Sharon Hodde Miller - Nice: Why We Love to Be Liked and How God Calls Us to More

We often think about breaking free from bad habits, past hurts, or negative patterns, but what if the reason we sometimes feel hollow and stuck is because of a subtle but deceptive addiction to niceacting like we should so we can get what we want. Sharon Hodde Millers book Nice is challenging me and helping me to discover a truer way to live authentically free. Sharon is a refreshing voice full of truth and wisdom.

Lysa TerKeurst , New York Times bestselling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries

As a leader and teacher who prized niceness, Im shocked by the truth uncovered in Nice . Its simplebut trueand completely profound. Niceness has trumped honesty and crept into pulpits, cubicles, and friendships, disguised as a fruit of the Spirit. Sharon bravely prunes and removes the faux virtue and pushes us to bear real fruit.

Bianca Juarez Olthoff , pastor, teacher, and bestselling author of Play with Fire

God did not call you to be nice. Starting with this powerful truth, Sharon unpacks the false idols of our day with humility and passion. She shares how to discern truth and never be locked into the prison of nice again.

Alli Worthington , author of Fierce Faith and founder of The Blissdom Conference

Our culture is desperate for Jesuss lovehis kindness, his compassion, his crossbut we fool ourselves if we think we can replace gospel sacrifice with bland niceness. In these pages, Sharon calls out the spiritual impotence of nice Christianity and invites us into a faith that honors Christ and matters to others. This message is as timely and urgent as ever, which is why I highly recommend this book!

Dr. Derwin L. Gray , lead pastor of Transformation Church and author of Limitless Life

Im passionate about walking in the tension of truth and love, but its not always easy. Will I choose courage or compromise? Conviction or clich? Sometimes I slide into the latter easier than I think, all for the sake of being liked. Sharons new book, Nice: Why We Love to Be Liked and How God Calls Us to More , will challenge you to the core to rise up and walk in godly conviction, step into hard conversations, and test the fruit of your life. This book will give you the opportunity to bear rich, authentic, life-giving fruit that lasts.

Andi Andrew , author, speaker, pastor, and founder of She Is Free

There is a spirit of venom in our culture today that makes agreeable Christianity seem appealing and benign. Sharon has experienced this temptation in her own life, and she exposes the empty discipleship produced by a faith whose greatest ambition is to be nice. At a time when Christians swing between hair-trigger outrage and shallow likability, this is a vision we need.

Ed Stetzer , Billy Graham Distinguished Chair at Wheaton College

As I read Sharon Hodde Millers new book, Nice: Why We Love to Be Liked and How God Calls Us to More , I had two recurring thoughts. The first was Oh, my toes because Sharon lovingly and convincingly calls out the excuses and the lies that can lurk behind our niceness. The second thought, however, was Get it, Sharon Hodde Miller! because her words challenge and convict but also call us to be higher and better in our motives, our actions, and our relationships. Beautifully written, thoughtfully structured, and theologically sound, Nice will inspire personal reflection and corporate encouragement as we read and ask the Lord to help us be who we say we are and who he calls us to be.

Sophie Hudson , author of Giddy Up and Eunice and cohost of The Big Boo Cast

The title of this book, Nice: Why We Love to Be Liked and How God Calls Us to More , may evoke feelings of soft, sweet Christian living, but author Sharon Hodde Miller tackles the topic of motivation and acceptance with scholarly depth and substance. Sharon skillfully guides readers to understand how our emphasis on being nice misses Gods greater purposes of spiritual maturity and genuine transformation. Challenging and needed during this age of polarization in our nation and shallow social media soundbites, I am grateful for Sharons example, heart, and timely message found in the pages of this book.

Vivian Mabuni , speaker and author of Open Hands, Willing Heart

As an outspoken, justice-driven woman who has struggled with the word nice my whole life, I needed to read this book. Sharon Hodde Miller not only helped me wisely sort through the truth about my struggles, but she also reminded me of my gospel responsibility to choose Jesus over myself. I find Nice a must-read for every believer maneuvering the difficult road of human opinionI dare say, a struggle for us all.

Lisa Whittle , author of Word Prayers and I Want God , Bible teacher, and podcast host of Jesus Over Everything

The soul-crushing desire to be liked and accepted can manifest itself in many ways. For Sharon Hodde Miller, it was through an idol we wont likely consider on our ownthe idol of niceness. In her book Nice , Miller turns our accepted notions of niceness on their heads, challenging us to think of a better, more biblical way to engage the world and others and root out sin that keeps us from true and honest virtues. God can turn our niceness and self-focus to a grace-filled love for others, and I believe this book is a helpful tool he could use along the journey.

Trillia Newbell , author of If God Is For Us , Fear and Faith , and God s Very Good Idea

Sharon is the ideal person from whom to learn to let go of the need to be liked. Ive watched her over the years and have longed to know her secrets. Sharon possesses the ability to be kind but rejects the temptation to stop at being nice. She is a fierce voice for truth. When we let go of being liked, we grow in the unique way God made us, the passions he put in our hearts and, most of all, the integrity he instilled in us. Im grateful to have Sharon as an example and a teacher.

Hayley Morgan , author of Preach to Yourself and coauthor of Wild and Free