Kevin Leman - Have a New Husband by Friday: How to Change His Attitude, Behavior & Communication in 5 Days

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About You

___Some days you ask yourself, Why do I bother to do nice things
for my husband? He doesnt even notice them.

___You wonder, Whats in it for me?

___You fear the word divorce.

___Sometimes you just dont get him.

___Sometimes you feel like a hired servant (and your pay isnt worth it).

___You wonder if he really loves you, if he really cares.

___Youre the one who always takes the initiative for anything you do as a couple.

___You feel like youre the only one holding the family together.

___Youre not sure you really needor wantyour husband anymore.

___You wonder where your knight in shining armor went.

About Your Husband

___He never (or rarely) listens to you, even when you have something important to say.

___Hes a good guy but clueless about how you really feel about anything.

___He never helps out around the house.

___When hes angry, he freezes you out.

___You ask him a question and you dont get an answer. You wonder if hes hard of hearingor just ignoring you.

___Hes singly focused on his work and other projects, and you dont seem to come into his radar.

___ He doesnt give you much respect.

___He takes you and everything you do for granted.

___He is abusive in words and/or actions.

___Hes a romantic no-show. (Flowers once a year on Valentines Day just isnt enough.)

___He treats you like a slave, at his beck and call.

___You have to remind him over and over again if theres something you want him to do.

About Your Relationship

___Sometimes you wonder, Wheres the man I dated? The man I married?

___Marriage isnt anything like what youd dreamed of, and you have to admit youre disappointed.

___ Late at night you wonder if your marriage is going to make it.

___You have active and continual conflict.

___The romance is long gone.

___Your communication could use some improvement. (Youre a little tired of talking to yourself.)

___You wish your relationship was so much more than it is.

___You wish you had a great marriage like your best friends.

___Youre the only one trying to make the marriage work.

If any of these topics resonated with you and you marked even one Y, you need to not only read this book but carry it around with you.

This book will scratch where you itch.

I promise.

Have a new husband by Friday? Is it possible?

To tell you the truth, its a scam. You can have a new husband by Wednesday if you do it right. Keep reading, and Ill show you how.

This is the miracle turnaround youre longing for.

I guarantee it.

Have a
New
Husband
by Friday

Have a
New
Husband
by Friday

How to Change His Attitude,
Behavior & Communication
in 5 Days

Dr. Kevin Leman

2009 by Kevin Leman

Published by Revell
a division of Baker Publishing Group
P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
www.revellbooks.com

Printed in the United States of America

All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any meansfor example, electronic, photocopy, recordingwithout the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Leman, Kevin.

Have a new husband by Friday : how to change his attitude, behavior & communication in 5 days / Kevin Leman.

p. cm.

Includes bibliographical references.

ISBN 978-0-8007-1912-8 (cloth)

1. MarriageReligious aspectsChristianity. I. Title.

BV835.L46 2009

646.78dc22

2009008746

ISBN 978-0-8007-3307-0 (ITPE)

To protect the privacy of those who have shared their stories with the author, some details and names have been changed.

To Mrs. Uppington, the best wife and friend I could ever have. I thank God for the day I met you (in the mens restroom), and that you said yes more than 45 years ago, in the field behind my parents home. (I always was a romantic.) I know that as a little girl you prayed to someday have a man of character. But God has a sense of humor; he decided a character would do.

What a class act you are, Mrs. Uppingtona terrific mom and a delightful woman to share life with. Its been a great ride, hasnt it? What could be better than five great kids who love us and love each other? Youve enriched not only my life with your beauty, strength, kindness, and thoughtfulness, but countless others.

With love, Leemie

Contents

Introduction
Satisfaction Guaranteed

Monday
Secrets Revealed

Tuesday
Creatures from Another Planet... or Creatures of Habit?

Wednesday
Think about What You Want to Say, Then Divide It by Ten

Thursday
Think of Him as a Seal Waiting for a Three-Pound Fish

Friday
It Takes a Real Woman to Make a Man Feel Like a Real Man

Epilogue
Its Not Easy, but Its Simple

by Dr. Kevin Leman

Who said a man doesnt need a woman? In my case, I need lots of them, including these three wonderful women:

Jessica Miles, my Revell project editor, for her keen eye and helpful contributions that make this puppy sing.

Lonnie Hull DuPont, who somehow gives her work the personal touch and still keeps up with the flurry of projects passing her desk.

Ramona Cramer Tucker, who shares my passion for helping families build solid relational foundationsand encouraging them to smile and laugh along the way.

Introduction
Satisfaction Guaranteed

Do you remember those first euphoric moments you shared with your spouse after youd become one? The dreams, the hopes, the desires that came along with that excitement? The nights you talked and cuddled in each others arms BC (before children)?

But perhaps it seems like youre dredging up ancient history by this point. Youve been married 5 years, 8 years, 17 years, or 27 years, and youve moved past euphoria and into reality (just long enough for the wedding flowers to wilt). You dont always like this guy you married. Some days he annoys you; some days he downright exasperates you. The last time you heard I love you was on Valentines Day two years ago. Youre tired of your discussions, and you often seem to be at cross purposes. You wish hed listen better, be a better daddy, and get off the couch every once in a while during football season.

You find yourself struggling to keep the marriage fresh and exciting. Youve fallen into a rut. You wonder, How did we get this way anyway? Life with the knight of your dreams has turned into boredom with no hope of reprieve. Youd like to find a little excitement again.

Or perhaps you deal day in and day out with verbally or physically abusive or controlling men. Youre beaten down, tired, and not sure if you want a new husband... at least not the one you have. Youre ready to trade your old model in for good, but youve decided to give it one last-ditch effort to see if you want to save your marriage. (Hang on. I have a special section just for you.)

So many couples settle for so little in marriage when they could have so much. Dont fall for it. The truth is, after 10, 25, or 35 years, your marriage can be as rich and full and wonderful and exciting and sensual as you can possibly imagine! I ought to know. Ive been married for over 40 yearsin a row to the same womanand were still going as strong as the Energizer Bunny.