Fred Johnson - Longer Lasting Sex: How I Learned to Last Longer in Bed by Controlling My Arrousal

Longer Lasting Sex

How I Learned to Last Longer in Bed by Controlling my Arousal

Fred Johnson

Text copyright 2015 Fred Johnson

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This book is not intended as a substitute for the medical advice of physicians. You should consult a doctor in matters relating to your sexual health.

Table of contents

This is my personal story about how I had premature ejaculation, and the steps I took to overcome it.

I think its a pretty common story, and one that many guys can relate to. Just over a year ago I ended a relationship with a wonderful woman because of my PE issue. I was unable to properly have sex with her due to my PE, and not being able to be intimate with the person youre in a relationship with creates all sorts of problems. The feelings of shame, embarrassment, and anger created a toxic brew inside of me. Since I knew that I wouldnt be able to last, I started trying to avoid having sex with my partner. On her side, she started to feel anxious, confused and unattractive as I started to lash out to her and decline sex. There was simply no way that the relationship could work, and the only reason why it didnt work was because of my premature ejaculation.

After the relationship ended, I was determined to find out what the hell was going on. I googled everything I could find about the topic, and risked many computer viruses by clicking on questionable links. I even risked my credit card information by purchasing several products online.

I quickly came across two main problems when trying to fix my PE. The first problem is that many of the treatments or cures being sold online were extremely questionable. I am very hesitant of taking pills that supposedly help me deal with premature ejaculation. I am also very hesitant of buying creams online and applying it to my penis. Based on my spam mail, other guys must not have a problem swallowing pills or rubbing in creams on to their penis, but I personally did not want to take that chance.

The second problem that I encountered was that most of the tips for lasting longer in bed articles that I found online focused on things to do while having sex . Articles in Men's Health, Mens Fitness, and other health websites all dealt with techniques I could do to delay my ejaculation. But I wasnt having sex at the time, and more importantly, I had no confidence to have sex . During this time, I had opportunities to have sex with a new partner, but I simply did not have the confidence to do so. In addition, if I was married for 5 years, then maybe the advice of Step 1: Talk to your partner about your premature ejaculation issues would be helpful. But I definitely could not do that with a woman that i just met and having sex with for the first time.

So in the end, I was left to conduct my own research. After about 3 months of studying and researching, I found several useful sources, which I included in the Appendix page. After going through all of the blog posts, books and thinking back on my personal experience, I learned one big lesson about premature ejaculation. That lesson?

Premature ejaculation is a learned behavior. Since I learned to climax quickly, I can learn to delay my climax as well.

I learned that I was doing certain things that was contributing to my pe problems. Once I was able to identify them, I was able to retrain my body and learn how to last longer in bed. I did this without the use of pills, creams, or enrolling in courses that promised to teach me how to be a better lover.

I cover the issues that contributed to my premature ejaculation in this book. Addressing these issues and changing my behavior has led me to have more satisfying sex. Im not going to lie and try to tell you that I can last for hours at a time. What I can truthfully say is that I can now have sexual experiences that last in the 20 to 30 minute range. Im not constantly pumping for that entire time period, but Im able to have sex with my new partner and be extremely happy with my performance.

Having sex is an important aspect of any relationship. Being able to last just a bit longer has changed my entire sex experience. Im able to fully connect with my partner by looking into her eyes and being more intimate while having sex. It allows me to try more positions and to have the confidence that I wont climax if she does a new move that feels really good. By learning how to control myself, I can now be in the moment and fully enjoy the sexual experience.

I hope that my personal experience and lessons that I learned can help you as well. I am not a doctor, nor do I have any professional medical training or sex therapy expertise. Im just a guy like you who couldnt last longer than a minute while having sex.

How this book is organized:

In Chapter 1, Ill share with you my personal struggles with premature ejaculation. You may see that I probably had the same problems you are currently having.

In Chapter 2, Ill briefly share with you how I came to the realization about my premature ejaculations, and how it led me to identify the causes of it.

Chapter 3 is the heart of this book. I write about the behaviors that I was doing that led me to have PE problems. I talk about how I was training my body to climax quickly. I also include questions that you can ask yourself to see if these behaviors are contributing to your PE issues as well.

In Chapter 4, I start to talk about the techniques that I used to stop my premature ejaculation. The first step is discussed in this chapter, and its probably the most important thing you can learn in order to have longer sex sessions.

Chapter 5 builds upon the lesson of the previous chapter and I talk about how to train you body to last longer during sex.

Chapter 6 talks about porn, and how porn can both harm or help your premature ejaculation problems.

Chapter 7 brings it all to the bedroom, and I write about how to incorporate your new behavior while having sex.

The Conclusion chapter reviews the key tips of the books, while the Appendix provides a few links to websites that were helpful to me in treating my premature ejaculation issue.

Lets get started.

This was how my thoughts changed after each time I had sex with my new girlfriend:

Its the first time we had sex together. My body just isnt used to her. Itll last longer next time.

Wow, that was kind of quick again. I think I was just really horney. Ill be fine the next time.

Damn, I cummed fast again. Well, it was her fault for moaning really loud. I just got too excited.

I just wont put it in. Ill just finger her and give her oral sex. She better be happy with that.

Screw it. I dont want to even have sex with her.

As you can tell by this sample of my inner dialogue, I was first making all types of excuses for my premature ejaculation problem. At the time, I met a nice woman and was at the start of our relationship. She was attractive, and I really enjoyed spending time with her. Like any man, I wanted to have sex with her. But the first time we had sex, it was like I was a virgin again. After pumping into her a few times, suddenly all of the pressure built up in my penis and just exploded. She laughed, I laughed, and we both didnt think it was a big deal. I think we were both just happy that our relationship crossed a milestone and became sexual.

But the problem kept happening. Each time we had sex, I would be unable to last long enough for both of us to be satisfied. There was no way she was enjoying herself. We would have foreplay, and I would start fingering her. I would then go down on her, and eventually she would tell me to put it inside. I would then do a couple of pumps, and then pull out because I knew I was close to cumming.