June Hunt - Bonding with Your Teen Through Boundaries

Its so hard to balance love and discipline, when our kids are making poor choices. But Bonding with Your Teen through Boundaries makes it a lot easier. With a how-to practicality, June Hunt helps parents tackle the hardest problems their kids face on the road to adulthood.

Josh McDowell, author & speaker

June Hunts clear wisdom accumulated through two decades of interactive talk radio exudes through every page of this wonderful and much-needed book. Twenty-first century teenagers are crying for the fruit of this message. The discerning parent who reads and applies the wisdom found herein will undoubtedly save their kids from hurt, tears, and potential destruction.

Joe White, President, Kanakuk Kamps

If teens are a part of your life, you now hold in your hands the real answers to the real challenges you will face. Each practical chapter spells out what you can do and what you can saynot to win a battle, but to win a relationship of mutual respect. A must read for anyone who deals with teens whether yours, or someone elses.

Marlene Wright, Probation Officer, Johnson County, Texas

Teenagers dont always make wise choices. However, as Bonding with Your Teen through Boundaries points out, wrong behavior offers their parents many opportunities to provide loving correction and guidance. Thanks to June and Jody for this practical guidebookfilled with timeless principles from Gods Wordto help navigate many of the greatest challenges parents face.

Brian S. Simmons, President, Association of Christian Schools International

As someone who has worked with teenagers for over forty years, June sets a tone in teenage discipline that I had to learn through experience. She shows us the proper balance between our God-given mandate to train our children as they grow into self-managed adults and the loving relationship we want with them. Abounding with truth, wisdom, and practicality, this is important reading for parents and anyone else who works with teenagers.

Jason Stevenson, Pastor of Student Ministries, Stonebriar Community Church

June Hunt is well qualified to address the issue of bonding with your teen through boundaries. On her radio show, Hope for the Heart, she has encouraged literally thousands of parents to become the kind of parents God wants them to be. I highly recommend this well-thought-out book to be read by every parent.

Dawson McAllister, author, speaker, & host of Dawson McAllister Live

We are grateful for the practical teaching of June Hunt. Her decades-long ministry and personal experiences make her a very qualified guide for parents of teenagers. Any who desire to keep connected to their teens as well as help them navigate their bumpy road will be grateful for June Hunt.

Steve Douglass, President, Campus Crusade for Christ International

BONDING WITH YOUR TEEN
THROUGH BOUNDARIES

Bonding with Your Teen through Boundaries

Revised edition, copyright 2010 by Hope for the Heart, Inc.

Published by Crossway
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Wheaton, Illinois 60187

Originally published by B&H, 2001.

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Cover design: Amy Bristow

First printing, 2010

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ISBN-13: 978-1-4335-1620-7
ISBN-10: 1-4335-1620-9
PDF ISBN: 978-1-4335-1626-9
Mobipocket ISBN: 978-1-4335-1627-6
ePub ISBN: 978-1-4335-1628-3

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Hunt, June.
Bonding with your teen through boundaries. Rev. ed. / June Hunt with Jody Capehart.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 978-1-4335-1620-7 (tpb)
1. Parent and teenager. 2. Parent and teenagerReligious aspectsChristianity. 3. Parenting. 4. Discipline of children. I. Capehart, Jody. II. Title.
HQ799.15.H86 2010
248.8'45dc22
2010009038

Crossway is a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.

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This book is dedicated to the delightfully endearing,
fun-filled young people in my lifemy nieces and nephews:

Ashlee, Heather, Henry, Hunter I,
Hunter II, Josh, Kathryn, Kimberly, Leah,
Lillian, Mara, Tanner, Teddy, and Travis.

My prayer is that you will always be young in spirit,
pure in heart, and right with God.

Contents

SECTION I
What Are Boundaries All About?

SECTION II
Boundaries at Home

SECTION III
Boundaries at School

SECTION IV
Personal Boundaries

SECTION V
Social Boundaries

I have deepest gratitude to the team who worked together like true Super Bowl champs.

Bonding with Your Teen through Boundaries was first released in 2001, the same week as 9/11the radical Islamic terrorist attacks on United States soil. With national attention riveted on the unfolding tragedy, efforts to promote the book would have been insensitive and unproductive. As a result, the release came... and went... largely unheralded.

Since 2001, the need for biblical, practical, relevant help for raising teenagers has grown more pressing in view of the deteriorating culture. As a result, the second edition of this book, released in 2010, offers many new chapters and thoroughly updated information throughout.

As a team, our great privilege and prayer is to help you be all that God created you to be... and to help you help others.

Barbara Spruill and Trudie Jackson presented the game plan from their years of working with teens and continued coaching until the last second of the game. Without them, there would be no book.

Robin Hardy and June Page ran with the game plan during the first half.