James Bassil - The Guy’s Guide to Romance: The 11 Rules for Finding a Woman and Making Her Happy

F or all the differences that exist between the gendersand there are plentymen and women are still united in one common pursuit: that of each other. Every guy is looking for that special woman, and every woman is looking for that special guyso youd think that wed all have an easy time getting together. As most of us learn the hard way, however, securing a great and satisfying romantic relationship is anything but easy. In fact, its bloody hard work.

For men, a great deal of this difficulty is navigational. Lacking the instinct for relationships and the natural propensity for analyzing them that women have, most of us guys dont even know which romantic approaches are the right ones. Even those of us with great dating track records arent sure how we accumulated them. Initial meetings seemed the product of coincidence or luck, maintenance a question of reaction, and the final demise an inevitability. With few lessons learned, the transition to the next relationship can feel like another stumble and flounder-about, rather than a successfully managed operation.

Of course, relationships arent clinical affairs that can be micromanaged; theyre evolving, ever-changing entities. But there are certain consistent rules and patterns that underlie all of them, and an understanding of these forces can help transform your actions in a partnership from guesswork to well-informed strategy. Approaching a relationship in this seemingly calculating manner may seem cold, but its simply a matter of making the best of a good thing.

Every mans first step in embarking on the successful pursuit of romance is accepting this imperative of taking action and informing oneselfyouve already acknowledged as much by picking up this book. From here, well take you through all steps of a successful relationship, starting with the precursor to it: meeting her. After summarizing the key points of the pickup and pursuit stage (which we covered in detail in a previous book, From the Bar to the Bedroom ), well take you through the coordination and execution of perfect dates, how to evaluate your compatibility, how to meet her friends, and how to manage the transition into a long-term relationship. Then well plunge into the meatier relationship issues: handling arguments and jealousy issues, meeting her family, moving in together, and planning out and pursuing a future together.

Every new romantic relationship carries with it the potential to develop into one of the most valuable elements of a mans life. Lets give your next one the chance to fulfill its potential by taking you through our crash course, The Guys Guide to Romance .

B efore any romance can blossom, there has to be an initial meeting, and before there can be an initial meeting, there has to be a guy willing to step up and initiate contactand that guy is you. Is it possible that shell be the one to pick you up? Sure, anythings possible, but its not likely. And while youre sitting around waiting for it to happen, plenty of other guys will be making their moves, and plenty of happy coupledoms will be emerging for it.

Like it or not, it still falls on the man to initiate the pursuit, and that isnt likely to change anytime soon. Rather than lamenting this fact, its time to adapt to it. Begin by conquering that fear that inhibits so many men from approaching women: the fear of rejection.

Your main weapon is always the art of adaptation. Before moving in, assess whether the scenario involves a hot or a cold pickup.

Hot situations occur when shes noticed you and has given you that come hither signal (either via eye contact, a sexy flip of her hair, or one of those shy smiles).

Cold situations, on the other hand, happen when there hasnt been any previous flirting. This scenario can prove to be more difficult, as youre never sure if she is, or will be, interested.