J.S. Salt - How to Be the Almost Perfect Wife: By Husbands Who Know

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Special books, or book excerpts, can also be created to fit specific needs. ISBN: 978-1-931657-14-3 These are my principles.
If you don't like them, I have others.GROUCHO MARXIntroduction Why dont husbands like to open up and share their feelings? Because theyre men. This book, in fact, took two years of begging nearly one thousand men. Talk with me, please. Let me know what you need from your wives. Which is why this book came to beso wives could learn what their husbands crave; and husbands, at the very least, could point and say: See, thats what I need. Just like this guy says on page _____. Guaranteed.

The book you now hold in your hands will serve as a catalyst for conversation, leading you and your spouse to better understandingand a better marriage. Or give this insiders guide, and its companion volume, How to Be the Almost Perfect HusbandBy Wives Who Know, to a couple thats about to get married. These small but important books will surely improve any union or marriage. Theyve even improved my own marriage. (And it was pretty good before the books.) Support Believe in me,
believe in me,
believe in me. A LAN , 29
married 1 day Be my cheerleader.

Believe that I have the talent to achieve my dreams, even if it takes longer than I ever imagined. E D , 47
married 25 years Help me be a hero to my kids. Speak well of me and the good things that I do. Dont only speak about my shortcomings. N ORMAN , 67
divorced after 22 years Just as I tell our kids, I love you and Im proud of you, I need to hear the same from you: That you love me and youre proud of as a husband and a dad. A LEX , 37
married 12 years When you tell me youre proud of me it gives me a boostespecially when Im beating myself up, mad at myself for not being Bill Gates.

J OEL , 47
married 5 years A husband needs constant words of admiration and respect. He can get some of that at work and from others, but he craves it most from his wife. D AVE , 39
married 1 day Respect your husband. Despite all his faults (which you know better than anyone else), let him know often that you think he is great and that you admire him. D AVID , 49
married 26 years Copy my Wife. She has put up with my crotchety ways for 50 years and acted like she enjoyed it.

She doesnt always agree with me or care for some of the things I do, but she makes it clear that she always loves me. And thats pretty good. P ATRICK , 71
married 50 years Be my advocate, be on my side. If you think Im wrong, try to guide me to where you think I should be. Dont beat me up and drag me there. C HARLIE , 28
married 11 years Empower your husband to make the best choice or decision, then walk away from the situation.

To constantly repeat is perceived as nagging. R HONNE , 46
married 12 years Keep telling me when I screw up, but do it quietly, matter-of-factly, lovingly, and when were alone. B ILL , 69
2nd marriage of 23 years Know when to push and when to ease off. A NDY , 37
married 3 years When I am self critical is not the time to heap it on. R ICK , 55
married 20 years When Im telling a story dont interrupt me by correcting every little detail. The facts arent whats important. What is important is supporting me and making me look goodnot like some fool who cant get his facts straight! M IKE , 48
2nd marriage of 6 years Listen to my stories, even if you find them boring.

Theyre not boring to me so I must be telling them to you for a reason. M ICHAEL , 27
married 5 years Listen attentively to your husbands dreams and aspirations. Even if you think theyre unreachable, humor him. Support him. Maybe even get excited with him. Your husband will love and appreciate you because you encouragedrather than discouragedhim.

Later in life, a husband wants to look at his wife and say, Honey, you were with me, Not If only" R OLLAND , 64
married 42 years Understand that dreaming is the blueprint for reality. Nurture your partners dreams. Give him the support he needs to become the person he wants to be. E DDY , 51
2nd marriage of 26 years Be a friend who is there to lend support, but still cares enough to confront me when I make a fool of myself. T ERRY , 53
2nd marriage of 23 years We dont like to ask for directions when were lost.
We dont like to ask for directions when were lost in life.
When you see Im lost, find a way to gently guide me back. K EVIN , 39
married 12 years Be patient with us: Were men.

Make us feel special: Were boys. T OBY , 33
Men are just boys who need attention and reassurance pretty much all the time. They need you to sit on their laps, kiss them for no reason and assure them that you love them. J IM , 80
married 23 and 30 years, widower Acceptance Accept your husband as the man he is, instead of wishing you could change things here and there. C HARLES , 38 Saying, Janes husband always helps with the shopping, why cant you? makes me want to say, Why didnt you marry Janes husband? A LLEN , 43
married 2 years Accept that Im not escaping to work: Im going there because I need to work. Besides, when I feel better about my work, I feel better about everything else.

E RIC Its a fact : Every husband needs at least 2 hours a week on the couch in front of the TV without having to answer any questions. Just to veg out. R AY , 39
married 7 years Respect the power of Monday Night Football. A LAN , 29
married 1 day Respect my right to sit back with a beer and enjoy the game in peace. The garbage can wait, questions can wait, and so can just about anything else. T OM , 45
married 3 years Stop trying to control and change us so much.

Were not diamonds in the roughwere men. The same men you fell in love with and married in the first place. B ILL , 47
2nd marriage of 6 months Thanks for letting me be myself, not trying to change me into some ideal you wanted most of alljust as I have not tried to change you, but accept you for what and who you are. A LAN , 74
married 55 years Every now and then, let me enjoy a cigar. Id enjoy it even more without your sly disapproval. E.G. E.G.

BULWER-LYTTON Trust my judgement without questioning everything especially on the small stuff. J OHN , 27
married 7 years Limit your criticisms to things that really matter. (And when you get impatient with your husband, dont grit your teeth but remember your love for him and truly feel it.) B EN , 81
happily married for 55 years, despite some humongous ups and downs" Treat your husband with the same degree of respect you have for your mom and dad. B ILL , 57