Lillian Glass - The Body Language of Liars: From Little White Lies to Pathological Deception - How to See through the Fibs, Frauds, and Falsehoods People Tell You Every Day [

THE BODY LANGUAGE OF LIARS

FROM LITTLE WHITE LIES TO PATHOLOGICAL DECEPTION

How to See Through the Fibs, Frauds, and
Falsehoods People Tell You Every Day

LILLIAN GLASS, PHD
Best-selling author of Toxic People

Copyright 2014 by Lillian Glass

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To anyone who has ever felt shock, emotional pain, or heartache after discovering that someone whom you trusted with all your heart, lied to you.

May the pages of this book give you all of the information you will ever need to quickly decipher and unveil who is real and who is phony, who is telling you the truth and who is lying to you.

May what you learn in this book provide you with peace of mind, less stress, and more confidence in your life.

I would like to acknowledge my two precious musesmy beautiful, brilliant, and charismatic mom, Rosalee Glass (Miss Congeniality), and my precious, cuddly, incredibly smart baby goldendoodle, Annabella Glass, both of whom always make me smile and count my blessings. Thank you for making my writing breaks fun.

And thank you to my dear literary agent, Paula Munier; to Career Press; and to Jennifer White at Splash News and Mary Velasco at Getty Images, for their assistance in the use of the celebrity photos throughout this book.

Being fooled, conned, duped, or just plain lied to can happen to anyone. It doesnt matter how smart, old, rich, or famous you are. Almost everyone at one point in their life, and in one way or another, has been the victim of a liarsomeone who has withheld the truth or given them false information. Whether you have been unfortunate enough to have met up with someone who has scammed you in business; swindled you out of money; betrayed you by spreading falsehoods; stolen your lover, husband, or wife; conned you over the Internet, or catfished you by purporting to be someone they were notrest assured that you are not alone. The world is full of these most toxic of people, the liar.

When you find out that someone whom you once trusted, loved, or respected deceived you, a myriad of strong emotions can arise. These emotions range from feeling shocked, hurt, depressed, sad, and/or angrysometimes all of them at once. You wonder whom you can really trust or whether you can ever trust again. You even tend to question your own judgment. You may even beat yourself up emotionally as you constantly ask yourself why you didnt see the signs of their lies well ahead of time.

But realistically speaking, how could you have seen the signs if you didnt know what signs to look for?

How could you have known that your spouse was cheating on you, that a suitor you met over the internet was a phony, that your housekeeper was stealing from you, or that your babysitter was neglecting (or worse, abusing) your child? How could you have known that your boss was full of it when he said your performance was great, only to fire you the next day? How could you have possibly known that your coworker was badmouthing you behind your back, or that your employee was bilking funds from the petty cash? How could you have been able to tell that your closest friend was being insincere when she told you that marrying your troubled boyfriend was a great idea? What signals did you miss when your son swore he never experimented with drugs, only to find his bong and a stash of pot under his bed later?

How do you know whether you can trust what you read in the media about certain newsmakers? Is that celebrity couple really in love, or is their relationship merely a PR ploy? How can you be sure your political leaders are telling you the truth, or that those on the world stage arent really lying to you?

Researcher and pioneer in the field of lying Paul Ekman of the University of California San Francisco studied 12,000 people. He discovered that only a little more than 50 percent of them were able to tell if someone was lying. Thus the odds of being able to figure out whether someone is lying to you are not great. However, these odds can increase dramatically when you know how to read certain signals that will alert you to the fact that someone is not telling the truth. My aim in writing this book is to help you increase those odds. I will teach you how to trust your instincts when you have that gut feeling that someone is lying to you. More specifically, I will show you what to look for in terms of possible signals of deception in a persons body language, facial language (expressions and movements), voice patterns, and finally, their speech patternshow they say what they say and even what they write over the Internet.

As a body language analyst, I have been able to report the deception of newsmakerspoliticians, sports figures, world leaders, celebrities, and criminals who appear throughout the media. I have done this for years. I have appeared often on various national television shows such as 20/20, Dr. Phil, Entertainment Tonight, ABC News, Good Morning America, CNN, The Today Show, The Insider, HLN, Discovery Channel, MSNBC, and many other programs too numerous to list here. I was even the body language expert for Dancing With the Stars and Millionaire Matchmaker.

In addition, I regularly appear in newspapers, magazines, and all over the Internet, where I comment on whether I think newsmakers are lying or telling the truth. I explore whether celebrity couples are telling the truth about their relationship or just presenting it as a public relations opportunity. As well, I examine whether politicians or world leaders are telling us the truth, or merely reciting some not-very-heartfelt rhetoric. I am constantly asked by the media to examine the body language of those involved in high-profile criminal cases, and whether I think suspects are exhibiting signals of deception or telling the truth. Additionally, I report on whether those newsmakers involved in humiliating public scandals are telling us the truth or lying through their teeth.