you grew a pair of balls, and instead of asking yourself all of those questions, you wasted no time worrying and just approached her? Well then you might find yourself in her bed at the end of the night. The guy who is too afraid of rejection will never make the move to go talk to that girl. He will continue to struggle with women and never find the one that he wants. What if there was a way to be certain that this would not happen. By learning the signals that women give to men, we can increase our chances so much, that rejection becomes a non issue. The single most important aspect of being able to pick up signals is eye contact. It is how we know a woman is interested. Eye contact with any woman will tell you everything you need to know. Here are some things to look for:

The Extended Gaze

Anytime you lock eyes with a woman it is a good thing, it shows you are interested. If she is interested in you she will lock eyes and hold her gaze for a second or two longer than what would be considered a normal glance. Once you catch her gaze narrow your eyes, and I do mean narrow, not squinting or some other dumb ass eye movement. Narrow your eyes and hold eye contact. Holding eye contact or a gaze is different than starring. You dont want to find yourself starring at a woman. If you wait too long to approach her, you can get trapped into starring at a woman the rest of the night. What happens is you continually try to reinforce the fact that she is interested in you and you make eye contact over and over again. After three or four times she begins to lose interest until she is no longer interested. Once you get that initial eye contact approach her.