Behary - Disarming the narcissist: surviving & thriving with the self-absorbed

Wendy Behary, LCSW, is founder and clinical director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and a faculty member at the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York. She is also a founding fellow of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. She maintains a private practice, specializing in narcissism and couples therapy.

Foreword writer Jeffrey Young, Ph.D., is director of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York, a faculty member of the Department of Psychiatry at the Columbia University Medical Center, and founder of the International Society for Schema Therapy. He is the author of Reinventing Your Life (with Janet Klosko), and Schema Therapy (with Klosko and Marjorie Weishar).

Preface writer Daniel J. Siegel, MD, is associate clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California, Los Angeles, executive director of the Center for Human Development, and author of The Developing Mind, Parenting From The Inside Out (with Mary Hartzell), and The Mindful Brain.

Anyone whose life predicament includes dealing with a narcissist will be well-advised to read Wendy Beharys book and heed her advice. Disarming the Narcissist offers sound suggestions and keen insightsa breakthrough in one of psychologys toughest cases.

Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence

a valuable contribution to the growing self-help literature on the fascinating subject of narcissism. Behary takes the reader step-by-step through a process of understanding our personal triggers to the wounding inherent in narcissistic relations and then lays out a pathway for personal empowerment and change.

Sandy Hotchkiss, LCSW, author of Why Is It Always About You?

This is a timely and important book. Wendy Behary offers a uniquely well-articulated exploration of the complexities of living with a narcissist, conveyed in a clear and elegant writing style. Disarming the Narcissist provides a treasure of insightful observations and strategies to help those working or living with a narcissist. Beharys wisdom and warm humanity, together with her wide understanding and successful integration of interpersonal neurobiology and schema therapy, provides a fresh perspective that will help the reader make sense of relationships that often seem so confusing and give them tools to do something about it. I recommend this book heartily.

Marion F. Solomon, Ph.D., author of Narcissism and Intimacy and Lean on Me

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Copyright 2008 by Wendy Behary

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Library of Congress has cataloged the print editions as:

Behary, Wendy T.

Disarming the narcissist : surviving and thriving with the self-absorbed / Wendy T. Behary.

p. cm.

Includes bibliographical references.

ISBN-13: 978-1-57224-519-8 (pbk. : alk. paper)

ISBN-10: 1-57224-519-0 (pbk. : alk. paper)

1. Narcissism. 2. Interpersonal relations. I. Title.

BF575.N35B44 2009

158.2--dc22

2007047457

This book is dedicated to the memory of my Poppy, Norbert V. Terriea true knight, a loving and generous man, my father.